# If you accidently saw your friends having sex..... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 1, 2003, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480 "2003-07-01T01:38:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Dumbguy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2bfe46/32.png) [@Dumbguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dumbguy)\ **Post date:** [July 1, 2003, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/21 "2003-07-01T23:51:39Z")
I had a similar experience, but with fewer options. I was at a party at my best friend’s house, and I’d had too much to drink, so I went to sleep on the floor in his bedroom. I woke up at some point in the middle of the night to hear him having sex with a mutual friend of ours just a few feet away from me. As it started getting heavy, she said, “what happens if (name omitted to protect the somewhat innocent) wakes up?” To which my friend responded, “he can join us.” Luckily she talked him into finding another room. ---
**Author:** ![Lizard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@Lizard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lizard)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 1:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/22 "2003-07-02T01:05:22Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dumbguy \* > \*\*As it started getting heavy, she said, “what happens if (name omitted to protect the somewhat innocent) wakes up?” To which my friend responded, “he can join us.” > \*\* Oh god! _gasp_ That is _hilarious!_ Wonder if your male friend was expressing a subconscious desire? ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/23 "2003-07-02T02:38:30Z")
I’d probably scream and then run out, because I’d be so freaking embarassed. ---
**Author:** ![Reeder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Reeder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reeder)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 3:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/24 "2003-07-02T03:23:21Z")
Definately watch…and take notes. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bogong\_jack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/94ad74/32.png) [@bogong\_jack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bogong_jack)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/25 "2003-07-02T05:42:41Z")
To spare the lady any embarassment , you say " Excuse me , gentlemen" and retire forthwith . ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 6:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/26 "2003-07-02T06:06:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by green\_bladder \* > \*\*And perhaps I’ll wake up the next morning and smack myself … \*\* Is that what they call it 'round your way? ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/27 "2003-07-02T07:24:33Z")
I was sitting up late one night with a couple of friends. The party had ended a couple of hours ago and we were still siting around the kitchen table. Anyways, we were trying to be someone quite (but not trying real hard) since one of our friends and ‘some girl’ had passed out under a blanket on the other end of the room. At one point we noticed that they had started rolling around as if they were changing positions in their sleep, until we noticed that some one’s legs were in the air. As soon as we figured out what was going on, we tried to ignore it, until they noticed that they weren’t alone in the room. After that we threw cards at them one by one. Anyways, the second to worst part of that story (for me) was seeking a blood soaked blanket on the floor the next morning. The worst part…A few weeks later another friend or ours had brought over a frend of _hers_ as she was introducing all of us, the FOAF looked at me like she recognized me, she said she met me the night of the party. I thought to my self and said “oh…the party were were that girl bled all over that…” I realized it at the same second someone said “that was her.” Oops, really gotta start thinking before speaking. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/28 "2003-07-02T07:25:56Z")
Sorry, if that was incoherent, I really should be in bed. ---
**Author:** ![IUHomer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/90db22/32.png) [@IUHomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IUHomer)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 7:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/29 "2003-07-02T07:41:20Z")
I had the same roommate for four years in college and this came up on more than one occasion for both of us with different girls, some hot and some not. I was a little more discreet about it than he was. We generally ignored it, but at times, depending on how hot the girl was, you can’t help but try and look a little. A couple of times I thought, “Oh, God, I wish I wouldn’t have seen that” and other times I thought, “I wish I would have seen more of that.” Its not like we were having orgies or threesomes in our room, but at times it was, shall we say, less than subtle what was going on. At one point, one of the hot ones mentioned in passing about a threesome, but my response was “Go to sleep.” I don’t know if she was kidding or serious. In her drunk state, I doubt she remembers either. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 9:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/30 "2003-07-02T09:23:52Z")
Depending on the friends, I might ask to join. ---
**Author:** ![Gorgon\_Heap](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f475e1/32.png) [@Gorgon\_Heap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gorgon_Heap)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/31 "2003-07-02T12:13:47Z")
Depends more on who it is than anything. Most likely I’d either ignore it or nod in manly pride and raise a glass to my pal. I have two exceptions (that I can remember at the moment). One was at a party at a firend’s house on, I think, a New Years or some such. Up in the guy’s bedroom he had set up a little paper screen wall thingy to give some privacy as a “makeout spot.” Well, as it is these two kids go on in there and are going at it while there are several of us sitting ten feet away trying to have a conversation. Neither of these kids were people we had any real love for. So I did what came naturally: Snatched up the little disposable camera that had been floating around all evening, held it over the top of the devider and snapped some photos. The second exeption was a good four years ago. Don’t remember the circumstances but it was a _huge_ party in a college town. By 3a.m., I’m huddled on one of the few open spots of the floor (there were people everywhere passed out), freezing and lying in cigarette ash, listening to my ex go at it with some guy ten feet away. Worst. Night. Ever. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/32 "2003-07-02T13:34:09Z")
I’d probably try to listen if they were talking. But the real response is to first Get video camera and then return and join them. (really I would first check to see that my male friend was less endowed than I) ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/33 "2003-07-02T14:19:49Z")
I don’t want to. I know I shouldn’t. But morbid curiosity always wins out. ---
**Author:** ![Isabelle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b5a626/32.png) [@Isabelle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isabelle)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/34 "2003-07-02T14:56:06Z")
I walked in on my neighbors having oral sex. I have to admit I lingered for a minute before quietly sneaking back out of the house like nohting happened. I never told them I caught them. ---
**Author:** ![Tir\_Tinuviel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bc79bd/32.png) [@Tir\_Tinuviel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tir_Tinuviel)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/35 "2003-07-02T16:16:01Z")
I’d forget about it and go back to bed. I have no interest in watching other people have sex, friends, “hot” or otherwise. ---
**Author:** ![Verminous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/5e9695/32.png) [@Verminous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Verminous)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 5:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/36 "2003-07-02T17:10:55Z")
I wouldn’t watch. Wouldn’t want to see a guy’s bare ass, now would I? If it were two bi-sexual ladies on the other hand…I’m moving in. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Toaster52](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/50afbb/32.png) [@Toaster52](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Toaster52)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2003, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/37 "2003-07-02T20:54:32Z")
I had two experiences of walking in on my wife (now ex-) with another guy and my girlfriend (now ex-) with another guy. Do these count? ---
**Author:** ![SenorBeef](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/senorbeef/32/2220_2.png) [@SenorBeef](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SenorBeef)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/38 "2003-07-03T02:37:46Z")
A friend of mine and his stripper girlfriend rented out a hotel room for about 3 months when we were all 18ish. Which translates into a 3 month long psychotic party. There were like 7+ people there at any given time all the time, often strippers crashing over there for the night, so there wasn’t much privacy. It wasn’t long before everyone got used to it. It was sort of interesitng at first, but it quickly becomes routine. But I guess if I just sort of stumbled into that situation, I’d probably peek for a while. An odd curiosity. ---
**Author:** ![MysteryFellow63427](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e4f/32.png) [@MysteryFellow63427](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MysteryFellow63427)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/39 "2003-07-03T02:59:38Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Gorgon Heap \* > \*\*The second exeption was a good four years ago. Don’t remember the circumstances but it was a _huge_ party in a college town. By 3a.m., I’m huddled on one of the few open spots of the floor (there were people everywhere passed out), freezing and lying in cigarette ash, listening to my ex go at it with some guy ten feet away. > > Worst. Night. Ever. \*\* Oh, _man_. If that activity’s not on the schedule for tortures in hell, you ought to drop that in the suggestion box. Back to the OP, if it was a close friend on the bed, definitely no. I don’t need that kind of image in my mind. An acquaintance or FOAF, probably would take a peek due to A) Hot SO and maybe a little of D) don’t know why. ---
**Author:** ![Electronic\_Chaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Electronic\_Chaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electronic_Chaos)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2003, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480/40 "2003-07-03T03:09:13Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Dumbguy \* > \*\*As it started getting heavy, she said, “what happens if (name omitted to protect the somewhat innocent) wakes up?” To which my friend responded, “he can join us.” > \*\* To which, (if I were in your shoes) I would reply “I’m up!” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-accidently-saw-your-friends-having-sex/185480.md?page=1)