# If you die an untimely death, are we (The Dope) ever gonna know? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2013, 12:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479 "2013-02-06T12:49:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 9:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/61 "2013-02-06T21:46:16Z")
I don’t know that I’d be missed, although I’ve been here steadily for 13 years. I do have Doper acquaintances IRL, but my family wouldn’t know to contact them in the event of my death. My sister would probably contact my Buffy friends and tell them, but it wouldn’t leak over here. I live a quiet life and presume I’d have a quiet death. StG ---
**Author:** ![Omar\_Little](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omar_little/32/269_2.png) [@Omar\_Little](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omar_Little)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/62 "2013-02-06T21:53:07Z")
> [@bup](#): > > If you’re Jennifer Lawrence, blink once. My eyes are getting dry from not blinking. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/63 "2013-02-06T22:08:35Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Seriously, you’ve sat down and discussed this, huh? 😉 Ha, I just take the default position that everyone is deeply consumed with interest about my whereabouts. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/64 "2013-02-06T22:11:01Z")
Hmm. An extremely suggestible person, who somehow knew there would be a character called Omar Little on _ **The Wire** _ two years after registering… ---
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/65 "2013-02-06T22:26:39Z")
It does always surprise me when someone turns up to tell us of the passing of a Doper. Like **Khadaji’s** friend. I found it really touching that he was so kind to think of us, and that he knew **Khadaji** well enough to know that this place meant something to him. My SO knows I post here. Working out my username would take all of .01 seconds, and the tab is permanently pinned. But I still doubt that he would think to post anything. Presumably he would be rather busy organising stuff, like buying lye. Maybe when sorting other stuff he would come across the pinned tab? I doubt it. Oh yeah, there is a Doper who I met IRL who might see on facebook. She might let you know. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/66 "2013-02-06T22:31:14Z")
> [@VunderBob](#): > > There are a couple other Dopers nearby that might notice and report. > > ETA: if I did suddenly disappear, I’m sure a bunch of MMP regulars would be wondering what happened. Tell ya what - I’ll report if you die, and you report if I die! Deal? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/67 "2013-02-06T22:34:43Z")
> [@Ellen\_Cherry](#): > > Ha, I just take the default position that everyone is deeply consumed with interest about my whereabouts. 🆒 Be well. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/68 "2013-02-06T22:54:18Z")
There’s a chance if I die that my own family & friends wouldn’t necessarily find out; if it makes it to Facebook, there’s at least one Doper on my friends list, but I don’t know if either of us are active enough on Facebook for the info to transfer, kind of like living just on the edge of cell phone range. ---
**Author:** ![Der\_Trihs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/der_trihs/32/233_2.png) [@Der\_Trihs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Der_Trihs)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/69 "2013-02-06T22:58:38Z")
Unless I’m found by my brother slumped over my keyboard logged onto the SDMB, I don’t think anyone who knows of my death will think to leave any message here. ---
**Author:** ![zoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/zoid/32/336_2.png) [@zoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zoid)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/70 "2013-02-06T23:29:33Z")
Real life and Dope life rarely intersect for me, at least not to the extent that any of you would remember meeting me or my name. So one day the light will go out and I’ll be gone without fanfare. ---
**Author:** ![KneadToKnow](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kneadtoknow/32/3999_2.png) [@KneadToKnow](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KneadToKnow)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/71 "2013-02-06T23:44:08Z")
Three ex-girlfriends and my ex-wife have been posters here. Probably at least one of them would think to mention it. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [February 6, 2013, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/72 "2013-02-06T23:44:09Z")
I can think of at least two people who know about the SDMB, and who would likely think to let people know if I passed suddenly. One of them used to be a poster here. Barring that, if I dropped out of the mod loop without warning, the other moderators would figure out something was wrong pretty quickly, and they’ve got enough personal information on me that they’d be able to figure out what happened with relative ease. ---
**Author:** ![Sattua](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sattua/32/11906_2.png) [@Sattua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sattua)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/73 "2013-02-07T00:09:26Z")
Probably. I am Facebook friends with an active Doper and a formerly active Doper. One of the two would probably let you know. Now, whether anyone would care or not, that’s an entirely different story. I don’t feel like I’ve had the guts to draw enough attention to myself to be noticed, much. ---
**Author:** ![Blackberry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ecd19e/32.png) [@Blackberry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blackberry)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/74 "2013-02-07T00:22:09Z")
If I died in an interesting enough way that it made the news, the few people here who know my real name would probably tell you. ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 12:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/75 "2013-02-07T00:24:04Z")
My kids know to email two people on the board administration. Beyond that, I have selected 10 poster to whom my kids have also been instructed to send something personal from me. Ten bills due right after I die. My library of books on etymology are going to a poster–just not sure which one of three at this point. So, yeah, you’ll know. The flip side is--------will anyone care? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Precambrianmollusc](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/precambrianmollusc/32/63_2.png) [@Precambrianmollusc](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Precambrianmollusc)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 12:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/76 "2013-02-07T00:56:29Z")
Highly unlikely, my family do not know I post here, nor would think to tell anyone here . I don’t think anyone here knows who I am, so in the unlikly event I went out in a newsworthy spectatcular style it is unlikly anyone would link my real name with my username here. ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 1:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/77 "2013-02-07T01:04:02Z")
Yep. My sister posts here, and I know a couple of people IRL. ---
**Author:** ![Nunzio\_Tavulari](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b9bd4f/32.png) [@Nunzio\_Tavulari](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nunzio_Tavulari)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/78 "2013-02-07T02:18:07Z")
Yes, you will know it was untimely. No, you won’t know that I’m dead. ---
**Author:** ![fifty-six](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@fifty-six](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fifty-six)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 2:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/79 "2013-02-07T02:33:45Z")
I keep a morbid file on my phone titled: In case I die or become incapacitated. I have many isolated pockets of friends from various adventures and internet travels. The Dope is included. I am not well known here but I love the board and it is part of me. ---
**Author:** ![PapSett](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ecc23a/32.png) [@PapSett](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PapSett)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2013, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479/80 "2013-02-07T02:34:49Z")
I doubt that my dying will be headline news, not even here. Probably won’t be noticed; I don’t post as much as I used to. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-die-an-untimely-death-are-we-the-dope-ever-gonna-know/649479.md?page=5)