# If a woman has a past relationship with a black man she's tainted forever. Why? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 5, 2013, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743 "2013-07-05T18:45:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 12
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2014, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/221 "2014-08-19T20:35:10Z")
> [@Clamrammer](#): > > well yes of course because usually white women who date black men are not interested in white men because they won’t accept the whole ghetto act,ebonics thing. sounding like an illiterate retard is not cool,it might be tolerable for a little while but it gets annoying. Yes, that’s definitely the reason. It has nothing to do with you or your personality. Anyone can see you’re a man of sophistication, **Clamrammer**. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2014, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/222 "2014-08-19T20:47:29Z")
hahahahaahaha **Clamrammer** That’s seriously in the contending for one of the best usernames on the board. ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2014, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/223 "2014-08-19T21:16:34Z")
Mr. Clamrammer sounds like a real catch. I can imagine that he’s forced to eliminate entire categories of women from his dating pool. ---
**Author:** ![Marley23](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Marley23](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marley23)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2014, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/224 "2014-08-19T21:21:07Z")
> [@Emiliana](#): > > I can imagine that he’s forced to eliminate entire categories of women from his dating pool. Women who don’t like having their clams rammed, for instance. What sad lives they must lead. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2014, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/225 "2014-08-19T21:41:25Z")
White people do \ like _this_. Black people do \ like _that_. **Clamrammer** , you should try an open-mike night at a comedy club. In 1986. ---
**Author:** ![kojinwarrior45](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@kojinwarrior45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kojinwarrior45)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2014, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/226 "2014-11-20T14:34:33Z")
no thanks ill leave that to cuckolds ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2014, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/227 "2014-11-20T14:55:18Z")
> [@bup](#): > > White people do \ like _this_. > > Black people do \ like _that_. > > **Clamrammer** , you should try an open-mike night at a comedy club. > > In 1986. > [@kojinwarrior45](#): > > no thanks ill leave that to cuckolds Say, is somebody admitting to using multiple user names? Because that just might be a totally different black & white issue… ---
**Author:** ![EricThuney](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/eb9ed0/32.png) [@EricThuney](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EricThuney)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 12:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/228 "2015-01-08T12:28:23Z")
I’m tired of hearing about it. Racist this and racist that. Blah blah blah. The bottom line is its about choice. I don’t care for women who dated black for no other reason than I don’t like butterscotch pudding. It’s a preference. The amount of people we have in this world. I’m sure we can all find mr. or mrs. right. We were all raised a certain way. I preferr to keep my preference white. It’s not right or wrong its what I want. This argument over dick size and tainted love. Is ridiculous. I’m raising my kids to love and respect all humans. But I believe there is enough problems in society that I can help remove the scrutiny of a mixed relationship. ---
**Author:** ![orcenio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/orcenio/32/1036_2.png) [@orcenio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/orcenio)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/229 "2015-01-08T12:52:54Z")
> [@EricThuney](#): > > I’m tired of hearing about it. Racist this and racist that. Blah blah blah. The bottom line is its about choice. I don’t care for women who dated black for no other reason than I don’t like butterscotch pudding. It’s a preference. The amount of people we have in this world. I’m sure we can all find mr. or mrs. right. We were all raised a certain way. I preferr to keep my preference white. It’s not right or wrong its what I want. This argument over dick size and tainted love. Is ridiculous. I’m raising my kids to love and respect all humans. But I believe there is enough problems in society that I can help remove the scrutiny of a mixed relationship. No, it’s racist (and quite sexist too). Noone’s gonna stop calling the sky blue on your account. ---
**Author:** ![iiandyiiii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/iiandyiiii/32/7924_2.png) [@iiandyiiii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iiandyiiii)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/230 "2015-01-08T13:06:01Z")
Yep. Rejecting a woman for no other reason than the races she’s dated in the past is both racist and sexist. Do you really think that women that have dated a black person are somehow less worthy, less beautiful, less moral, or what? I don’t buy that it’s for the same reason you don’t like butterscotch pudding – that might excuse a preference for white girls… but white girls that haven’t dated a black person? There’s something else going on. By the way, this isn’t a large problem. No one really cares who you date – it is your business, and not mine, except that you brought it up. And since you brought it up, I’ll give you my opinion. ---
**Author:** ![Oly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/oly/32/8255_2.png) [@Oly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oly)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 1:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/231 "2015-01-08T13:41:39Z")
Because racecar…oop, I mean racist. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/232 "2015-01-08T14:50:14Z")
> [@EricThuney](#): > > I preferr to keep my preference white. So why are you talking about other people’s preferences? > [@](#): > > I’m raising my kids to love and respect all humans. … as long as _those_ humans know their place, amirite? ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/233 "2015-01-08T16:01:23Z")
> [@EricThuney](#): > > **Racism will always exist right or wrong it’s here to stay.** I’m with you, brother. Why should be bother fighting racism if we can’t even tell whether it’s right or wrong, and we can’t do anything about it anyway? Wanna grab a beer? ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [January 8, 2015, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/234 "2015-01-08T16:39:59Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > So why are you talking about other people’s preferences? Because he’s using it as a racism test. If a white woman has dated a black man, it shows that she’s not racist enough for his tastes. Makes perfect sense to me. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2015, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/235 "2015-01-09T08:23:27Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > I’m with you, brother. Why should be bother fighting racism if we can’t even tell whether it’s right or wrong, and we can’t do anything about it anyway? > > Wanna grab a beer? You are so naughty. A [Top Gun High Five](http://i.imgur.com/UGtAqVR.gif) to you, kind good sir. ---
**Author:** ![Melbourne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5e925/32.png) [@Melbourne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Melbourne)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2015, 10:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/236 "2015-01-09T10:33:51Z")
[QUOTE=Belowjob2.0;16445062 I wonder if dating between Catholics and Protestants in Northern Ireland results in comparable shunning? Or if it dating doesn’t occur often enough to make it an issue? [/QUOTE] I think, not any more. But we knew a mixed couple in Aus who left Ireland in the early 70’s. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [January 9, 2015, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/237 "2015-01-09T13:08:22Z")
> [@Amateur\_Barbarian](#): > > \*\* > > I completely cop to the question sounding racist, perhaps even being inherently racist, but swear it’s not from any racist basis. Excluding the world of Celebrities™, which is reality the way Toontown is, I have yet to see an interracial couple, black male/white female, where the woman is anyone I’d give a second glance. They’ve invariably been on the wrong side of older for the couple, notably unattractive in some aspect, had behavior that made me wonder about their mental state, and in the cases where I interacted with them at any length, tended to confirm that they were a little on the damaged/needy/desperate side. I live in a diverse neighborhood - purposely diverse as in we picked it because of the diverse nature. There is a white woman married to a black man in the cul de sac next to me who would, by most people’s standards, be “better than average looking” for a suburban soccer mom. Thin and fit. Long reddish brown hair - thick - usually when I see her in a soccer mom ponytail. A face with two matching eyes, a nose that is the right size and shape, and obvious orthodontia. Down the street is the mother of a friend of my son’s - same family configuration. With the exception that this woman’s hair is darker and shorter, and she is taller, same sort of fit, healthy, soccer mom good looks. Granted, they are both suburban mom’s in their 40s - they don’t stop traffic or spend time drawing attention to themselves. And as suburban moms in their 40s with teenagers - you don’t generally see them coupled with their spouses - she has the son at baseball, he’s off with the daughter at her track meet. Two jobs, multiple kids - you don’t tend to take your trips to Target together. So even if you did notice either of them as an attractive woman in public, its unlikely you’d realize they were half of an interracial couple. ---
**Author:** ![TBG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c89c15/32.png) [@TBG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TBG)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2015, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/238 "2015-01-10T02:44:06Z")
I don’t believe this mind you, but maybe they’re worried about the vag being stretched out from giant black cocks, no longer being able to properly accommodate a tiny white penis. Dumb, but yeah, people that think women are tainted by black men are dumb too. ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2015, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/239 "2015-01-10T04:31:53Z")
> [@TBG](#): > > I don’t believe this mind you, but maybe they’re worried about the vag being stretched out from giant black cocks, no longer being able to properly accommodate a tiny white penis. Dumb, but yeah, people that think women are tainted by black men are dumb too. Let us assume for the sake of addressing this the big cock thig is true, just to make a point. Porn vids asure me there are plenty of well endowed white guys too, and to put this in terms a straight guy could grasp does a big turd permanently stretch your butthole? A vagina doesn’t work like that. (This post isn’t directed at you TBG, I was just commentig on the thinking you describe.) ---
**Author:** ![drifter777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bc79bd/32.png) [@drifter777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drifter777)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2015, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/240 "2015-03-18T22:48:01Z")
I would not date a woman who I knew had dated a black guy. If I was already dating her and found out she had dated a black guy I’d dump her. I too believe that white women who date black men are tainted. I am definitely a racist on this particular subject. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743.md?page=11) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743.md?page=13)