# I'd rather take turns than do 69... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 23, 2010, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070 "2010-10-23T03:11:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/21 "2010-10-23T15:07:20Z")
Everybody is different & if two partners (or even one) can’t enjoy it, out of the rotation it goes. Personally, I’ve had good experiences though. To me, its like a competition where if you can make the other person cum first, you get to choose the next event of the decathlon. (Og, those laurel leaves feel good, esp when your partner is asleep on your chest drenched with sweat…) _cue Fanfare for the Comon Man_ ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/22 "2010-10-23T15:08:00Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Take turns? Forget it. Bing bang boom. I got important shit to do. So you use both hands at the same time, big boy? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/23 "2010-10-23T15:16:29Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Anyone else feel the same? Yup. ---
**Author:** ![Find\_Friends](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c37758/32.png) [@Find\_Friends](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Find_Friends)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/24 "2010-10-23T15:21:15Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Am I alone? It seems like “69” is really highly prized but I find it to be almost annoying. I can either pay attention to what he’s doing and enjoy it, which causes what I’m doing to slack off greatly, or I can concentrate on doing a good job at what I’m doing, which causes me to pretty much block out what he’s doing. 69 with us is more of a transitional position than something to linger at. > > Anyone else feel the same? IIRC, Dr. David Reuben in his best-selling book, _[EYAWTKAS (BWATA)](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_you_always_wanted_to_know_about_sex)_ felt the same way. He didn’t mention any difficulty with cunnilingus in this position, as some have here, so he didn’t specifically speak against 69. He did make the point, repeated frequently here, that it makes more sense with oral-genital stimulation to focus on either performance or sensation. I’m pretty sure he advocated taking turns. He lauded intercourse as the most intense mutally exciting form of sex. > [@rachelellogram](#): > > I don’t do 69. I am apple-shaped, my tummy is the pokiest-outiest part of me. It just wouldn’t mechanically work out unless the guy was horseshoe-shaped or a contortionist. And if I’m with a contortionist, there are at least 68 things I’d rather do instead. 68? That reminds me of a joke about a “neighborhood professional” and a boy’s first time… > [@erleichda](#): > > I love giving, could do without receiving. I’m weird, I know. There is a youngish woman in my acquaintance who prefers giving fellatio. In the grand scheme of things, that doesn’t seem very weird, at least not to me anymore. _ **- Jack** _ ---
**Author:** ![Stauderhorse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Stauderhorse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stauderhorse)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/25 "2010-10-23T15:36:33Z")
Definitely. The first time I tried it, he was on top, and it was just…ugh. The positioning was weird and it kept slipping out of my mouth. I liked the receiving part, but I couldn’t really concentrate down there because I was busy up here. Maybe if we had flipped and I was on top, it would have been more pleasant, but I was way underwhelmed. I’d be willing to lay on top and jerk him off while he went down on me though. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/26 "2010-10-23T15:42:40Z")
68 is where you do me, and I owe you 1. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/27 "2010-10-23T15:44:31Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > I think I can safely say that I would find it impossible to orgasm doing 69. Now that’s an interesting conclusion. Seems to me that it would be normal to say that you would not be able to give as well as you got because of distractions. But the “getting” part would surely be at least partially under the control of your partner. You cannot imagine that there would be a Cecil of 69 out there somewhere who could close the deal for you? ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/28 "2010-10-23T15:47:39Z")
It seems to me, in my experience, thay cunilingus is best served by intermittent long tongue strokes (tain’t to clit) , first to open up the labia a little, and then to spread around the love juice. This is just too awkward to do comfortably in a 69. Furthermore I can pay more attention to her feedback and deliver a variety of experiences that essentially provides her with the best that I can deliver. In the meantime I enjoy the prolonged delicious agony of an intense ignored woody. The fact is, she has to get off first. If I do, I lose all interest in serving her. When she gets off first, she gets more and more involved . ---
**Author:** ![sleestak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/919ad9/32.png) [@sleestak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sleestak)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/29 "2010-10-23T17:23:43Z")
Wow, I am in the minority here. I love it, usually. The woman I am with now gets really into it and I get pretty much instant feedback on how I am doing. The last woman\* I was with, well it was my favorite. She was a screamer. When I’d get her close to the edge she’d start screaming and it was a rather cool sensation. slee ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/30 "2010-10-23T17:44:49Z")
Why is there a “\*” next to “woman”? Inquiring minds want to know. ---
**Author:** ![gonzomax](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e8c25b/32.png) [@gonzomax](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gonzomax)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 5:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/31 "2010-10-23T17:47:03Z")
I have done it standing up. it requires a light girl and a strong enough man. Whatever floats your boat is good. ---
**Author:** ![Khaki\_Campbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Khaki\_Campbell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khaki_Campbell)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/32 "2010-10-23T17:52:09Z")
There’s another problem with 69 : The close view. Although most of the times cleanliness is in force, there are a few times when dried feces and/or dingleberries could be seen all their glory ☹ ---
**Author:** ![The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9fc348/32.png) [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Flying_Dutchman)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 6:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/33 "2010-10-23T18:05:11Z")
> [@Khaki\_Campbell](#): > > There’s another problem with 69 : > > The close view. Although most of the times cleanliness is in force, there are a few times when dried feces and/or dingleberries could be seen all their glory ☹ Actually, I think the problem is less likely with 69 than with an alternate position. By that I mean avoidance of the view. I would prefer the view however if only to avoid the more sustaining problem problem ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/34 "2010-10-23T18:16:08Z")
> [@Khaki\_Campbell](#): > > There’s another problem with 69 : > > The close view. Although most of the times cleanliness is in force, there are a few times when dried feces and/or dingleberries could be seen all their glory ☹ Unclick. I unclick you. Flaming Christ on a corn chip, let me unclick that back out of my brain. ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/35 "2010-10-23T18:36:22Z")
> [@Arrendajo](#): > > I like to concentrate on one or the other. The 6, or the 9? ---
**Author:** ![sleestak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/919ad9/32.png) [@sleestak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sleestak)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/36 "2010-10-23T19:06:45Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Why is there a “\*” next to “woman”? Inquiring minds want to know. I was going to add \*Awesome sex. But she was freaking nuts. My ex was great in bed (though not as good as my present girlie. I’ve been blessed recently) but turned out to be really wacked. Slee ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/37 "2010-10-23T21:26:59Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > Now that’s an interesting conclusion. Seems to me that it would be normal to say that you would not be able to give as well as you got because of distractions. But the “getting” part would surely be at least partially under the control of your partner. You cannot imagine that there would be a Cecil of 69 out there somewhere who could close the deal for you? Absolutely not. I have to make me come. Guys generally can’t make me come in any position. It takes too much concentration and has to be done exactly just so. I can count the number of times I’ve come from someone else’s actions on my fingers. I can guarantee you that no man will ever make me come in 69 position. No man has ever made me come through oral sex, period, let alone oral sex with a bunch of distractions. My orgasms are very hard to achieve. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/38 "2010-10-23T22:05:35Z")
I hope they are worth all the bother. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [October 23, 2010, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/39 "2010-10-23T23:11:12Z")
They generally are. 🙂 With aftershocks. ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/40 "2010-10-24T00:04:29Z")
For a few minutes here and there it’s fun, but if you’re serious, gotta go with turns. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070.md?page=3)