# I went to a memorial service yesterday **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Tags:** liquor-alcohol\ **Created:** [October 25, 2026, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152 "2026-10-25T23:05:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/1 "2026-10-25T23:05:40Z")
My good friend Anne Davenport had a memorial service yesterday, which I attended. [In Remembrance: Anne Davenport | International Costumer’s Guild](https://costume.org/wp/2026/09/15/in-remembrance-anne-davenport/) The memorial was at Somaspace in Portland. She was the person that got me involved in Doctor Who fandom in Portland, made me a TV star (participating in a PBS telethon for Doctor Who way back in the day), convinced me to co-chair an Orycon, convinced me to wear a tearaway Captain Kirk outfit for said opening ceremony skit, talked me into applying for a scholarship for the Kansas City WorldCon ten years ago (which I won) and , most recently, convinced me to go to the Los Angeles Worldcon this year for her because she was dying. I went, and she died a few days later after I gossiped with her right after I got back. She was a Master Costumer and a dear friend and a master mathematician and a Ghod Damn Genius and she was from the second I met her my dear friend. She left me two things at the memorial service: a full length Doctor Who scarf (wool, not nylon) that was the very first thing she ever knitted, and a copy she made of the “Angel” puppet from the series. She said I couldn’t post this until I was equally drunk on whiskey and chocolate…then told me about Chocolate Crown Royal. The bottle is empty. The job is completed. Good bye, My Dear Friend. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/2 "2026-10-25T23:11:34Z")
Thank you for sharing that, she must have been a remarkable person. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/3 "2026-10-25T23:15:08Z")
To paraphrase the last line of the Remo Williams movie: “She was better than that.” ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2026, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/4 "2026-10-25T23:19:12Z")
I can’t knit but I have done a crochet version of the scarf that looks pretty much the same. I once paid my way to a convention by making quite a few, including some a kid could wear, but using the same colors and proportion of the stripes. I am sorry for your loss. She sounds like she was a wonderful friend. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a88e4f/32.png) [@Digital\_is\_the\_new\_Analog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_is_the_new_Analog)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2026, 12:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/5 "2026-10-26T00:23:16Z")
She sounds amazing. People who have that large an impact on your life leave such a whole when they are gone, but hopefully the memories will remind you of all the joy. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2026, 12:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/6 "2026-10-26T00:34:54Z")
That was a great tribute. She sounds like a jewel. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Disinfectus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/disinfectus/32/11085_2.png) [@Disinfectus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Disinfectus)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2026, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/i-went-to-a-memorial-service-yesterday/1034152/7 "2026-10-26T01:19:55Z")
Condolences to you on the loss of your dear friend. It sounds like you both enjoyed a meaningful and rewarding friendship with each other. Those are rare, and you were both lucky to find each other. I wish you peace.