# I was just kicked out of a Meetup group. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 3, 2011, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184 "2011-01-03T01:13:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 20
**Author:** ![other](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/49beb7/32.png) [@other](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/other)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/381 "2014-04-29T15:55:05Z")
Youre wrong. Many women go to the groups to meet men. the same sad lonely single gals every week. If they want something to happen naturally then they want to be picked up/hookup. The notion that all men are creepy and no women are is laughable. Meetup has both an email feature and a facebook page link feature. People use both. "They’re not there to be picked up, they’re there to hike. If something happens naturally between people on a hike, that’s fine. Getting email addresses or facebook IDs is generally frowned upon. " ---
**Author:** ![other](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/49beb7/32.png) [@other](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/other)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/382 "2014-04-29T16:05:22Z")
This sums up most [meetup.com](http://meetup.com) groups. Some of the most hideous disgusting unattractive or boring women and men I have ever seen anywhere on planet Earth have been at Meetup groups. They are all single are all are looking for a mate. They should be in the ugly or boring meetup group. > [@Surreal](#): > > I’m not sure I agree. I was encouraged to join a local Meetup group by a friend who happened to share one of my hobbies. I joined and when I attended my first meeting there I was approached by numerous women who, while they were not hideous, they really weren’t attractive enough to be on my radar screen as far as shtupping is concerned. I suspect that if they’d known more about me other than just my appearance, it would have been clear to them they I was out of their league and they would not have attempted to chat me up. > > My guess is that probably 70-80% of the people who attend these events are basically looking for a partner/hookup while perhaps 20-30% are actually there for the stated theme of the group. ---
**Author:** ![other](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/49beb7/32.png) [@other](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/other)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/383 "2014-04-29T16:07:19Z")
“What if her photo was deceptive and she’s much older, fatter or uglier than you originally thought?” Frequently the case. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/384 "2014-04-29T16:08:20Z")
> [@other](#): > > Some of the most hideous disgusting unattractive or boring women and men I have ever seen anywhere on planet Earth have been at Meetup groups. _You’ve_ been there. Capisce? ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/385 "2014-04-29T16:12:28Z")
:skeptical: So, Mr. Joined an Hour Ago, Meetup is for ugly horny desperate women and the men who jealously prevent other men from getting their phone numbers. So demanding their contact info after seeing only one fake profile pic is totally Nirmal and not at all creepy. Have I got that right? ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/386 "2014-04-29T16:15:42Z")
> [@other](#): > > This sums up most [meetup.com](http://meetup.com) groups. Some of the most hideous disgusting unattractive or boring women and men I have ever seen anywhere on planet Earth have been at Meetup groups. They are all single are all are looking for a mate. They should be in the ugly or boring meetup group. Do you understand that you revived a thread that has been dead for three years, and that some of the people you are talking at aren’t here any more? ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/387 "2014-04-29T16:20:54Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > :skeptical: > > So, Mr. Joined an Hour Ago… I’m simply amazed that **“other”** wasn’t already taken as a username. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/388 "2014-04-29T16:23:33Z")
> [@buddha\_david](#): > > I’m simply amazed that **“other”** wasn’t already taken as a username. :dubious: Yeah, it would seem too obvious a choice when looking for a “new” user name. ---
**Author:** ![other](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/49beb7/32.png) [@other](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/other)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/389 "2014-04-29T16:29:34Z")
To the jealous spinsters: Tom Cruise is 16 years older then Katie Holmes, not twice her age. That’s an average age difference for celebrity couples. When Holmes was still engaged to actor Chris Klein in 2004 she told reporters, “I think every little girl dreams about her wedding. I used to think I was going to marry Tom [Cruise].” Holmes ended her two-year engagement with Klein just a month before she began dating Cruise. She was stalking HIM. Get the facts straight, haters. > [@Snickers](#): > > Especially given the rumors surrounding how Tom Cruise met his current wife: I’ve heard that he (or his agents) approached any number of beautiful young starlets (Scarlett Johansen and Jessica Biel are the names I hear most frequently) before getting a “yes, I’d love to meet up with a guy I don’t know who’s almost twice my age” from Katie Holmes. Clearly, probably none of us outside Tom, Scarlett, Jessica, and Katie know the truth, but referring to Tom in the first place given these rumors really puts your request in the stalker category. That’s not even counting Tom’s weird couch jumping moments. ---
**Author:** ![lindsaybluth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/90db22/32.png) [@lindsaybluth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lindsaybluth)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/390 "2014-04-29T16:31:16Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > I miss **Cat Fight**. ☹ +1 > [@Acsenray](#): > > :skeptical: > > So, Mr. Joined an Hour Ago, Meetup is for ugly horny desperate women and the men who jealously prevent other men from getting their phone numbers. > > So demanding their contact info after seeing only one fake profile pic is totally Nirmal and not at all creepy. > > Have I got that right? Nailed it! [2/3rds of men contact top 1/3 of women on OKCupid](http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/). I like my own snide analysis: “Sexual harassment is when a man who is neither charming, handsome, wealthy nor powerful flirts with you”. ---
**Author:** ![tapu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/49beb7/32.png) [@tapu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tapu)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/391 "2014-04-29T16:31:42Z")
OP: creepy jerk. jmo ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/392 "2014-04-29T16:31:52Z")
> [@other](#): > > To the jealous spinsters: Tom Cruise is 16 years older then Katie Holmes, not twice her age. That’s an average age difference for celebrity couples. When Holmes was still engaged to actor Chris Klein in 2004 she told reporters, “I think every little girl dreams about her wedding. I used to think I was going to marry Tom [Cruise].” > Holmes ended her two-year engagement with Klein just a month before she began dating Cruise. > She was stalking HIM. Get the facts straight, haters. _Do you understand that this conversation ended 3 years ago and people have moved on to other conversations, other message boards or just plain “moved on”?_ ---
**Author:** ![other](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/49beb7/32.png) [@other](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/other)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/393 "2014-04-29T16:32:03Z")
25,000+ posts = 8 hours a day on this site, every day for 20 years. ---
**Author:** ![other](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/49beb7/32.png) [@other](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/other)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/394 "2014-04-29T16:33:24Z")
37,000+ posts = 12 hours per day on this site, every day for your entire adult life. WOW! ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/395 "2014-04-29T16:36:37Z")
**Join Date: Apr 2014** yada, yada, yada. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/396 "2014-04-29T16:38:48Z")
> [@other](#): > > 37,000+ posts = 12 hours per day on this site, every day for your entire adult life. WOW! 53,598 posts since 2003. Fear me. Well. 53,599 _now_. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/397 "2014-04-29T16:39:20Z")
We must all be ugly, desperate women. Hey, Other, have you gotten any phone numbers yet? ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2014, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184/398 "2014-04-29T16:40:01Z")
> [@other](#): > > 37,000+ posts = 12 hours per day on this site, every day for your entire adult life. WOW! Stick to the topic instead of taking pot shots at members…you can do that in the Pit if you wish, but keep it out of these threads. And now I’m going to close this thread as it’s three years old. If anyone wishes to continue to talk about the OP, feel free to start another. Idle Thoughts IMHO Moderator [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-just-kicked-out-of-a-meetup-group/566184.md?page=19)