# If I ignore my biological clock, will it go away? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 3, 2009, 7:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-ignore-my-biological-clock-will-it-go-away/505145 "2009-08-03T07:22:57Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-ignore-my-biological-clock-will-it-go-away/505145/41 "2009-08-06T02:24:05Z")
> [@Baracus](#): > > Having kids can be a good thing and although my daughter drives me up the wall at times, I wouldn’t trade her for the world. > > That said, it is a huge commitment, so nobody wants to advise you to rush into anything. This sentence from the OP _“He’s not happy about my new thoughts, but is willing to have a kid if I really want one.”_ sets off major alarm bells for me. He needs to be more into it than that. This is not a hobby or small business venture that he merely needs to tolerate and provide moral support for. If he isn’t 100% onboard there is a chance he could end up resenting you and the baby for the changes that come with parenthood. Even as someone who wanted kids, the first few months were a bit of a shellshock. > > I guess I added my own doom and gloom but that sentence really struck me. I love being a parent. I love watching my daughter learn new things and try to apply use her own brand of logic to figure out the things she doesn’t know (my wife and I apparently need to get married again to have that little brother or sister that she wants). It has been amazing watching her grow and although she is only 3, I still feel like it is going by so fast. I felt the same way, **Baracas** ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-ignore-my-biological-clock-will-it-go-away/505145/42 "2009-08-06T02:36:08Z")
> [@Cazzle](#): > > I felt the same way, **Baracas** D’oh, bumped submit. Anyway, I was going to say that of all the possible outcomes of this type of situation, the two that I seem to recall seeing the most are: Husband agrees to have kids because his wife wants them, finds out he adores being a father and they all live happily ever after and Husband agrees to have kids because his wife wants them, resents them, resents sharing the attention, blames her for making him have children when she knew from the start he never wanted them, no one lives happily ever after. It’s a huge risk to take and not one I’d be thinking seriously about after a single month of feeling clucky. I’d really want to make sure we were on the same page. And sure, he looks like he’d be a good dad. What does that mean? I always thought Bing Crosby looked like he’d be a good dad but his son Gary Crosby wrote a book about what a lousy father he made. ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [August 6, 2009, 4:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-ignore-my-biological-clock-will-it-go-away/505145/43 "2009-08-06T04:41:45Z")
> [@Cazzle](#): > > It’s a huge risk to take and not one I’d be thinking seriously about after a single month of feeling clucky. I’d really want to make sure we were on the same page. > > And sure, he looks like he’d be a good dad. What does that mean? I always thought Bing Crosby looked like he’d be a good dad but his son Gary Crosby wrote a book about what a lousy father he made. I’ve said several times in this thread that nothing will be happening here for, at minimum 6 months, and more likely well over a year. The picture was posted tongue-in-cheek, just because I thought it was funny (and aren’t my dogs cute?;)). I actually know this man quite well, and am not basing my assessment of his likely parenting skills on a photograph. And, having just googled Bing Crosby, I think he looks creepy as hell :p. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-i-ignore-my-biological-clock-will-it-go-away/505145.md?page=2)