# I was this old when I learned **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 31, 2023, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-this-old-when-i-learned/995405 "2023-12-31T12:14:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 1\ **Showing post:** 43
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2024, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-this-old-when-i-learned/995405/43 "2024-01-02T16:15:40Z")
> [@Dinsdale](#): > > Apologies. I acknowledge that I tend to use “he” as a general pronoun when the gender is unclear. I should try to amend that. Whether I will be successful or not at age 63 is questionable. > > What is the appropriate pronoun? Third person “they”? Here’s a recent 300-post now-closed discussion on exactly this point: > [@Please stop using singular they for posters who have an established gender](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/please-stop-using-singular-they-for-posters-who-have-an-established-gender/995306): > > This is not a pit thread and I’m not calling anyone out in particular. I’ve just noticed a growing trend on this board. Poster A is male, (or female). Poster B has interacted with A enough, or is in a thread where the preponderance of he or she pronouns about A clearly show A’s gender. B makes a long post about A consistently using they/them. I’m not a fan of singular they for known individuals at the best of times. Although I’d respect if and use it for someone who specifically requests if for… --- _[View the full topic](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-was-this-old-when-i-learned/995405)._