# I'd rather take turns than do 69... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 23, 2010, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070 "2010-10-23T03:11:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Zsofia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/7bcc69/32.png) [@Zsofia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zsofia)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 12:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/41 "2010-10-24T00:07:35Z")
Yeah, I’d rather concentrate on one or the other. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/42 "2010-10-24T02:10:04Z")
> [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](#): > > It seems to me, in my experience, thay cunilingus is best served by intermittent long tongue strokes (tain’t to clit) , first to open up the labia a little, and then to spread around the love juice. This is just too awkward to do comfortably in a 69. > > Furthermore I can pay more attention to her feedback and deliver a variety of experiences that essentially provides her with the best that I can deliver. > > In the meantime I enjoy the prolonged delicious agony of an intense ignored woody. > > The fact is, she has to get off first. If I do, I lose all interest in serving her. > > When she gets off first, she gets more and more involved . This says it perfectly for me. I have the added issue that I’m not a big fan of receiving anyway. I like to give and then once I’ve given we can move on to other stuff like intercourse. Reminds me of the old joke. “Want to do a 69?”, “Nah, lets do a 68, you go down on me and I’ll owe you one.” ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/43 "2010-10-24T03:16:41Z")
> [@Richard\_Pearse](#): > > Reminds me of the old joke. “Want to do a 69?”, “Nah, lets do a 68, you go down on me and I’ll owe you one.” Or maybe it was post #26 that reminded you? 😛 > [@gonzomax](#): > > I have done it standing up. it requires a light girl and a strong enough man. Or a light man and a strong enough girl. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/44 "2010-10-24T03:20:29Z")
I’m 5’4", so I’m with you, Opal. (Except that _one_ time…) ---
**Author:** ![sitchensis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sitchensis/32/4892_2.png) [@sitchensis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sitchensis)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/45 "2010-10-24T03:34:28Z")
I like that it puts the sensitive head of my penis against her tongue , it feels way better than the traditional way of tongue on the underside and top of her mouth on the gland side. I also like that she can control the intensity of her clitoral stimulation, maybe she is fairly sensitive to direct stimulation at first and then as she gets into it she can press down to your mouth a little harder. I also like the view and the feeling of her thighs around my head. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/46 "2010-10-24T03:38:30Z")
> [@sitchensis](#): > > I also like that she can control the intensity of her clitoral stimulation, maybe she is fairly sensitive to direct stimulation at first and then as she gets into it she can press down to your mouth a little harder. > > I also like the view and the feeling of her thighs around my head. For this, she can also just sit on your face. ---
**Author:** ![Richard\_Pearse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/richard_pearse/32/13144_2.png) [@Richard\_Pearse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Richard_Pearse)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/47 "2010-10-24T04:10:52Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > Or maybe it was post #26 that reminded you? Oops. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![History\_Geek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b19c9b/32.png) [@History\_Geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/History_Geek)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/48 "2010-10-24T05:56:22Z")
My girlfriend and I are both really keen on performing oral sex, so this is a fantastic way to indulge together. It’s almost never done to orgasm though - it’s more of a way to simultaneously enjoy acts that we usually do in turns. And since we aren’t necessarily working to ignite the fireworks, we can be a little more creative in the way we manipulate each other. Which usually results in one of us taking a moment to enjoy something and then getting right back to it. Definitely a “lingering” position for us. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/49 "2010-10-24T07:07:20Z")
> [@Thudlow\_Boink](#): > > The 6, or the 9? Yes. ---
**Author:** ![Ostrya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/35a633/32.png) [@Ostrya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ostrya)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 7:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/50 "2010-10-24T07:12:20Z")
Wow, this subject was brought up with new girlfriend on ph, what a coincidence to see this topic. Totally 100% agree with the OP. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/51 "2010-10-24T12:47:06Z")
It may be a matter of comparing apples to oranges, though. Yes, two barbers can’t cut each other’s hair at the same time, but ping pong is more fun with a partner than against a backboard. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/52 "2010-10-24T12:58:19Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > I think I can safely say that I would find it impossible to orgasm doing 69. I’ve got $5.00 that says you are wrong. Don’t trust me? I’ll let you pick who holds the cash. So. . .we on?😃 ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 1:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/53 "2010-10-24T13:29:39Z")
My partner loves giving and not taking. I love taking and not giving (believe me, I give in many other ways). So neither “69” nor “take turns” is an option for us. ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/54 "2010-10-24T13:37:22Z")
> [@bienville](#): > > I don’t like performing oral sex (cunnilingus) in a 69 position. It’s not a matter of giving and receiving at the same time being a distraction, it’s a matter of finding the mechanics of performing cunnilingus to be difficult in that position: one of the two main issues is that I have to bend my neck uncomfortably, the other is that my technique works better when the clitoris is at the top (as I face it) rather than at the bottom. This. Although I still like it, but its not my preference. ---
**Author:** ![tattman40](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/db5fbb/32.png) [@tattman40](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tattman40)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2010, 6:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/55 "2010-10-24T18:36:13Z")
Chinese man asks his wife…“How about a little 69?” She says…“Beef and broccoli again?” ---
**Author:** ![ducati](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/cc9497/32.png) [@ducati](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ducati)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2010, 2:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/56 "2010-10-25T02:00:57Z")
Mrs. and I like 77 better. You get eight more that way! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2010, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/57 "2010-10-25T14:35:03Z")
For us it’s not a means to an end, but a position where we can both give pleasure to the other for a while but generally not come from it. If we’re trying to get one done in the morning before the kids wake up, we don’t attempt it. But when we have all the time in the world and no sudden surprises from the kids to worry about, it’s part of the regular repertoire. My wife does sometimes come that way, but usually not. It does allow me to easily access her ass, which is sometimes that little something extra that puts her over the edge. I like it because she can take me deeper in her throat in this position than she can if she approaches me from the other direction- I guess it’s the shape of my dick, or something. I don’t think I’ve ever come in this position, but that’s not really the goal. ---
**Author:** ![control-z](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eada6e/32.png) [@control-z](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/control-z)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 2010, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/58 "2010-10-25T14:42:38Z")
I like 69 a lot but my gf doesn’t, for the reason cited by the OP. She still indulges me once in a while so it’s all good. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2010, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/59 "2010-10-26T01:40:43Z")
> [@History\_Geek](#): > > Definitely a “lingering” position for us. Yeah, that’s it. What a nice way to waste a few hours, alternating, then simultaneous, repeat. ---
**Author:** ![kombatminipig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/b5ac83/32.png) [@kombatminipig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kombatminipig)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2010, 11:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070/60 "2010-10-26T11:37:33Z")
I love it, usually with me on the bottom. It doesn’t really matter to me if it leads to orgasm or not, there’s plenty of time for that. I love the sensation of both of us being to busy pleasuring the other to do anything else though. It’s intense. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/id-rather-take-turns-than-do-69/558070.md?page=4)