# If a woman has a past relationship with a black man she's tainted forever. Why? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 5, 2013, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743 "2013-07-05T18:45:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 13
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 18, 2015, 10:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/241 "2015-03-18T22:51:24Z")
> [@drifter777](#): > > I am definitely a racist on this particular subject. Oh, come on. Don’t hide your light under a bushel. ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 12:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/242 "2015-03-19T00:47:10Z")
That’s the third guy on this page alone who joined just to spread their ignorance on this one topic. At least, I assume it’s three guys. ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/243 "2015-03-19T01:06:51Z")
> [@BlankSlate](#): > > That’s the third guy on this page alone who joined just to spread their ignorance on this one topic. At least, I assume it’s three guys. It’s a real crowd pleaser, this thread. I think I’ll sign up on random message boards and post that I have no interest in dating anyone of any gender, race, sexual preference, or national origin. Or anyone who has dated same. ---
**Author:** ![Ukulele\_Ike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/df788c/32.png) [@Ukulele\_Ike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ukulele_Ike)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/244 "2015-03-19T01:08:35Z")
I have never laughed so much at the SDMB. This is the best thread EVAR!!! ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 1:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/245 "2015-03-19T13:21:36Z")
Part of me desperately wants to know what Google search terms bring up this thread. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/246 "2015-03-19T13:46:09Z")
Even if it turns out to be +“Really Not All That Bright” +“black cocks”? ---
**Author:** ![Emiliana](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f0a364/32.png) [@Emiliana](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emiliana)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/247 "2015-03-19T14:26:04Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Even if it turns out to be +“Really Not All That Bright” +“black cocks”? I would try that combination to see if this thread is at the top of the search list, but my google history is already sufficiently odd. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 2:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/248 "2015-03-19T14:31:22Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Even if it turns out to be +“Really Not All That Bright” +“black cocks”? That one does it! ---
**Author:** ![racepug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f1d935/32.png) [@racepug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racepug)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/249 "2015-03-19T16:29:03Z")
> [@Lamia](#): > > Because most (American) racists consider black people to be “lower” than Hispanics and Asians. Is this seriously a surprise to you? > > I don’t know that figures are available just for interracial dating, but as far as interracial marriage goes then in the US there are more than twice as many white woman/black man couples as there are white woman/Asian man couples.\* So a racist who finds both types of couples equally objectionable is going to hear about or meet a lot more of the former, which would presumably lead to talking about it more. > > \*In this [Pew report on interracial marriage](http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2012/02/16/the-rise-of-intermarriage/3/#chapter-2-characteristics-of-intermarried-newlyweds), scroll down to “Ranking the Newlyweds by Husband and Wife’s Race/Ethnicity” and see the “Which Couple Makes More?” chart. It shows that **Asian husband/white wife couples make up only 0.6% of all married couples in the US** , but black husband/white wife is 1.3%. I thought I saw a statistic in a not-very-old National Geographic, though, that stated that THE least common marriage combination in the U.S. (at least amongst heterosexual couples) is: Asian man, African-American woman. I don’t remember the %, but I’m pretty sure I remember that it was _the_ lowest one. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/250 "2015-03-19T16:43:04Z")
Well, you’d kind of expect that grouping (though not necessarily the gender portion) to be uncommon. Black people are a small fraction of the population and Asians are an even smaller fraction. ---
**Author:** ![LurkerInNJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ed655f/32.png) [@LurkerInNJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LurkerInNJ)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 5:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/251 "2015-03-19T17:56:12Z")
> [@Amateur\_Barbarian](#): > > Let me approach an answer via a question. > > Can anyone point to a “first rate” (for lack of a better term) white woman who has publicly dated or married a black man? This may sound incredibly racist, but I sincerely don’t intend it to be. I just can’t think of a white woman who is attractive, self-confident and individually successful who has a black mate. The ones that come to mind are older, unattractive to some degree, have evident personal issues or bring nothing much to the relationship. Without Googling or anything, just off the top of my head: Idina Menzel - Taye Diggs Heidi Klum - Seal Chelsea Handler - 50 Cent I really wouldn’t call any of those women unattractive, lacking in confidence, unsuccessful or not bringing anything to the relationship. I’m white, older (but so is my SO), attractive, make good money, fit, blah blah and my SO is British, black and owns his own business (fitness related - and he is VERY fit) with several locations (so he makes an extremely good living, even more than I do). ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 6:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/252 "2015-03-19T18:42:13Z")
Heidi Klum and Chelsea Handler _are_ “older”, aren’t they? ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/253 "2015-03-19T19:08:10Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > …and Asians are an even smaller fraction. I see what you did there. ---
**Author:** ![drifter777](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bc79bd/32.png) [@drifter777](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drifter777)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/254 "2015-03-19T19:14:10Z")
> [@BlankSlate](#): > > That’s the third guy on this page alone who joined just to spread their ignorance on this one topic. At least, I assume it’s three guys. I’m not spreading anything - just giving my view on this subject. And who are you to judge me as “ignorant”? Is anyone who disagrees with you ignorant? My position is every bit as valid as yours and is the overwhelming majority opinion among my generation. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/255 "2015-03-19T19:18:48Z")
> [@LurkerInNJ](#): > > Without Googling or anything, just off the top of my head: > > Idina Menzel - Taye Diggs > Heidi Klum - Seal > Chelsea Handler - 50 Cent > > I really wouldn’t call any of those women unattractive, lacking in confidence, unsuccessful or not bringing anything to the relationship. Eliza Dushku - Rick Fox Mariah Carey - Nick Cannon Ellen Pompeo - Chris Ivery Dushku is an accomplished actress, an alum of the “Buffy” universe, “Tru Calling,” and “Dollhouse” TV series as well as film success. Carey is a phenomenal pop star. Pompeo is the eponymous Dr. Meredith Grey on “Grey’s Anatomy,” now running in its eleventh season. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/256 "2015-03-19T19:19:51Z")
> [@](#): > > Is anyone who disagrees with you ignorant? In this particular case, yes. ---
**Author:** ![Bricker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@Bricker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bricker)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/257 "2015-03-19T19:22:14Z")
> [@drifter777](#): > > I’m not spreading anything - just giving my view on this subject. And who are you to judge me as “ignorant”? Is anyone who disagrees with you ignorant? My position is every bit as valid as yours and is the overwhelming majority opinion among my generation. I doubt that statement. Your “position” is that there is some sort of taint that arises following a white woman’s dating a black man. You defend this position as not based on ignorance. But I say it is. I say you cannot define or explain the taint you allege exists without relying on claims that are factually untrue, and that makes your position based on ignorance. But I am willing to be convinced of my error. ---
**Author:** ![monstro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ba9def/32.png) [@monstro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/monstro)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/258 "2015-03-19T19:26:14Z")
> [@Bricker](#): > > Eliza Dushku - Rick Fox > Mariah Carey - Nick Cannon > Ellen Pompeo - Chris Ivery > > Dushku is an accomplished actress, an alum of the “Buffy” universe, “Tru Calling,” and “Dollhouse” TV series as well as film success. Carey is a phenomenal pop star. Pompeo is the eponymous Dr. Meredith Grey on “Grey’s Anatomy,” now running in its eleventh season. One of these women ain’t like the others. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/259 "2015-03-19T19:31:00Z")
Not sure if it’s what monstro was getting at but **Carey** is biracial herself. Also, Eliza Dushku and Ellen Pompeo never made anything as terrible as _Glitter_. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/260 "2015-03-19T19:41:49Z")
> [@drifter777](#): > > I’m not spreading anything - just giving my view on this subject. And who are you to judge me as “ignorant”? Is anyone who disagrees with you ignorant? My position is every bit as valid as yours and is the overwhelming majority opinion among my generation. 95, huh? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743.md?page=12) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743.md?page=14)