This charge comes up a lot in a lot of contexts, but particularly on this board with debates about Islam. Make an argument against over-broad assertions and suddenly you are an apologist. Either of the religious variety or some bleeding-heart-liberal-kumbaya-type who believes in a morality so relativistic as to be nonsense. It’s a caricature and a weak argument. Not to say apologists of various stripes don’t exist. But I haven’t seen a lot of naked apologia in this thread IMO.
The thing is I for one am perfectly willing to concede ( and have made the point more than once before in the longish history of this board ) that Islam is in fact an explicitly militant faith that arose in conflict and in light of this is almost certainly more easily twisted towards violent extremism than many others. Where I part ways with someone like you, whether you are willing to recognize it or not, is the degree to which I think that informs and taints the religion as a whole. To me it’s merely a matter of degree and not a large one. I’m no historian in a professional sense, but I was a student of history and if you really think other Abrahamic faiths are vastly different, IMHO you are deluding yourself. If you think Buddhism is vastly different, you are deluding yourself. If you think “good Muslims” are just those who conveniently reject the Qur’an, you are deluding yourself. If there is one takeaway from humanity and general and religion in particular, it is that we and it are endlessly malleable.
You can find pacifist Muslims, gay Muslims and interfaith-friendly Muslims and if you think they are twisting their faith in knots to get there, I might tend to agree. But hardly more than an Osama bin Laden, who made all sorts of gyrations and ignored standard religious exhortations to get to the place where slaughtering civilians and suicide were not great sins. Religions are not static and you see reforming movements all the time, whether it be folks like Amadou Bamba or Bahá’u’lláh.
I don’t believe in a sky god and have no interest in a legalistic faith that restricts my access to pork ribs. For example I find many aspects of the Islam-offshoot Baha’i faith more attractive than many of their competitors, but that ban on extra-marital sex is a deal-killer even if I could get past that little issue of not believing in God. But my stubborn atheism aside I’m perfectly comfortable with the religious majority in this world - there is plenty to admire and respect in sincere faith.
That includes Islam. Stubbornly insisting that such an enormous religion that encompasses such a large chunk of the population is inherently a font of badness is a bit ridiculous. You want to argue that the salafist-jihadists are scum? I’m right there with you. Think Farrakhan’s splinter NOI sect is irredeemably racist? No argument here. But when you start casting wide-net generalizations prepare to be challenged and it is not just apologists you have to worry about pushing back. The world just isn’t that simple.