# I wasn't trying to be rude but... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [January 23, 2005, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214 "2005-01-23T05:27:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 6:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/61 "2005-01-24T06:41:57Z")
> [@START](#): > > but I honestly couldn’t help it, Yes you could. You could have kept it merely at the thought level, instead of allowing it to graduate to spoken word between guffaws. You did not want to, however, so you did not keep your thought to yourself. > [@](#): > > Then the other thing I just thought of is; Why would he be embarassed? Nice way to try and remove the blame of the story from you. Indeed, why would anyone be embarrassed by you pointing out how poor they are, to have to buy used underwear? > [@](#): > > Obviously any person that can walk into a store and buy a few pairs of previously worn underwear should have a pretty high embarrassment thresh hold. Perhaps those of us who have been dirt poor assume (or, after now, assumed) that those with money also are similarly not poor when it comes to grace or tact. When you’re poor, you know it; nobody needs to point it out to you. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/62 "2005-01-24T06:43:54Z")
> [@Zoe](#): > > **Start** , what med(s) were you on? Do you still take them? > > Some impulse control problems are neurological. Are yours? I’d rather not get into exactly what meds I was taking but I will say for a while I was taking Ritalin and I don’t anymore…and there is nothing neurogical going on I just loves being an asshole in public, thats just it. You know what I just thought about…that guy should have apologized to me for forcing me to say what I said. What the hell was he thinking buying underwear from a thrift store and expecting not to get clowned, yeh right. No, but seriously I did take ritalin for a while and then was briefly on a different drug but it turned me into a “zombie” so my Mom took me off of it. Then later my Mom went through an herbal remedy phase and I was taking this \*nasty \* herbal tea every night that was supposed to make me behave, I suppose. Anyway I had or have ADHD but compare me to how I was when I was between 10-13 then you would say I was an Angel now. Not trying to make excuses, I have to say that because I’m sure someone will come along and say _“ADHD is not a real disease and it’s no excuse for your actions, you should START minding your own damn business START.”_ and I’ll be like “damn”. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/63 "2005-01-24T06:50:07Z")
> [@START](#): > > You know what I just thought about…that guy should have apologized to me for forcing me to say what I said. What the hell was he thinking buying underwear from a thrift store and expecting not to get clowned, yeh right. WTF? 😕 :eek: :mad: Is this meant to be a joke? I’ve been trying to give you the benefit of the doubt and look at your good qualities, dude. Don’t make me pit you. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 6:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/64 "2005-01-24T06:55:00Z")
> [@Diogenes the Cynic](#): > > WTF? 😕 :eek: :mad: > > Is this meant to be a joke? I’ve been trying to give you the benefit of the doubt and look at your good qualities, dude. Don’t make me pit you. Of course it’s a joke…come on if _really_ felt that way don’t you think I’d atleast keep it to myself? It’s a joke, but I get the feeling that anytime I START a thread like this I have one foot in the “pit” already. So let me say this before someone else does; _Well it wasn’t a very funny joke…_ ---
**Author:** ![Declan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecae2f/32.png) [@Declan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Declan)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 6:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/65 "2005-01-24T06:57:11Z")
> [@START](#): > > Most likely we embarassed him, I’m really sorry that he was embarrassed because it was none of my business if he wanted to buy some cheap underwear but I honestly couldn’t help it, **I said the same thing that most people would be thinking**. I wasn’t trying to be rude because I just asked basically if it was a dare and everybody took it from there and probably made the poor guy cry. The Bolded part covers what I find disturbing. One , that you assume what everyone thinks, two , that its a practical joke /gag/ whatever , and that everyone else agrees with you, all you really did in your opinion was to state it outloud. Amazing > [@](#): > > Then the other thing I just thought of is; **Why would he be embarassed?** Obviously any person that can walk into a store and buy a few pairs of previously worn underwear should have a pretty high embarrassment thresh hold. Generally speaking , people that find themselves in new economic conditions usually have taken a major blow to their pride, their self esteem is gone , they are in survival mode, you and your buds probably shattered whats left of his confidence. Small piece of advice , learn Tact All right , nuff said about past history. One of your posts further on in the thread ,says basically that you are a train wreck waiting to happen and have lots of issues that need to be dealt with. I personally could care less what your problems are , the one thing about this board is that for everyone that saves a cat , or does some good , or what have you , on one end of the scale ,there is someone like you on the other end, that makes society a worse place to live. When , not if , you crash and burn , I hope there is someone on this or another board that is compasionate enough to rebuild you, cause on the spread sheet of life , you are way over on the debit side. Declan ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 7:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/66 "2005-01-24T07:04:06Z")
> [@](#): > > Of course it’s a joke…come on if really felt that way don’t you think I’d atleast keep it to myself? Based on this thread? No. ---
**Author:** ![Declan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecae2f/32.png) [@Declan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Declan)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 7:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/67 "2005-01-24T07:04:55Z")
> [@START](#): > > Of course it’s a joke…come on if _really_ felt that way don’t **you think I’d atleast keep it to myself?** No , not really. > [@START](#): > > but I honestly couldn’t help it, \*\*I said \*\*the same thing that most people would be thinking I don’t blame Dio for wondering WTF , usually most people tag something like that with [SARCASM]…Learn TACT…[/SARCASM] Declan ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/68 "2005-01-24T07:25:38Z")
> [@Declan](#): > > The Bolded part covers what I find disturbing. One , that you assume what everyone thinks, two , that its a practical joke /gag/ whatever , and that everyone else agrees with you, all you really did in your opinion was to state it outloud. > > Amazing > > Generally speaking , people that find themselves in new economic conditions usually have taken a major blow to their pride, their self esteem is gone , they are in survival mode, you and your buds probably shattered whats left of his confidence. > > Small piece of advice , learn Tact > > All right , nuff said about past history. > > One of your posts further on in the thread ,says basically that you are a train wreck waiting to happen and have lots of issues that need to be dealt with. > > I personally could care less what your problems are , the one thing about this board is that for everyone that saves a cat , or does some good , or what have you , on one end of the scale ,there is someone like you on the other end, that makes society a worse place to live. > > When , not if , you crash and burn , I hope there is someone on this or another board that is compasionate enough to rebuild you, cause on the spread sheet of life , you are way over on the debit side. > > Declan Why so dramatic? I have to say that between the actual incident and my writing this thread my choice of how to describe what went on has made this seem much worse than it is, well actually to some people has made me seem much worse than I am. I had written this thread a couple times before posting and perhaps I should have gone with my original tone of being more remorseful but I didn’t so this is what happens. This being a message board where people cannot observe each other every single day a few “asshole” threads here and there can make a person seem like an “ass” when they aren’t. You could say whether or not I should have written this thread at all but I did and that was my choice so I’m cool with it. If I told only about the nice things I’ve done then people would think I am an angel but if I tell something like this then I have painted a picture of myself that unfortunately isn’t very flattering even if most of the time I am a nice guy who will do anything to help anybody and that’s on the truth. Maybe the asshole shit is more memorable and I START threads about it, I don’t know but don’t get it twisted my attitude that may come across in some of these threads like this I think betrays my true self. I am not throwing books out of moving cars everyday and insulting complete strangers but unfortunately that’s who I have become in your collective eyes and I am sorry. Most likely I will do something stupid, START a thread about it and possibly get pitted but the next time I will try hard not to come off as a jerk who is trying to justify reprehensible actions. When I do something nice that I think is “thread worthy” I will START a thread about it and not care who does or doesn’t respond but it will be there just for the sake of saying to all my SDMB community that I’m really not the guy that I have somehow made you all picture me to be…which is basically a mean and bratty kid and I want everybody to know that there is a huge difference between the picture and the person. ---
**Author:** ![Declan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecae2f/32.png) [@Declan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Declan)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/69 "2005-01-24T07:51:25Z")
> [@START](#): > > Why so dramatic? I have to say that between the actual incident and my writing this thread my choice of how to describe what went on has made this seem much worse than it is, well actually to some people has made me seem much worse than I am. Cynical maybe , but not dramatic. Dramatic would have been where I added that part I deleted about how would you have felt if you caused this individual to commit suicide. > [@](#): > > I had written this thread a couple times before posting and\*\* perhaps I should have gone with my original tone of being more remorseful\*\* but I didn’t so this is what happens. Again , this is the part where I might sound cynical, and reading too much into a post , but that sounds like you were gaming your Posts, either for the most sympathy ,attention , or what have you. I am leaving enough room left , to think thats how you actually meant it , but… > [@](#): > > You could say whether or not I should have written this thread at all but I did and that was my choice so I’m cool with it. What you write or don’t write is entirely your choice , but you knew that replies were going to run the gamut between people that would attempt to guide you , to something like mine. Are you surprised at the replies or did you expect something different ? Declan ---
**Author:** ![Ephemera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/8baadc/32.png) [@Ephemera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ephemera)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/70 "2005-01-24T08:00:25Z")
> [@START](#): > > It’s a joke, but I get the feeling that anytime I START a thread like this I have one foot in the “pit” already.\* I’m getting the impression that, not only have you known this since before this thread, you’ve been actively courting a pitting as you seem to be very attention-starved and any attention is better than none. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 8:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/71 "2005-01-24T08:15:32Z")
> [@Declan](#): > > Cynical maybe , but not dramatic. Dramatic would have been where I added that part I deleted about how would you have felt if you caused this individual to commit suicide. Someone already said that in this thread and that did cross my mind. > [@](#): > > Again , this is the part where I might sound cynical, and reading too much into a post , but that sounds like you were gaming your Posts, either for the most sympathy ,attention , or what have you. I am leaving enough room left , to think thats how you actually meant it , but… Attention whore, sympathy whore everybody will think what they want to. If I wanted attention, I got it. I f I wanted sympathy, I didn’t. Really though, I never really have any other motive in writing a thread than writing a thread and sometimes they to my surprise get alot of reponses or get few responses. Normally after writing a thread I estimate it will recieve between 10 and 20 replies. > [@](#): > > What you write or don’t write is entirely your choice , but you knew that replies were going to run the gamut between people that would attempt to guide you , to something like mine. Are you surprised at the replies or did you expect something different ? > > Declan I expected everyone to be nice…no actually I did’nt. I expected everything from “START your a jerk” to “Oh I’ve done worse” and that was when I had read the thread after hitting the “Submit Reply” button and I couldn’t take it back. I think about what I write before I write it believe it or not and live with the consequences as far as this board goes. Although I never wanted to be seen as a jerk because that’s just not me at all. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 8:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/72 "2005-01-24T08:22:22Z")
> [@Aesiron](#): > > I’m getting the impression that, not only have you known this since before this thread, you’ve been actively courting a pitting as you seem to be very attention-starved and any attention is better than none. I don’t want to get pitted…any attention is not better than none. I just have to acknowledge that when I press “Submit Reply” there is no taking it back and if I submit something like this then there is that possibility of being drug into the pit. I check out the board often but I am not on here all day and all night although today might be an exception so I don’t need a lot of attention, you all know the name START and that’s all the attention anyone should want on a message board if I wanted more attention than that I would force myself to stay away from the SDMB for a while. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/73 "2005-01-24T08:23:04Z")
> [@START](#): > > Attention whore, sympathy whore everybody will think what they want to. We see you based on how you present yourself here. You represent yourself here; nobody else does that. What we think is not based on some SDMB dart board with number values corresponding to responses. You _can_ actually change how people react to your posts (or to seeing that you have posted), but it requires more acknowledgment of control of the situation than I think you might be comfortable with. ---
**Author:** ![START](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@START](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/START)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 8:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/74 "2005-01-24T08:31:06Z")
> [@iampunha](#): > > We see you based on how you present yourself here… Exactly my point which was “ooops I’m a nice guy but I haven’t presented myself very well” I didn’t realize how I had made myself out to be and unfortunately I can’t honestly say none of these bad things never happened but I can say I did not present the majority of the times I am being a really good citizen. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 8:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/75 "2005-01-24T08:47:19Z")
> [@START](#): > > …I did not present the majority of the times I am being a really good citizen. Perhaps you should focus what posts of yours are on your life on those aspects of it that don’t include incidents like the one in the OP:) ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 9:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/76 "2005-01-24T09:04:54Z")
And I got the privilege of getting a mod warning for THIS shit? Geez, I’m an idiot. Lesson learned extremely well. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Okaybear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9fc348/32.png) [@Okaybear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Okaybear)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 9:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/77 "2005-01-24T09:33:51Z")
I was going to go to bed and ignore this one, but… Here’s a Bible passage for you, **START** , seeing as you are a Christian and all: > [@](#): > > [Jesus] looked up and saw rich people putting their gifts into the treasury; he also saw a poor widow put in two copper coins. He said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put in more than all of them; for all of them have contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in all she had to live on.” > > (Luke 21:1-4) Now imagine that poor widow, leaving just a teeny-tiny offering when everyone else is leaving big sums of money. Imagine the shame she must have felt among that rich crowd. Now picture our Savior, instead of ridiculing this poor woman (as others around her might well have been), He commends her. Such is the Grace and love we receive, **START**. You would be wise to remember that. Oooh, oooh, and let’s not forget: > [@](#): > > “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God.” > > (Luke 6:20) Ok? Not trying to preach at you, brother. (Or anyone else on this thread, for that matter.) But since you and I are siblings by our faith, I thought it would be a good idea to remind you that one of Jesus’s “hot topics” was the condition and care of the poor. I’d suggest picking up the Bible for a couple minutes each day - before the day begins, perhaps - to curb your impulse control problems. It might just serve as a reminder for the rest of day to bite your lip as needed. ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/78 "2005-01-24T13:21:20Z")
> [@](#): > > 2 of my friends and I were in the Thrift Store today and we saw some “Tighty Whiteys” for sale, I didn’t even know that was legal. Why the heck wouldn’t selling used underwear be legal? Do you think your ass does something irreversible to your drawers? I doubt they could sell genuinely ‘crusty’ underwear, but after throwing it into the washer with hot water, bleach and soap? Ta da! Clean, used underwear. I hate to break it to you, kiddo, but you are wearing used underwear _right now_! The minute you took it out of the package and put it on, it became used. > [@](#): > > When we got in line some dude was actually buying the underwear and I was so shocked I couldn’t help it, I said “Why are you buying used underwear is this some kind of dare?” and when I said that the girl behind the counter STARTed laughing and then the 2 guys that were with me were laughing even harder. Then my friend “Jason” said “I’d check for stains before buying those” and the girl behind the counter was trying not to laugh but she could barely hold it in. Rude, repulsive, immature, behavior. It’s none of your business what the guy was buying, nor did you have the right to vet his purchases. Disgusting. And the girl behind the counter should have been fired. If I’d been in the store when this happened I would have turned her in to the management. > [@](#): > > Then a discussion began about the fact that no matter how desperate or poor we became we would never buy used underwear and this is around the time the guy walked out without paying for the “Tighty Whiteys”. Most likely we embarassed him, You think? And how nice that you privileged children (including the one who makes a living selling used clothes to people) know exactly the course that your lives will take. > [@](#): > > I’m really sorry that he was embarrassed because it was none of my business if he wanted to buy some cheap underwear but I honestly couldn’t help it, And here’s the worst of it – you _could_ have helped it, if you’d wanted to. You _did_ intent to hurt and embarrass him – for the amusement of your friends. Your desire to smart off to your friends meant more to you than this poor guy’s humiliation. My brother’s got the world’s worst case of ADHD – at your age he had almost no impulse control – but he would never, NEVER have humilated a stranger for a cheap laugh. As a short, skinny, redheaded, hyperactive kid he was too often the butt of other’s jokes to ever make rude fun of somebody else. By the time he was your age, he was a muscular football player, but he never forgot (and hasn’t to this day, although he is 43 years old) what it felt like to be held up to ridicule. > [@](#): > > I said the same thing that most people would be thinking. I wasn’t trying to be rude because I just asked basically if it was a dare and everybody took it from there and probably made the poor guy cry. Obviously most people _don’t_ think the way you do. It is equally obvious that you did, indeed, mean to be rude. You ought to be ashamed of yourself, and I don’t see much evidence that you are. You’re still claiming that you were in the grip of something bigger than yourself (“I couldn’t help it,” “I didn’t mean to,” “It wasn’t my intention…”). I call bullshit on that and repeat – you ought to be ashamed. Since you lack the moral compass to be ashamed of yourself, then I’ll go ahead and be ahamed of you. You make me glad there are no SDMB t-shirts. I don’t care to be recognised as a member of the same community as the likes of you. ---
**Author:** ![cornflakes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9d8465/32.png) [@cornflakes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cornflakes)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/79 "2005-01-24T14:49:46Z")
START, you said that you were a Christian. I assume that you are not Catholic (neither am I and I hope this doesn’t offend any Catholics.) There are good things about every denomination. Two of the great things about Catholicism are the acts of confession and pennance. You just confessed. Good for you! Your screwup is now out in the open, and you now see how big of a mistake it really was. I know you don’t want to do this sort of thing again, and i’m sure that you will try not to. Now, pennance is going to be a little tougher. After all, you can’t take back what you said, and you can’t change how that guy feels about the incident, but you can do some good to try to offset the bad. Volunteer to work with the homeless, give eight hours of your time. This will give you something good to feel about and will let you see how these people live. You will be a better man for it. After all, it’s not only about how you make others feel, it’s also about what you make of yourself. Also, buy two packs of new underwear in your size and donate them to a thrift store. Go, and sin no more. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2005, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214/80 "2005-01-24T17:47:41Z")
> [@START](#): > > We could have taken him…3 on 1, ya know what I mean. > One of us could have gone for the head and one for the feet and one for the midsection, OUCH. I’m sure that some kids said the same thing about Bernie Goetz. Look, yes, I too find it a little gross to buy used underwear at a thrift store (well, depends on what you’re buying-my sister used to work at Salvation Army, and oh, the stories she could tell you!). BUT…if you had to say something, couldn’t it have waited until the guy left, or until you were alone with your friends? Look, kiddo, I have ADHD too, AND Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. And I won’t lie and say I haven’t done some truly assholish things as a dumb kid, either. That being said, can you honestly not see why that guy was so embarassed? You have said in the past you were ashamed when your weathier friends came to your house. Now, imagine you’re at school, and your friend is telling EVERYONE what your house looks like. And everyone is pointing at you and laughing. And then he says, “Hey, I didn’t MEAN to be rude! And you must not be too embarassed, since you invited me in the first place!” It’s really NONE of your business why this guy was buying undies from the thrift store. Maybe he needed something to use as dust rags. Maybe he WAS on a dare. Or maybe he’s poor and that’s all he could afford. Either way, it’s not something he needs to explain to you. Now stop making excuses for what you did. I think you do realize that what you did was very, very nasty. ADHD does exist, but it’s NOT a valid excuse. Be an adult and own up to what you did. Yes, you DID intend to be nasty. Yes you DID embarass someone. No, it’s NOT okay. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-wasnt-trying-to-be-rude-but/286214.md?page=5)