# If you frequently ask someone to give you a ride, what do/should you do in return? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 28, 2023, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249 "2023-08-28T23:29:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2023, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249/81 "2023-09-04T02:25:52Z")
I think that was incredibly diplomatic and well done. Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2023, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249/82 "2023-09-04T02:29:00Z")
That’s great. I hope this works out well for you. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2023, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249/83 "2023-09-04T02:40:26Z")
Good job! ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2023, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249/84 "2023-09-04T12:10:29Z")
Good job to find a solution that works for you. (BTW - tell her if she puts the mums out too early, they’s just shoot their wad before fall really gets here!) ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2023, 12:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249/85 "2023-09-04T12:21:08Z")
> [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > Well, not that I think anyone is desperate for an update from me… I’m very pleased to get an update from you. I’ve been watching the thread hoping for one. > [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > I had a (hopefully effective while still being nice) conversation with Mary this morning. Congrats! I sincerely know how uncomfortable that can be. But, was I correct that it was not nearly as bad as your mind might have thought it would be? (I’m constantly having to re-learn that lesson) > [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > So, 1) I’ve flat out told her no more non-local rides. 2) I’ve raised the point that gas costs money and I don’t have it in unlimited amounts, so maybe she’ll get the hint this time. 3) I made the point that I plan to work her trips to mesh well with my own activities. 4) Guess what? Having to around for the other person’s activity can go both ways. To jump off #2, if she ever asks again for a trip, it would seem fairly natural to say something like “Sure. How about we split the cost of gas?” > [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > I’m feeling rather pleased with myself – I managed to make my points clear, I think, without having to be rude or confrontational. It’s a hell of a skill to have. Way to go! ---
**Author:** ![Kropotkin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kropotkin/32/18045_2.png) [@Kropotkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kropotkin)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2023, 12:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249/86 "2023-09-04T12:24:56Z")
Thanks for the update. I’ve learned a lot from this thread and from your solution. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-frequently-ask-someone-to-give-you-a-ride-what-do-should-you-do-in-return/989249.md?page=4)