# If Someone With Medical Issues Says "Don't Cook for Me" Don't Cook For Them! **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 6, 2019, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141 "2019-04-06T19:42:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 12:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/21 "2019-04-07T00:38:48Z")
I’d tack up a sign on my door: \*\*Extreme allergies No food allowed And, please, no knocking on door after 9 pm Thank you for your consideration\*\* (you could say “Doctor’s Orders: Extreme Allergies!” if you want) ---
**Author:** ![Modesty\_Blaise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/77aa72/32.png) [@Modesty\_Blaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Modesty_Blaise)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/22 "2019-04-07T01:02:28Z")
I have a chronic migraine condition with many, many sensitivities, not just food. I won’t die from anything “normal” that I eat. But it might put me in horrific pain for hours, sometimes days and on some occasions, I may end up in the emergency room. So I ask people not to cook for me. And there are some people who just won’t accept this. It’s like they take it as a personal challenge. I’ve had meals, desserts, whatever presented to me like it was some wonderful gift they were giving me because they just knew I’d like this thing they made without any of my food sensitivities. Except people don’t seem to get what the term “_processed food_” means or what _dairy_ means, or what \*sugar \*means. So it puts me in the position of outright refusing to try it - the responses to this vary from disappointment to butthurtness, to seething anger. Or I do try it and have a reaction right away or later after I leave. When this happens, I just don’t say anything. I suffer through the pain they caused and save myself from dealing with their response. I don’t want to hear either the butthurt or the are-you-sure-it-was-my-dish? third degree. Ugh. Just leave me out of your foodie hobby or whatever gives you the idea that you simply must cook for me. What really sucks is most of these people were just being nice. I wish people would get that “being nice” also means listening to others about their own health. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Anconia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@D\_Anconia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Anconia)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/23 "2019-04-07T01:05:16Z")
There’s a difference between an allergy, and an aversion. A lot of people on the internet confuse the two. I don’t know if **Broomstick** is one of them, that’s why I asked. ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/24 "2019-04-07T01:08:37Z")
> [@Ravenman](#): > > I’m serious here: have you EVER made a useful contribution to this board? All I ever see from you is two-line drivebys, questions insinuating others are liars, and other blather bereft of content. On the plus side, you tend to keep it short. > > Hey OP, just like there are people who are happy to do favors for others without expecting repayment, there are people who feel very guilty about others who do favors for them without providing a favor in return. You may want to consider a standard “this is how you can pay me back” thing to wave people off the way they impose with food that you can’t tolerate. For example, maybe something like this: “No, seriously, you don’t need to repay this favor. I enjoyed helping you out. No, really, it’s nice you want to make me dinner but I have bad allergies. No, really. I insist. Well, okay, if you really won’t let this go… I absolutely LOVE Twix bars, and if you got me one of the extra-large ones from the store, that would be the perfect gift.” > > Yeah, it might not work 100% of the time, but if you really drive the point home that Twix bars (or Diet Coke, or green rubber bands, or whatever) is like THE BEST FUCKING THING IN THE WORLD to you, maybe they can be diverted to harmless things. I think that might be a good idea, to offer the person something they CAN do and then if they still persist in trying to do something they should not do, **Broomstick** can just write them off and go ahead and be rude because obviously they are just a jerk. And you are surely right about **D’Anconia** , too, **Ravenman**. ---
**Author:** ![Ravenman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ravenman/32/2929_2.png) [@Ravenman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ravenman)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/25 "2019-04-07T01:11:19Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > There’s a difference between an allergy, and an aversion. A lot of people on the internet confuse the two. > > I don’t know if **Broomstick** is one of them, that’s why I asked. First, why the fuck should she owe you an answer? Second, do you read “anaphylactic shock” and just think, “All my experience and expertise of being an Internet jackhole tells me that this is a food aversion - I bet I can crack the case if I just engage in my 9th threadshit of the day!” ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/26 "2019-04-07T01:12:56Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > There’s a difference between an allergy, and an aversion. A lot of people on the internet confuse the two. > > I don’t know if **Broomstick** is one of them, that’s why I asked. The word “allergy” was mentioned in the first paragraph. And generally a person doesn’t go into anaphylactic shock if they are just averse to a particular food. Are you really that dumb? ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/27 "2019-04-07T01:20:14Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > There’s a difference between an allergy, and an aversion. A lot of people on the internet confuse the two. > > I don’t know if **Broomstick** is one of them, that’s why I asked. Here is a _direct quote_ from the person you are belittling: > [@](#): > > **The last time I trusted someone to cook for me who did not know me well I almost fucking died, getting a fast ambulance ride to the ER in anaphylactic shock.** How about apologizing and/or shutting the fuck up? ---
**Author:** ![Modesty\_Blaise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/77aa72/32.png) [@Modesty\_Blaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Modesty_Blaise)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/28 "2019-04-07T01:23:08Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > There’s a difference between an allergy, and an aversion. A lot of people on the internet confuse the two. > > I don’t know if **Broomstick** is one of them, that’s why I asked. An allergy or _aversion_? So the food that put him/her in the hospital could have just been an _aversion_? Really? That is one powerful _aversion_. Lots of people on the internet sure are stupid. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/29 "2019-04-07T01:24:51Z")
> [@dropzone](#): > > And yet you’ll eat any roadkill Mr Wrekker brings home. 😃 Nooooo! I will butcher it and cook it but I ain’t eatin’ it. I’m more like Ellie-mae Clampett, I want all them critters for pets. ---
**Author:** ![D\_Anconia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@D\_Anconia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Anconia)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/30 "2019-04-07T01:58:26Z")
> [@kambuckta](#): > > The word “allergy” was mentioned in the first paragraph. Yes, but was it diagnosed? The poster in question has a habit of, um, exaggeration. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/31 "2019-04-07T02:04:11Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > There’s a difference between an allergy, and an aversion. A lot of people on the internet confuse the two. > > I don’t know if **Broomstick** is one of them, that’s why I asked. There are also medical conditions that are not allergies that still make certain foods deadly. And most folks have no clue as to what an allergy actually even is, so most people asking the question aren’t equipped to understand the answer. ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/32 "2019-04-07T02:05:11Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > The poster in question has a habit of, um, exaggeration. I know **Broomie** in real life and I know she’s the real deal. So fuck off. ---
**Author:** ![Atamasama](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/atamasama/32/12961_2.png) [@Atamasama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atamasama)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/33 "2019-04-07T02:07:00Z")
> [@Modesty\_Blaise](#): > > An allergy or _aversion_? So the food that put him/her in the hospital could have just been an _aversion_? Really? That is one powerful _aversion_. > > Lots of people on the internet sure are stupid. Let’s be fair, I think most people have an aversion to death. ---
**Author:** ![Kimstu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/ecd19e/32.png) [@Kimstu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimstu)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/34 "2019-04-07T02:11:21Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > Yes, but was it diagnosed? > > The poster in question has a habit of, um, exaggeration. So what you’re trying to say is that you don’t think the OP’s information is trustworthy, and you decided to indicate that by asking the OP for additional information? :rolleyes: Look, Sherlock, if you don’t believe that **Broomstick** is telling the truth about having been rushed to the ER in anaphylactic shock due to a life-threatening reaction to a particular ingredient, then why would you believe her if she claimed to have been diagnosed with an allergy by a doctor? Everyone in favor of saving all the tomatoes **Broomstick** can’t eat to throw at **D’Anconia** for being a muddleheaded spiteful twat, please raise your hand. ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/35 "2019-04-07T02:11:50Z")
> [@Roderick\_Femm](#): > > What the hell is it to you? Who are you to ask this question? Why would she lie, for Og’s sake? Did you miss the part about ambulances and anaphylactic shock? > > I’ve gone through that a couple of times in my life; fortunately, my allergies are a touch less severe than Broomstick’s, and much less broad – i.e. I’m only allergic to one category of foods that are relatively easy to avoid. Except when someone uses walnuts instead of pine nuts in their pesto because it’s cheaper. That was the second time I had to go to the ER. > > So what the hell is your problem here? > [@Colibri](#): > > What does this have to do with the neighbor violating a clear request? What if she was just told that the OP doesn’t like garlic and insists on making food containing garlic? > [@raventhief](#): > > Nope the people in the ambulance were random people taken off the street. The whole anaphylaxis thing was simply a guess made by the neighbor’s dog walker. > [@Ravenman](#): > > I’m serious here: have you EVER made a useful contribution to this board? All I ever see from you is two-line drivebys, questions insinuating others are liars, and other blather bereft of content. On the plus side, you tend to keep it short. > [@kambuckta](#): > > You really are a vacuous twat aren’t you? > [@Kimstu](#): > > So what you’re trying to say is that you don’t think the OP’s information is trustworthy, and you decided to indicate that by asking the OP for additional information? :rolleyes: > > Look, Sherlock, if you don’t believe that **Broomstick** is telling the truth about having been rushed to the ER in anaphylactic shock due to a life-threatening reaction to a particular ingredient, then why would you believe her if she claimed to have been diagnosed with an allergy by a doctor? > Everyone in favor of saving all the tomatoes **Broomstick** can’t eat to throw at **D’Anconia** for being a muddleheaded spiteful twat, please raise your hand. Usually it pisses me off when people live-quote this guy (I put him on Ignore for a REASON, folks), but this is hilarious.😃 ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/36 "2019-04-07T02:13:13Z")
> [@Kimstu](#): > > Everyone in favor of saving all the tomatoes **Broomstick** can’t eat to throw at **D’Anconia** for being a muddleheaded spiteful twat, please raise your hand. Aye. ---
**Author:** ![Morgyn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morgyn/32/3041_2.png) [@Morgyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgyn)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/37 "2019-04-07T02:45:31Z")
> [@Kimstu](#): > > Everyone in favor of saving all the tomatoes **Broomstick** can’t eat to throw at **D’Anconia** for being a muddleheaded spiteful twat, please raise your hand. I would, but I’ve got lousy aim. I’d probably hit someone I liked, instead. And like **kaylasdad99** , I long ago put **D’Anconia** on Ignore because he’s never added anything to my knowledge or understanding of a subject, and he’s shown himself to be a real ass, to boot. But today’s responses … ah, the responses. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![D\_Anconia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/67e7ee/32.png) [@D\_Anconia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/D_Anconia)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 3:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/38 "2019-04-07T03:12:02Z")
> [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](#): > > I know **Broomie** in real life and I know she’s the real deal. So fuck off. She’s admitted, on this board, that she exaggerates for the purpose of telling stories. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/39 "2019-04-07T03:29:36Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > She’s admitted, on this board, that she exaggerates for the purpose of telling stories. :rolleyes: You’re questioning the honor of **The Mercotan**? You’re a bigger idiot than any of us thought possible. ---
**Author:** ![SmartAleq](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/smartaleq/32/163_2.png) [@SmartAleq](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmartAleq)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2019, 3:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141/40 "2019-04-07T03:30:44Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > She’s admitted, on this board, that she exaggerates for the purpose of telling stories. :rolleyes: Oh, just fuck off you useless cunt. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-someone-with-medical-issues-says-dont-cook-for-me-dont-cook-for-them/832141.md?page=3)