# I was addicted to escorts - ask me anything **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 27, 2018, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295 "2018-03-27T20:37:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/81 "2018-03-29T03:03:48Z")
> [@Slash1972](#): > > What would compel a pretty young girl to clean out shitty bathrooms in a fast food restaurant for $30 or $40 or whatever other than severe desperation? Same thing. Totally. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/82 "2018-03-29T03:08:52Z")
> [@asahi](#): > > It’s not my thing, but if it gave the OP satisfaction, who am I to judge? Sounds like his marriage was already dead and this was just getting on to the next phase in his life. Sounds like he knows that he’s with someone he values and that escorts are not worth it for a number of reason. The thread seems like a diary thread, not really an invitation to question or judge. > > OP, gotta know when to hold em, when to fold em. That is the only “advice” I have. Carry on with whatever you intend to do next. But he’s still seeing girls from “massage parlors” and deceiving his “valued person”. Don’t you think if what you’re saying were true he would either come clean and stop the hjs or at least stop the hjs? ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/83 "2018-03-29T03:24:52Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Same thing. Totally. By that token, you’re saying everything you do for money is prostitution. I can’t believe that is true. Pretty young girls can have good jobs. It’s possible to work hard and get a degree and have a fulfilling career. Prostitution is in no way fulfilling. There is no short cuts. And no free lunches. ---
**Author:** ![Sunny\_Daze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunny_daze/32/438_2.png) [@Sunny\_Daze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunny_Daze)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/84 "2018-03-29T04:18:20Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > Good lord! In all my years here on the Dope, I don’t believe I’ve ever seen so much ignorance in one thread. And the fact that so many of you seem intent on snarking rather than learning on a board whose mission charter to fight ignorance is mind boggling. Could you expand on this? From what I can see, some folks are being a little less than supportive, but many are rightfully pointing out that a) the OP is not being honest with his partner, and b) the OP is not being honest with himself in dealing with an addiction. > [@Beckdawrek](#): > > By that token, you’re saying everything you do for money is prostitution. I can’t believe that is true. Pretty young girls can have good jobs. It’s possible to work hard and get a degree and have a fulfilling career. Prostitution is in no way fulfilling. There is no short cuts. And no free lunches. **Beck** , **Ambivalid** was being sarcastic. Clearly a janitorial job is not the same thing as being a prostitute. ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 4:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/85 "2018-03-29T04:32:02Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > Could you expand on this? From what I can see, some folks are being a little less than supportive, but many are rightfully pointing out that a) the OP is not being honest with his partner, and b) the OP is not being honest with himself in dealing with an addiction. I wasn’t speaking to peoples reactions with regards to the OP and His wife. Nor was I speaking to his addiction. I was speaking to the fact that some here seem to think providers must all be broken, self hating, drugged out losers. And I was speaking to the fact that some here find it “funny” that sex workers prefer to be called “providers”. Ha, ha, isn’t that funny? It’s like when Negros insisted we start refering to them as “black” or “African American” Ha ha, silly Negroes! :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/86 "2018-03-29T04:33:54Z")
Ahh, I see. Sorry Ambivalid. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/87 "2018-03-29T05:38:30Z")
Escorts? Oh man I _hate_ those! Just gotta keep the civilians alive and make it through hostile territory. So annoying. ---
**Author:** ![ruadh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/d2c977/32.png) [@ruadh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ruadh)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/88 "2018-03-29T06:56:51Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > Clearly a janitorial job is not the same thing as being a prostitute. … Which is why so many women who _could_ get jobs as cleaners opt for sex work instead. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/89 "2018-03-29T09:56:26Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > I wasn’t speaking to peoples reactions with regards to the OP and His wife. Nor was I speaking to his addiction. > > I was speaking to the fact that some here seem to think providers must all be broken, self hating, drugged out losers. > > And I was speaking to the fact that some here find it “funny” that sex workers prefer to be called “providers”. Ha, ha, isn’t that funny? It’s like when Negros insisted we start refering to them as “black” or “African American” Ha ha, silly Negroes! :rolleyes: It’s not they who are avoiding the term ‘sex worker’, it’s the ‘users’ that need to sugar coat this, and they’re not fooling anyone, but themselves, by the way. And you knew one once who was a CPA, so _clearly_ it’s wrong to imply they are damaged. Keep telling yourself whatever makes it okay for you, but again, everyone can see through that somewhat lame reasoning. And I think you’ll discover even hotel maids jobs etc, don’t go to drug addicts/users. You know a lot of ‘winner’ prostitutes do you? What a load of poor reasoning and blatant rationalizations. Wow, the things some men can convince themselves of, never cease to amaze. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 10:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/90 "2018-03-29T10:32:16Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > It’s not they who are avoiding the term ‘sex worker’, it’s the ‘users’ that need to sugar coat this, and they’re not fooling anyone, but themselves, by the way. > > And you knew one once who was a CPA, so _clearly_ it’s wrong to imply they are damaged. Keep telling yourself whatever makes it okay for you, but again, everyone can see through that somewhat lame reasoning. > > And I think you’ll discover even hotel maids jobs etc, don’t go to drug addicts/users. > > You know a lot of ‘winner’ prostitutes do you? > > What a load of poor reasoning and blatant rationalizations. Wow, the things some men can convince themselves of, never cease to amaze. No kidding, particularly explaining away the prevalence of sex trafficking. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 12:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/91 "2018-03-29T12:05:37Z")
> [@Grrr](#): > > And I was speaking to the fact that some here find it “funny” that sex workers prefer to be called “providers”. Ha, ha, isn’t that funny? It’s like when Negros insisted we start refering to them as “black” or “African American” Ha ha, silly Negroes! :rolleyes: Another spot-on comparison! All we need for a BINGO is a Holocaust reference. ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 12:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/92 "2018-03-29T12:16:18Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > I felt unsatisfied a lot after sex so I preferred the bj only. But there is some truth to it is an expensive version of masturbation. Maybe it’s because I was just reading this [New Yorker article](https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.newyorker.com/magazine/2018/04/02/are-we-already-living-in-virtual-reality/amp), but this leads me to wonder when virtual reality will close the gap. I’m guessing around 2050 — too late for me! ---
**Author:** ![Grrr](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grrr/32/146_2.png) [@Grrr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Grrr)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/93 "2018-03-29T12:21:50Z")
> [@elbows](#): > > It’s not they who are avoiding the term ‘sex worker’, it’s the ‘users’ that need to sugar coat this, and they’re not fooling anyone, but themselves, by the way. > > And you knew one once who was a CPA, so _clearly_ it’s wrong to imply they are damaged. Keep telling yourself whatever makes it okay for you, but again, everyone can see through that somewhat lame reasoning. > > And I think you’ll discover even hotel maids jobs etc, don’t go to drug addicts/users. > > You know a lot of ‘winner’ prostitutes do you? > > What a load of poor reasoning and blatant rationalizations. Wow, the things some men can convince themselves of, never cease to amaze. Again more ignorance. 'Provider" is the preferred vernacular chosen by sex workers. And the CPA girl isn’t just a one off. There are thousands of them. Mostly college girls, that will be coming out of their college education debt free. And to answer your question: Yes, I know a lot of winner “prostitutes”. You don’t know WTF you’re talking about. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 12:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/94 "2018-03-29T12:42:53Z")
> [@Wesley\_Clark](#): > > Why can’t adults engage in prostitution? In theory, sounds like a dirty job that needs to be done. Then I try to imagine seeing something like Trump taking its pants off. Dear Jebus! I’d rather clean the worst toilet in Scotland. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/95 "2018-03-29T13:23:04Z")
> [@Sunny\_Daze](#): > > **Beck** , **Ambivalid** was being sarcastic. Clearly a janitorial job is not the same thing as being a prostitute. True. One is easier than the other. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/96 "2018-03-29T13:55:54Z")
> [@Davidngrk](#): > > It was a rush because 1. you spend time finding a provider, researching to see if she’s been reviewed, exchanging texts, setting up time and place… Sounds like looking for a roofer on Angie’s List. I didn’t find it that much of a rush. 🧞♀ ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/97 "2018-03-29T14:37:23Z")
> [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](#): > > I thought being a lawman was the oldest profession? > **[Oldest profession (phrase)](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oldest_profession_(phrase))** > > The oldest profession in the world (or the world's oldest profession) is a phrase that, unless another meaning is specified, refers to prostitution. However, it did not start to acquire that meaning until 1889, after a Rudyard Kipling story, and it did not do so universally until after World War I. Formerly, various professions vied for the reputation of being the oldest. > The claim to be the oldest profession was made on behalf of farmers, cattle drovers, horticulturalists, barbers, engineer... ---
**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/98 "2018-03-29T15:46:01Z")
> [@Bullitt](#): > > [Oldest profession (phrase) - Wikipedia](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oldest_profession_(phrase)) Obviously too subtle my reference was. It was in a movie, a western parody (could have been Support Your Local Sheriff, or similar), and the town sheriff (could have been Harry Morgan) was euphemistically describing a prostitute as a member of the “oldest profession”, and his sheltered, grade school age son piped up “I thought you said being a lawman was the oldest profession?” ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/99 "2018-03-29T15:55:35Z")
I’d like to know how much you figure you spent, altogether, to support your addiction? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2018, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295/100 "2018-03-29T16:44:26Z")
Have you ever tried a rentboy? If all you’re getting is a bj, word has it that they’re better than the girls. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-addicted-to-escorts-ask-me-anything/811295.md?page=6)