# If there was one sexual thing nobody could know... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 29, 2006, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654 "2006-08-29T12:53:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/41 "2006-08-30T02:34:27Z")
[QUOTE=Cyberhwk] No kidding/ ☹ [/QUOTE] Cool - perhaps we can star in each others untellable stories. Well, with a goat and stuff. ---
**Author:** ![Frelling\_Tralk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecc23a/32.png) [@Frelling\_Tralk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frelling_Tralk)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/42 "2006-08-30T03:20:02Z")
> [@](#): > > But in all honesty, he was too much of a sheltered child for me, and looked to me to keep his life from being boring and staid just a little too much. He always deferred to me to decide what we’d do next. Who could live up to that much pressure in the long run? > > And I am right, he’d be completely and absolutely bored & disappointed with me by now. Yeah, you’re probably right. Witness my breakup with the virgin one of the other sex threads. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/43 "2006-08-30T03:25:34Z")
Nope. I’m an open book for many reasons. It’s hard for me to keep my own secrets somehow, though I’m good at keeping those of other people. Besides, I come off as rather innocent, so letting people know that I’m really not can be fun. ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Mudd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f14d63/32.png) [@Larry\_Mudd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Mudd)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/44 "2006-08-30T04:28:00Z")
Ha! When I think of all the things I’ve been frank about, I’d hate to think of something that would qualify as untellable. Hell, the other day I told her about the time I had sex with a co-worker’s ugly (but enthusiastic) wife because it was a condition of having sex with her geek-hot seventeen-year-old friend, about twenty minutes later. ---
**Author:** ![Thalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f475e1/32.png) [@Thalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thalion)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/45 "2006-08-30T04:51:39Z")
I don’t have anything in my past that I would be afraid to share with my wife (if she were interested, which she isn’t). There are _fantasies_, however, that I would never speak out loud! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/46 "2006-08-30T04:51:59Z")
[QUOTE=cmkeller] For those of you not aware, by Jewish law, a wife who has menstruated must wait a week after her bleeding stops and then immerse in a Mikvah that night(ritual pool of water). If a married couple is Torah-observant and in love, the wife will make a point of going to the Mikvah immediately as soon as possible. . [/QUOTE] Wait. You are supposed to wait a week after her period stops before having sex? Every month? And she has to take some sort of special bath first? And I thought the dietary laws were bad. Are you allowed to have sex during the period? Because for a lot of women, that would cut out half the month! ---
**Author:** ![Cyberhwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7993a0/32.png) [@Cyberhwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyberhwk)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/47 "2006-08-30T05:18:02Z")
[QUOTE=alice\_in\_wonderland] Cool - perhaps we can star in each others untellable stories. Well, with a goat and stuff. [/QUOTE] Sweet! Any experience being a pirate? ---
**Author:** ![Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hilarity_n.suze/32/6223_2.png) [@Hilarity\_N.Suze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hilarity_N.Suze)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/48 "2006-08-30T06:43:21Z")
Okay, my roommate and I were bored, horny, and sans boyfriends. We meandered over to our friends’ place–they were gay but we were hoping to convert a couple of them, at least temporarily. That didn’t happen. Instead they decided we needed to know a few tricks. We all stripped–at this point, two heterosexual (more or less) females and four totally homosexual males–who were friends but not typically lovers–and the guys proceeded to do a hands-on, er, make that lips-on demonstration, including their favorite tricks and variations. It was . . . really out of the ordinary. So. This was more than 30 years ago and it’s not that I’ve never told anyone, but I never told my husband. Once when this ex-roomie was visiting us she made an oblique reference to the experience, but of course he didn’t pick it up. And the guys were right, that stuff did come in handy. Once my husband said to me, “Where did you learn this stuff, anyway?” Then he added rather quickly, “That was a rhetorical question. Maybe I don’t want to know.” Probably not. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 12:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/49 "2006-08-30T12:37:52Z")
[QUOTE=Rebecca DiMwitter] Well, yes I did. Do all of that. And yes, he proposed. He had been surrounded by fairly tame girls all his life in the sheltered little town where he grew up (this was the early '80’s after all), and I guess I shocked him into the realization that there was a “wild side” out there somewhere, available to him. He was VERY attracted to that. He really liked my impetuosity. He liked my unpredictability. He liked my spirit. (I think he just liked my blow jobs.) He also realized I was dead drunk, and forgave me my indiscretions, even in front of his family. In retrospect, I think he enjoyed that I had shocked them out of their complacency a bit. But in all honesty, he was too much of a sheltered child for me, and looked to me to keep his life from being boring and staid just a little too much. He always deferred to me to decide what we’d do next. Who could live up to that much pressure in the long run? And I am right, he’d be completely and absolutely bored & disappointed with me by now. –Beck [/QUOTE] I think I am in love with you . ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/50 "2006-08-30T12:40:19Z")
[QUOTE=Hilarity N. Suze] Instead they decided we needed to know a few tricks. We all stripped–at this point, two heterosexual (more or less) females and four totally homosexual males–who were friends but not typically lovers–and the guys proceeded to do a hands-on, er, make that lips-on demonstration, including their favorite tricks and variations. It was . . . really out of the ordinary. [/QUOTE] My wife has always said she wants a gay male friend. I always thought it was to go shopping with him! ---
**Author:** ![ShelliBean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f9ae1b/32.png) [@ShelliBean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShelliBean)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/51 "2006-08-30T13:30:26Z")
Yes, my gay male friends have given me some pointers in the past. The really weird thing was when my husband said “Did K\*\*\* show you that?” :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/52 "2006-08-30T13:46:15Z")
I was very reluctant to tell the then-future Mr. Neville just how sexually inexperienced I was when we started dating. [QUOTE=Renee] Wait. You are supposed to wait a week after her period stops before having sex? Every month? [/quote] [Yes.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Niddah) It’s generally Orthodox Jews who do this. > [@](#): > > Are you allowed to have sex during the period? No, if you observe niddah, you are not allowed to have sex during the woman’s period. I’m Conservative, and don’t observe niddah, but I have to admit that the idea of having sex during my period squicks me out. ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/53 "2006-08-30T13:57:23Z")
[QUOTE=Anne Neville] No, if you observe niddah, you are not allowed to have sex during the woman’s period. I’m Conservative, and don’t observe niddah, but I have to admit that the idea of having sex during my period squicks me out. [/QUOTE] I am not all to enthusiastic about it either, but my wife sure enjoys it. Perhaps we could convert, and cut down on the laundry cleaning expenses for our sheets. ---
**Author:** ![Cyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a88e4f/32.png) [@Cyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyn)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/54 "2006-08-30T14:34:46Z")
What can I say? I have a husband and a nephew on this board! ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/55 "2006-08-30T15:31:17Z")
[QUOTE=Anne Neville] [Yes.](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Niddah) It’s generally Orthodox Jews who do this. No, if you observe niddah, you are not allowed to have sex during the woman’s period. I’m Conservative, and don’t observe niddah, but I have to admit that the idea of having sex during my period squicks me out. [/QUOTE] From the above site: > [@](#): > > Any act that could lead to sexual relations whilst a woman is a niddah is forbidden according to the Torah and rabbinic law. Since a husband and wife are very accustomed to being physically intimate with each other, therefore they must take great care during the time the woman is niddah. They must relate completely on a non-physical level. Traditionally, they do not hug or kiss each other, or even pass each other items from hand to hand. These laws are termed “harchakot” (“spacers”), to ensure “one thing will not lead to another”. Wow. I could never be Jewish. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![cmkeller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cmkeller/32/118_2.png) [@cmkeller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cmkeller)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/56 "2006-08-30T15:44:28Z")
Renee: > [@](#): > > Wait. You are supposed to wait a week after her period stops before having sex? Every month? And she has to take some sort of special bath first? And I thought the dietary laws were bad. Are you allowed to have sex during the period? Because for a lot of women, that would cut out half the month! Indeed it does (and worse! Can’t even touch one another!). But that’s just the sort of thing one does when one believes in a religion, same as not eating pork. And it certainly has real-world value as well…it constantly renews the excitement and anticipation for intimacy. Of course, there’s a great way around this…make sure she’s pregnant as often as possible! (Of course, when the baby’s born, you have to wait even longer than usual for the wife to stop bleeding, but it’s a small price to pay for nine months uninterrupted.) ---
**Author:** ![supervenusfreak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@supervenusfreak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supervenusfreak)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/57 "2006-08-30T15:52:36Z")
There are very few things that **Jayjay** doesn’t know about. Heck some of the things make him squeel “kittens, kittens, sweet fluffy kittens”. Okay I will admit to the S&M stuff. I like a little “butter brickle” along with vanilla sex… Group sex? check! That happened with my first time. Sex with the opposite sex? Third base. I was young, uncertain, and experimenting. Most gay guys go through similar experiences before finding themselves. I do find most of the women in my life very attractive and cuddly. Men too! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![FormerMarineGuy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/65b543/32.png) [@FormerMarineGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FormerMarineGuy)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/58 "2006-08-30T16:44:59Z")
[QUOTE=supervenusfreak] Okay I will admit to the S&M stuff. I like a little **“butter brickle”** along with vanilla sex… [/QUOTE] I thought I heard it all. Enlighten me please. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/59 "2006-08-30T17:12:03Z")
[QUOTE=Cyberhwk] Sweet! Any experience being a pirate? [/QUOTE] Arrrrr, Matey! ---
**Author:** ![melondeca](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b5a626/32.png) [@melondeca](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melondeca)\ **Post date:** [August 30, 2006, 5:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654/60 "2006-08-30T17:43:55Z")
[QUOTE=FormerMarineGuy] I thought I heard it all. Enlighten me please. [/QUOTE] Butter brickle is an ice cream flavor. I think he was referring to the fact that he likes more exotic “flavors” as sex in addition to vanilla. I am sure he will be along soon to correct me and inform me of some new use for butter brickle. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-there-was-one-sexual-thing-nobody-could-know/370654.md?page=4)