# I'd rather take turns than do 69... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 23, 2010, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070 "2010-10-23T03:11:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/1 "2010-10-23T03:11:18Z")
Am I alone? It seems like “69” is really highly prized but I find it to be almost annoying. I can either pay attention to what he’s doing and enjoy it, which causes what I’m doing to slack off greatly, or I can concentrate on doing a good job at what I’m doing, which causes me to pretty much block out what he’s doing. 69 with us is more of a transitional position than something to linger at. Anyone else feel the same? ---
**Author:** ![may\_be\_ignorant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c5a1d2/32.png) [@may\_be\_ignorant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/may_be_ignorant)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/2 "2010-10-23T03:16:08Z")
It’s straight up awkward. ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/3 "2010-10-23T03:28:35Z")
Yes, I feel the same. ---
**Author:** ![Peeta\_Mellark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bc8723/32.png) [@Peeta\_Mellark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peeta_Mellark)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/4 "2010-10-23T03:29:49Z")
I’m not really a fan. I love giving and I love receiving, but both at the same time makes each less enjoyable. ---
**Author:** ![kittenblue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ba8739/32.png) [@kittenblue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kittenblue)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/5 "2010-10-23T03:39:19Z")
Yes. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/6 "2010-10-23T03:43:17Z")
Ditto. This is a time when multitasking is a bad idea. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/7 "2010-10-23T03:48:31Z")
69 can be not as intense sexually but way more intense sensually. also is simultaneous give and get like screwing. ---
**Author:** ![Rachellelogram](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rachellelogram/32/8689_2.png) [@Rachellelogram](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rachellelogram)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/8 "2010-10-23T03:49:55Z")
I don’t do 69. I am apple-shaped, my tummy is the pokiest-outiest part of me. It just wouldn’t mechanically work out unless the guy was horseshoe-shaped or a contortionist. And if I’m with a contortionist, there are at least 68 things I’d rather do instead. ---
**Author:** ![erleichda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/4da419/32.png) [@erleichda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erleichda)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/9 "2010-10-23T03:51:23Z")
I love giving, could do without receiving. I’m weird, I know. ---
**Author:** ![fuzzypickles](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/9d8465/32.png) [@fuzzypickles](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fuzzypickles)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/10 "2010-10-23T03:53:49Z")
> [@johnpost](#): > > 69 can be not as intense sexually but way more intense sensually. also is simultaneous give and get like screwing. This. It’s not about giving or getting, but losing yourself in the multiple stimulations. Your bodies must be compatible, though. And it’s difficult to find someone who’s a natural fit. When it works, it’s great, but if not, it can leave you with a stiff neck or a sore throat the next morning. ---
**Author:** ![Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/brown_eyed_girl/32/3574_2.png) [@Brown\_Eyed\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brown_Eyed_Girl)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/11 "2010-10-23T03:58:25Z")
Not a big fan either, for the same reason as the OP. Very distracting. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/12 "2010-10-23T04:03:24Z")
I like to concentrate on one or the other. ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/13 "2010-10-23T04:24:15Z")
Everyone I’ve ever discussed it with agrees that it’s a better idea on paper than in practice. ---
**Author:** ![sitchensis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sitchensis/32/4892_2.png) [@sitchensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sitchensis)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 4:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/14 "2010-10-23T04:34:04Z")
I still have to keep trying it because 1 in 10 times it’s the greatest thing in the world. Plus there are a good amount of women out there that have trouble finishing from traditional sex; the 69 can help to have those very erotic simultaneous orgasms. The best times are those when I’m totally engrossed in giving and not focused on receiving, more often than not it puts me off my game but sometimes it will just sneak up on me and holy crap. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 5:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/15 "2010-10-23T05:38:52Z")
I think I can safely say that I would find it impossible to orgasm doing 69. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/16 "2010-10-23T10:56:10Z")
You’re not alone in this opinion, obviously, but I’ll throw my vote, too; either I’m concentrating on giving or I’m concentrating on receiving. I’m a little too easily distracted to do both at the. . . Oh look. Penguins! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![bienville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4bbf92/32.png) [@bienville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bienville)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 12:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/17 "2010-10-23T12:34:02Z")
The _act_ of 69ing isn’t something I would generally request, but the _position_ is quite nice. That is: a couple can put their bodies in that position without engaging in simultaneous oral sex. I don’t like performing oral sex (cunnilingus) in a 69 position. It’s not a matter of giving and receiving at the same time being a distraction, it’s a matter of finding the mechanics of performing cunnilingus to be difficult in that position: one of the two main issues is that I have to bend my neck uncomfortably, the other is that my technique works better when the clitoris is at the top (as I face it) rather than at the bottom. However, receiving oral sex (felatio) in a 69 position is not only my favorite way to receive oral sex, it is one of my favorite of all sexual experiences. Having my partner’s body on top of me to embrace and caress adds so much to the experience of receiving oral sex. Also, the view is nice- as is the physical sensation of having my face embraced by her thighs. ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/18 "2010-10-23T12:41:50Z")
I’d rather take turns too but sometimes during one person’s turn the other person feels like getting more involved and next thing you know… It’s not like it’s an either/or situation, you can do both as the mood takes you, or him, or her. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/19 "2010-10-23T15:00:03Z")
69 seems to work better for me if the other person is male-a rhythm can build because the actions are somewhat the same. When I try it with a female the speeds don’t mesh up at all. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/20 "2010-10-23T15:02:12Z")
Take turns? Forget it. Bing bang boom. I got important shit to do. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070.md?page=2)