# If a woman has a past relationship with a black man she's tainted forever. Why? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 5, 2013, 6:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743 "2013-07-05T18:45:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 14
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/261 "2015-03-19T20:34:34Z")
> [@drifter777](#): > > I’m not spreading anything Did your John Deere break down? ---
**Author:** ![Belowjob2.0](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Belowjob2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belowjob2.0)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/262 "2015-03-19T20:36:16Z")
> [@drifter777](#): > > I’m not spreading anything - just giving my view on this subject. And who are you to judge me as “ignorant”? Is anyone who disagrees with you ignorant? My position is every bit as valid as yours and is the overwhelming majority opinion among my generation. Can you prove in any way that this is the opinion of your generation? I’m quite sure it’s not, but if you’ve got data, by all means, bring it. ---
**Author:** ![Belowjob2.0](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Belowjob2.0](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Belowjob2.0)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/263 "2015-03-19T20:41:18Z")
> [@drifter777](#): > > I would not date a woman who I knew had dated a black guy. If I was already dating her and found out she had dated a black guy I’d dump her. I too believe that white women who date black men are tainted. I am definitely a racist on this particular subject. Maybe you should skip a step, and just date black men yourself. That’s what you’re so desperately afraid of, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/264 "2015-03-19T20:49:26Z")
> [@Belowjob2.0](#): > > Maybe you should skip a step, and just date black men yourself. That’s what you’re so desperately afraid of, isn’t it? I highly recommend it. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/265 "2015-03-19T20:50:02Z")
You’re tainted! Now you’ll never be able to date a racist. Tsk. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 9:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/266 "2015-03-19T21:16:39Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > You’re tainted! Now you’ll never be able to date a racist. Tsk. You’re mean. ---
**Author:** ![Lee\_Q](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/aeb1de/32.png) [@Lee\_Q](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lee_Q)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 11:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/267 "2015-03-19T23:13:28Z")
> [@astro](#): > > In looking around the web and IRL there seems to be a number of white men who will not consider dating a white woman who has dated or had a past sexual relationship with a black man. In some cases if they find out about her interracial dating history only after they begin dating they will make something else up as to why they are bailing on the relationship. > > Obviously it’s racist on it’s face, but the strength of the attitude surprises me. Even fairly attractive and accomplished women are shunned as some sort of unclean trash if they have dated black men. I only see this attitude with respect to white men judging white women for dating black men. Possibly other scenarios exist, but this is the main one I see. This race centric judgment does not seem to be present for any other interracial hookups. > > Why does this extreme antipathy exist? While it’s obnoxiously racist it’s not just poor rednecks espousing this attitude. I’ve seen this attitude ranging from trailer parks to the executive suites. And oddly some people who have this attitude aren’t that overtly racist in real world behavior, it’s just that specific hookup scenario that makes them lock the doors on even considering women who have dated black men. > > Why the extreme attitude? Inferiority complex? 😃 Sorry, couldn’t resist. But seriously, I’ll go with the same thing someone else said: racism. Doesn’t seem that complicated to me, although I have to say though I’m sure there are undoubtedly men who feel this way, I haven’t noticed it’s as prevalent as you are making it to be, and mind you I think there is a LOT of racism that still goes on in this country. Like, a LOT LOT. Just haven’t particularly noticed this exact niche variety of it. What’s interesting is that I’ve seen studies and statistics which indicate that one of the most popular genres of fetish porn is “white man watches black man have sex with white man’s wife/gf” and also “white man forced by white wife to submit to black man” ranks up there apparently. Consumer of said porn? White men. So there’s that. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/268 "2015-03-19T23:22:19Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > You’re tainted! Now you’ll never be able to date a racist. Tsk. Only b/c her husband’s not so open-minded about her dating. ---
**Author:** ![Lee\_Q](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/aeb1de/32.png) [@Lee\_Q](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lee_Q)\ **Post date:** [March 19, 2015, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/269 "2015-03-19T23:22:26Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > By that line of thinking, white guys should want a woman whose ex was Asian. The “white guy with fixation on Asian women” trope is very well known and very real. Along the same lines, or should I say for similar reasons, men who prefer to only date or hook up with “spinners.” Think about the dynamics involved and it becomes pretty clear that guys like this have a whole mess of insecurity issues. ---
**Author:** ![Reluctant\_A](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/839c29/32.png) [@Reluctant\_A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reluctant_A)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/270 "2015-03-20T04:09:37Z")
Heh. I remember seeing this thread, back when I was just a lurker. I still want to know whether the Dope ever came to an official consensus about what a “first rate” white woman looks like? ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/271 "2015-03-20T04:19:34Z")
> [@Nawth\_Chucka](#): > > Only b/c her husband’s not so open-minded about her dating. He’s kind of unreasonable about it. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/272 "2015-03-20T04:21:21Z")
> [@jsgoddess](#): > > He’s kind of unreasonable about it. You had plenty of opportunity to date all the racists you wanted before you met me. Not my fault you didn’t use your time wisely. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/273 "2015-03-20T13:18:48Z")
You shut up, tainter! Not only did you narrow our dating pool by sexing white women, you then narrowed it further by marrying them. ---
**Author:** ![Aspidistra](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aspidistra/32/3894_2.png) [@Aspidistra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Aspidistra)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/274 "2015-03-20T13:31:47Z")
> [@Belowjob2.0](#): > > I wonder if dating between Catholics and Protestants in Northern Ireland results in comparable shunning? Or if it dating doesn’t occur often enough to make it an issue? > [@Melbourne](#): > > I think, not any more. But we knew a mixed couple in Aus who left Ireland in the early 70’s. An Irish friend at Uni (in the UK) had been turfed out of home for her Catholic boyfriend. Early 90’s. So I wouldn’t be totally sure it might not happen still. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 1:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/275 "2015-03-20T13:44:37Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > You shut up, tainter! Not only did you narrow our dating pool by sexing white women, you then narrowed it further by marrying them. I have no regrets. ---
**Author:** ![G0sp3l](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c68b51/32.png) [@G0sp3l](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/G0sp3l)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/276 "2015-03-20T16:05:15Z")
> [@Reluctant\_A](#): > > Heh. I remember seeing this thread, back when I was just a lurker. I still want to know whether the Dope ever came to an official consensus about what a “first rate” white woman looks like? I think Kelly Brook is first rate, YMMV 🙂 I’ve tainted a number of white women in my years as a black man. I’m so ashamed. I can only plead youth. I did not know I was ruining them forever. In my defense, I did not stretch their ‘vag’ by any shape, form or fashion. ---
**Author:** ![Helena330](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/helena330/32/531_2.png) [@Helena330](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helena330)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/277 "2015-03-20T16:48:36Z")
> [@G0sp3l](#): > > I think Kelly Brook is first rate, YMMV 🙂 > > I’ve tainted a number of white women in my years as a black man. I’m so ashamed. I can only plead youth. I did not know I was ruining them forever. In my defense, I did not stretch their ‘vag’ by any shape, form or fashion. I see it as an advantage for these women. It saves them from spending time, much less spending their lives with men like **drifter777**. ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/278 "2015-03-20T16:55:25Z")
If one wants to get tainted, what should be done? It sounds extremely exciting. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/279 "2015-03-20T16:57:51Z")
I gather the normal method is to [take someone’s tears](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CQ5_QxwFjNI) and that’s not really oh. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [March 20, 2015, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743/280 "2015-03-20T17:00:25Z")
> [@Reluctant\_A](#): > > Heh. I remember seeing this thread, back when I was just a lurker. I still want to know whether the Dope ever came to an official consensus about what a “first rate” white woman looks like? Just look for the USDA stamp. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743.md?page=13) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-a-woman-has-a-past-relationship-with-a-black-man-shes-tainted-forever-why/662743.md?page=15)