# If a friend pays a prostitute for another friend...

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423>\
**Category:** Factual Questions\
**Created:** [April 16, 2004, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423 "2004-04-16T20:47:11Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
**Page:** 2

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\
**Post date:** [April 17, 2004, 8:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423/21 "2004-04-17T20:25:53Z")

</div>

> [@Roland Deschain](#):
>
> I’m afraid that Virginia definition would include many marriages and perhaps MOST …  
> relationships outside of marriage.

That’s a rather cynical view of marriage - and, indeed, of sex in the context of relationships.

How about it? Girlfriends, do you give up the booty to your boyfriends for money or its equivalent? Husbands, do you sleep with your wives for money or its equivalent?

---

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![CC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f1d935/32.png) [@CC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CC)\
**Post date:** [April 17, 2004, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423/22 "2004-04-17T21:25:05Z")

</div>

So one question that is evoked here is why would having sex with someone become illegal as soon as funds are involved? It’s not prostitution if someone has sex with a strange woman on the street, if he doesn’t pay her.

Also - someone once said about marriage - probably more eloquently than this, that the sex you pay for is inexpensive compared to the sex you get for free.

---

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\
**Post date:** [April 18, 2004, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423/23 "2004-04-18T03:01:14Z")

</div>

> [@Roland Deschain](#):
>
> I had more than one occasion where a first date ended in sex. Why was it legal that the girl had sex with me

What makes you think it was legal?

Laws on this vary widely by state, but it’d be illegal in many of them. For example, in Minnesota, sex between 2 unmarried people is illegal, _“whether for a consideration or no”._ So even if no money or other property changes hands, it’s still prohibited.

Of course, the police don’t generally try to enforce this too much.

---

<div class="post-metadata">

**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\
**Post date:** [April 18, 2004, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423/24 "2004-04-18T03:11:52Z")

</div>

> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#):
>
> Laws on this vary widely by state, but it’d be illegal in many of them. For example, in Minnesota, sex between 2 unmarried people is illegal, _“whether for a consideration or no”._ So even if no money or other property changes hands, it’s still prohibited.
> 
> Of course, the police don’t generally try to enforce this too much.

I’d be interested in a cite for this. Also, such a law would IMHBNLO be unenforcable under Griswold, Roe, Lawrence, etc.

[Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-friend-pays-a-prostitute-for-another-friend/240423.md?page=1)