# If I hear the words "I only date tall guys" one more time... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 29, 2010, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498 "2010-07-29T20:22:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/41 "2010-07-30T01:28:03Z")
> [@Slithy\_Tove](#): > > Keep tabs on her. Don’t stalk her: she’s moved on, and, dating-wise, so have you. But just keep tabs on her; through friends, associates, paid informants in need be. > > Until you find out she’s dating a 5’6" man. Then slap her with the biggest fucking lawsuit. Not just some pamphlet-size summons: drop a fifty-pound bankers box full of indictment right there on the table between them, on top of their margaritas and tapas. > > “But he’s really sweet. I know what I told you, but I think I can get past that.” > > Tell it to the judge, sister. I like the cut of your jib, mister (miss, ms. etc). ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/42 "2010-07-30T01:37:40Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > My impression, for some reason, was that the OP was talking about online dating profiles. After reading it again, I see he didn’t say that, so I don’t know why I thought it. > > I agree that if it’s said in casual conversation, it’s a lot less meaningful. I’ve got this multiple times each from 3 different sites, as well as in casual conversation, _as well as_ chatting up someone I think is attractive. It definitely is a trend, and it definitely is shallow. I would happily date anyone I was attracted to regardless of height or weight. Like said above, attraction is attraction. Taller, shorter, fatter, skinnier. It really doesn’t matter as long as you’re a nice person and we get along swimmingly. Getting along fuckingly is a plus! ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/43 "2010-07-30T01:42:11Z")
> [@even\_sven](#): > > I think age is a better analogy than weight. How many men are willing to date girls 5-10 year younger than them? Probably most guys. Now…how many men are willing to date women 5-10 years older than them? Extremely few. A good portion of men won’t even date a woman two or three years older than them, even if she doesn’t look older and nobody would know the difference. There are even a meaningful number of men who consider women their own age to be too old to date. > > At least you don’t keep getting shorter every year! Umm. I beg to differ. 5 years younger than me is OK, however 10 … more ? A 20-something year old? Nah. That’s a deal breaker for me. I’ve actually been attracted to older women since I started liking females. BTW: just turned 43. Dating someone exactly my age was cool! We had so much to relate to. So, as you see everyone, I have had successful relationships. I just noticed a trend, at least with me. ---
**Author:** ![Markxxx](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5daacb/32.png) [@Markxxx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Markxxx)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/44 "2010-07-30T01:43:40Z")
You can’t blame someone for getting what they want. If a girl says “I only date guys taller than me,” and she gets lots of dates, how’s that her fault? Is she supposed to take less than she’s capable of getting? I have never really bought into this “I can’t get a date because…” OK it may happen, I won’t deny that, but if something happens to you more than once or twice, it’s probably you. Supposing your a total jerk, of course you don’t know this 🙂 Supposing you ask a girl out and she doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying what a jerk you are. So she says “I only date guys taller than me.” People got always got a handle. You’re fat, short, too tall, poor, wrong race… Your time will come or it might not, but you can’t allow yourself to upset by it. Learn one thing from me and you will be well off. NEVER let anyone dictate your happiness. ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/45 "2010-07-30T01:48:03Z")
> [@GESancMan](#): > > I hear you, **dmatsch**. hat infuriates me is when I see some ad or profile or whatever that looks great in every way, including her being around 5’ tall, but then she states she’s only interested in dating dudes who are like 6’4". Are you fuckin’ kidding me? Then I take a deep breath, realize she must be pretty damn shallow and superficial, and move on to the next one. Exactly my point. The latest one was 5’2". I sat there and thought about it for a bit. She goes to hug the guy and her face ends up in his gut. Or they go to kiss and she has to get a chair. Or when they’re … you know. Staring into his belly button??? Ick. She (they) were/was shallow and I have moved on. By “moving on”, I mean I’m still fucking single. ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 1:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/46 "2010-07-30T01:52:40Z")
[quote=“lindsaybluth, post:39, topic:548498”] > [@StusBlues](#): > > Also, OP, there are some studies showing people lie like crazy about their height on dating profiles. So add a few inches if ya feel like it. No, I will not lie. That’s what I pride myself on when I chat up a lady and in online profiles is my honesty. What you see/hear/read is what you’re getting. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/47 "2010-07-30T02:06:08Z")
> [@dmatsch](#): > > [No, I will not lie. That’s what I pride myself on when I chat up a lady and in online profiles is my honesty. What you see/hear/read is what you’re getting. Never lie about your height. I’ve gone out with guys who said they were 5’11 on their profile, but in reality were two inches or more shorter than me. Not only did they become instant liars in my eyes, but I took their lies as a direct insult to my intelligence. ---
**Author:** ![GHO57](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/df788c/32.png) [@GHO57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GHO57)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/48 "2010-07-30T02:12:06Z")
I’m sorry… must’ve missed something. You would actually \*\*want \*\*to date women who judge people by height? Hell, _I_ wouldn’t date a woman who wouldn’t date you, any more than I would date an openly racist woman. I really don’t have many requirements for women… but shallow and intolerant are the worst deal breakers for me. ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/49 "2010-07-30T02:20:29Z")
> [@GHO57](#): > > I’m sorry.. must’ve missed something. You would actually \*\*want \*\*to date women who judge people by height? Hell, _I_ wouldn’t date a woman who wouldn’t date you, any more than I would date an openly racist woman. I really don’t have many requirements for women… but shallow and intolerant are the worst deal breakers for me. Yes, you did miss something. These women never made the first date. _I_ would never date a woman who would date a guy like me! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/50 "2010-07-30T02:28:03Z")
I’m so glad that I’m 6’. I hear this from chicks a LOT. ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/51 "2010-07-30T02:28:43Z")
I’m 5’6", my husband is 6’. I would never say that I’d _only_ date men my height or taller, and I can think of one or two shorter guys who I’ve been interested in, but I have a definite preference. It seems that at my height, or at least around the people I know, I’m on the tall side of average for women, and I get insanely self-conscious when I’m standing next to people who are shorter than I am. I just feel huge and out of place. Tall men make me feel better about myself because I don’t feel like I stand out. It doesn’t help that I enjoy wearing heels! I know it’s completely ridiculous and I should just get over it, but there it is. I guess that makes me shallow, but I’d rather think it makes me someone who wants to feel better in her own skin and doesn’t like feeling uncomfortable. Probably helps that I’m not dating, so I don’t have to ever turn anyone down! ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 2:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/52 "2010-07-30T02:58:32Z")
> [@mnemosyne](#): > > I guess that makes me shallow, but I’d rather think it makes me someone who wants to feel better in her own skin and doesn’t like feeling uncomfortable. Probably helps that I’m not dating, so I don’t have to ever turn anyone down! You’re totally shallow and self centered! No _decent_ man will ever want a woman with height requirements! :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Giltathriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b38774/32.png) [@Giltathriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giltathriel)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 3:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/53 "2010-07-30T03:05:48Z")
Hey, I like short guys - or at least most of my boyfriends have been about 5’6" or 5’7". I get to look them in the eyes and that’s great. ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/54 "2010-07-30T03:19:59Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > [@mnemosyne](#): > > > > I guess that makes me shallow, but I’d rather think it makes me someone who wants to feel better in her own skin and doesn’t like feeling uncomfortable. Probably helps that I’m not dating, so I don’t have to ever turn anyone down! > > You’re totally shallow and self centered! No _decent_ man will ever want a woman with height requirements! :mad: Then it’s a good thing my husband is somewhat indecent…_rrrrrowrr_ 😃 ---
**Author:** ![may\_be\_ignorant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c5a1d2/32.png) [@may\_be\_ignorant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/may_be_ignorant)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/55 "2010-07-30T03:24:39Z")
> [@](#): > > What’s a “dwarf” like me supposed to do? lucky charms commercials ---
**Author:** ![dmatsch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3be4f8/32.png) [@dmatsch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dmatsch)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/56 "2010-07-30T03:33:42Z")
> [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > You’re totally shallow and self centered! No _decent_ man will ever want a woman with height requirements! :mad: Diosa, you sultry minx. Stop falling in love with me. You’ll only embarrass yourself. ---
**Author:** ![DiosaBellissima](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a8b319/32.png) [@DiosaBellissima](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DiosaBellissima)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 4:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/57 "2010-07-30T04:07:27Z")
> [@dmatsch](#): > > > [@DiosaBellissima](#): > > > > You’re totally shallow and self centered! No _decent_ man will ever want a woman with height requirements! :mad: > > Diosa, you sultry minx. Stop falling in love with me. You’ll only embarrass yourself. I’m just sad you wont have me because I’m shallow and self centered. Don’t you see how shallow and self centered that is of you? ☹ ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/58 "2010-07-30T04:46:19Z")
> [@dmatsch](#): > > > [@GESancMan](#): > > > > I hear you, **dmatsch**. hat infuriates me is when I see some ad or profile or whatever that looks great in every way, including her being around 5’ tall, but then she states she’s only interested in dating dudes who are like 6’4". Are you fuckin’ kidding me? Then I take a deep breath, realize she must be pretty damn shallow and superficial, and move on to the next one. > > Exactly my point. The latest one was 5’2". I sat there and thought about it for a bit. > > She goes to hug the guy and her face ends up in his gut. Or they go to kiss and she has to get a chair. Or when they’re … you know. Staring into his belly button??? Ick. > > She (they) were/was shallow and I have moved on. By “moving on”, I mean I’m still fucking single. I’m sure someone has already beaten me to it but… When they’re nose to nose, her toes is in it…and when they’re toes to toes her nose is in it. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/59 "2010-07-30T04:55:05Z")
> [@mnemosyne](#): > > I’m 5’6", my husband is 6’. I would never say that I’d _only_ date men my height or taller, and I can think of one or two shorter guys who I’ve been interested in, but I have a definite preference. It seems that at my height, or at least around the people I know, I’m on the tall side of average for women, and I get insanely self-conscious when I’m standing next to people who are shorter than I am. I just feel huge and out of place. Tall men make me feel better about myself because I don’t feel like I stand out. It doesn’t help that I enjoy wearing heels! I know it’s completely ridiculous and I should just get over it, but there it is. > > I guess that makes me shallow, but I’d rather think it makes me someone who wants to feel better in her own skin and doesn’t like feeling uncomfortable. Probably helps that I’m not dating, so I don’t have to ever turn anyone down! I think that’s really it in a nutshell for women who have a hard and fast rule about tall men. It’s not so much that they care about HIS height, it’s how his height makes them feel about themselves. No girl wants to feel like some big clumsy amazon, we want to feel pretty and dainty and feminine. I suspect that the short men who are successful in dating women of all sizes, even ones taller than them, have found a way to short circuit this insecurity in that type of woman. I’m only 5’6" myself, and I’ve always considered myself medium or average. But you’re right, I just googled it and 5’4" is actually the average, so we ARE on the tall side. ARRRGGGGGGHHH, not only am I fat, old, and ugly, I’m too tall too. I’ll never “get a man”. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Mississippienne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d2c977/32.png) [@Mississippienne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mississippienne)\ **Post date:** [July 30, 2010, 7:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498/60 "2010-07-30T07:35:36Z")
5’8 girl here. I don’t have much problem dating guys shorter than I am (well, if I have to bend at the waist to kiss him that might be a problem), but in my experience, short guys tend to have insecurities about being with taller women. One of my exes was about 5’6, and when we would walk hand-in-hand he would get suddenly insecure and think people were staring at us, and drop my hand. I got so hurt over this that one day I told him, “Hey, why you worrying about what strangers think? Does that stranger come home and give you the pussy at night? No, that’s _me_. You need to be worried about what \*I \*think.” I don’t know if I gave him a whole new perspective, but I think I got my point across. I, like any woman, want to be with someone who will be proud to hold my hand. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-hear-the-words-i-only-date-tall-guys-one-more-time/548498.md?page=4)