# If you get asked to go somewhere and its an obvious "set-up"...

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023>\
**Category:** In My Humble Opinion\
**Created:** [August 7, 2014, 11:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023 "2014-08-07T11:55:04Z")\
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**Author:** ![Stringbean](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Stringbean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stringbean)\
**Post date:** [August 7, 2014, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023/21 "2014-08-07T22:03:12Z")

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> [@kopek](#):
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> Missed my 40th birthday surprise party because of this. Got to the place my buddy had set it all up and got a “hinky feeling” about the place and situation – so I bailed and went to dinner elsewhere. Found out when I got home and hit the answering machine button. Just as well since I hate surprise parties in general.

Eww, take one for the team bro. All these people went out of their way for you

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**Author:** ![epbrown01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/7ba0ec/32.png) [@epbrown01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/epbrown01)\
**Post date:** [August 7, 2014, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023/22 "2014-08-07T22:05:52Z")

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> [@Count\_Blucher](#):
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> … would you go?

Who’s doing the setting up? Set-ups I’ve walked into by friends are typically what someone above wrote - I get to some strange place to find them and a woman I “have tons in common with!” - i.e. we’re both single. :rolleyes:

Someone on Craigslist wanting to me somewhere dubious? Um, no. Pretty much any stranger asking me to go somewhere - nope. In my 20s I saw an amazing number of people wander off to an alley with someone they don’t know for some suspect activity - always a :smack: moment for me.

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**Author:** ![Wesley\_Clark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wesley_clark/32/20581_2.png) [@Wesley\_Clark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wesley_Clark)\
**Post date:** [August 7, 2014, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023/23 "2014-08-07T22:09:21Z")

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Did the OP mean ‘set up’ as in set up for a blind date? I thought he meant ‘set up’ to be beaten, robbed and humiliated. I didn’t understand why he would even contemplate it.

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**Author:** ![Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba9def/32.png) [@Just\_Asking\_Questions](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Just_Asking_Questions)\
**Post date:** [August 7, 2014, 10:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023/24 "2014-08-07T22:58:45Z")

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> [@gnoitall](#):
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> Truly, you have a dizzying intellect.

Look over there! What’s that?

[runs away]

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**Author:** ![Projammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/projammer/32/559_2.png) [@Projammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Projammer)\
**Post date:** [August 8, 2014, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-get-asked-to-go-somewhere-and-its-an-obvious-set-up/695023/25 "2014-08-08T04:03:39Z")

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If it’s someone I know, I’ll presume basically benevolent intentions and go along.  
Some stranger saying they’ve found someone injured in the alley? Sit tight. I’ll call an ambulance and patrol car for you.

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