# If you remarried would you... **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 26, 2011, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749 "2011-04-26T06:15:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2011, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/21 "2011-04-26T20:24:52Z")
Like **jsgoddess** , coincidentally, I am going to be remarrying. šŸ˜‰ I donā€™t think Iā€™d choose to _marry_ in the same place I got married to my ex. That was something that was kind of special to the two of us (or, at least to me ā€“ no idea what the ex would say about it now) and has no meaning to my relationship with my fiancee now. I think it would actually feel somewhat forced if I tried to get married there again. But the honeymoon? Well, my ex and I honeymooned in Vegas. jsgoddess and I met for the first time in Vegas and spent our anniversary there as well. Vegas has always been a fun place for me, and weā€™ve discussed getting married there. The idea of honeymooning there doesnā€™t bother me at all. I wouldnā€™t mind staying in the Bellagio again (although it wouldnā€™t be my first choice) or even seeing the same shows (ā€œO,ā€ ā€œForever Plaid,ā€ a Garbage concert) if it came up again. I donā€™t think itā€™s terribly likely that weā€™d follow that same path, but if the options were there, I donā€™t feel anything that would make me want to shy away from them. ---
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2011, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/22 "2011-04-26T20:34:03Z")
> [@Winston\_Smith](#): > > We had our honeymoon in Hawaii, and if I got re-married and my new missus wanted to go to Hawaii, I would DEFINITELY go. Hawaii was freakinā€™ awesome. Same here. I wouldnā€™t mind going back to Hawaii but Iā€™ve been there done that and would prefer to go to a new place. ---
**Author:** ![ladyfoxfyre](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ad7895/32.png) [@ladyfoxfyre](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladyfoxfyre)\ **Post date:** [April 26, 2011, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/23 "2011-04-26T21:20:03Z")
No, there would be too many memories of the first go-around to want to do it again with a different person. It would feel wrong. ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/24 "2011-04-27T03:03:19Z")
I would pick a different location just to avoid any conflicts. Hell, marriages are hard enough without having extraneous avoidable baggage. Plus, who the hell wants to go back to Saipan? ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/25 "2011-04-27T03:18:20Z")
When I got married we did a short weekend trip to Wisconsin Dells, then a weekend trip to Vegas a few weeks later and then few months after that we had our official honeymoon at Niagara Falls (in winter). The first two are typical vacation spots that I would have a second thought about going back to, but not as honeymoon, just as a weekend getaway. If I got married again and she wanted to honeymoon at Niagara Falls, that would be fine by me, mainly because to me itā€™s a pretty touristy area as opposed to some unique super-romantic area that we spend months picking out. ---
**Author:** ![dangermom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e274bd/32.png) [@dangermom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dangermom)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/26 "2011-04-27T03:26:38Z")
We spent 3 days in Monterey. It was lovely, and I donā€™t think I would want to do the same thing again with a different person. No. Anyway, I donā€™t remember the name of the hotel. Not that I plan to remarry anyway (which sounds like Iā€™m not married now, and I am). But hypothetically. ---
**Author:** ![delphica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e9a140/32.png) [@delphica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/delphica)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/27 "2011-04-27T03:45:53Z")
Thinking about this question makes me realize that Iā€™m the kind of person who might end up going to the same place without really thinking about it, and then being surprised to realize it about halfway through (and then shrugging it off). ---
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/28 "2011-04-27T04:11:22Z")
My ex and I honeymooned in Las Vegas, and Iā€™d go back, just not as part of my honeymoon should I remarry. I think Iā€™d rather go somewhere that has a beach. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/29 "2011-04-27T04:12:51Z")
My partner and I never had a proper honeymoon, so thereā€™s no ā€œsame placeā€ to go to. But I know that if, for whatever reason, I were to get a new partner, weā€™d honeymoon in Paris. Iā€™m planning my fifth trip there this summer, and Iā€™d love to show the city to someone whoā€™s never been there. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/30 "2011-04-27T13:35:39Z")
We went to Cancun. If my wife and I were no longer together and if I lived to remarry, [I think sheā€™d want me to go back.](http://www.cnn.com/2011/TRAVEL/04/26/mexico.travel.warning/index.html?iref=allsearch) ---
**Author:** ![Orionizer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/orionizer/32/4442_2.png) [@Orionizer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Orionizer)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/31 "2011-04-27T14:34:23Z")
The ex and I honeymooned at Disney. One of the best places for it, IMHO. Iā€™d have no problem going back. ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/32 "2011-04-27T16:09:00Z")
At the risk of sounding wishy-washy, I have no idea. We honeymooned at Disney World, and itā€™s still one of our favorite places to vacation. If my darling wife should happen to precede me into the great beyond (or whatever), part of me thinks I wouldnā€™t ever enjoy being there without her, and part of me thinks it would be a comforting and special place to me. I donā€™t think I can possibly know which will be the case unless Iā€™m actually faced with the reality. If I should subsequently want to marry someone whoā€™s also a Disneyphile, my guess is that I could probably go back there for another honeymoon. But again, I donā€™t know with any certainty at all. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/33 "2011-04-27T16:36:10Z")
Well, I donā€™t think Iā€™ll ever marry again; Iā€™m not looking to get divorced, and for a number of reasons, Iā€™m pretty sure heā€™ll outlive me, so Iā€™m in it 'til the end! But FWIW, my husband and I had what little honeymoon we had where he had his honeymoon with his first wife. It didnā€™t seem to bother him a bit, though to be fair, heā€™s not the sentimental type. Iā€™ll admit it might have bothered _me_ if heā€™d insisted on staying at the same hotel or whatever (which we didnā€™t), but as it was, we were both fine with it. ---
**Author:** ![Hbns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hbns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hbns)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/34 "2011-04-27T18:13:14Z")
If I were to do it over again, Iā€™d be ok with another trip through the Ozarks and the Arkansas bayou. šŸ™‚ I love wandering off the beaten path and seeing what the Interstates bypassed. Even if I do sometimes hear banjo music. ---
**Author:** ![notquitekarpov](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@notquitekarpov](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/notquitekarpov)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 6:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/35 "2011-04-27T18:23:59Z")
I wouldnā€™t suggest it but if the new Mrs Notquitekarpov really wanted to go on safari in Botswana then I would love to go back to the Okavango Delta, which is where the current Mrs NQK and I honeymooned. Fabulous trip - and one we probably cannot afford to repeat until we retire or win the lottery. I would make sure mark II knew of my previous associations with the place though beforehand and was cool with that. I would give the Victoria Falls bit a miss though second time aroundā€¦ Fingers crossed this does not bring down bad karma and all that. ---
**Author:** ![Marc\_Xenos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9a140/32.png) [@Marc\_Xenos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marc_Xenos)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 9:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/36 "2011-04-27T21:50:05Z")
> [@Nobody](#): > > I was listening to a radio show and one of the hosts is engaged and mentioned where he is having his upcoming honeymoon. And for some reason, that got me to thinking, if you were married and will, or pretty sure you will, get married again. Or if you are married, and think you would get married again should anything happen to the current marriage (sad thought, I know, but this is just a hypothetical), would you, or could you, have your next honeymoon at the same location as your previous one? Or would it have to be in a completely different place? My wife and I have been married for 22 years and we have a honeymoon every year, sometimes twice in a year. And itā€™s always someplace new. With all of the places to go, why go to the same one twice? For any reason? I mean, my wife and I have visited some of the same cities more than once, but it was associated with business and we combined pleasure with it. ---
**Author:** ![Marc\_Xenos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e9a140/32.png) [@Marc\_Xenos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marc_Xenos)\ **Post date:** [April 27, 2011, 9:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/37 "2011-04-27T21:51:45Z")
> [@Hbns](#): > > If I were to do it over again, Iā€™d be ok with another trip through the Ozarks and the Arkansas bayou. šŸ™‚ > > I love wandering off the beaten path and seeing what the Interstates bypassed. Even if I do sometimes hear banjo music. It ainā€™t the banjo music. Itā€™s when somebody says, ā€œBoy, you got a purdy mouth,ā€ that Iā€™d shit and run. ---
**Author:** ![iftheresaway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/ecae2f/32.png) [@iftheresaway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iftheresaway)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2011, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/38 "2011-04-30T03:54:34Z")
> [@Asimovian](#): > > Like **jsgoddess** , coincidentally, I am going to be remarrying. šŸ˜‰ A) This made me laugh B) Attempting to explain my laughter to my husband (who does not read this board) was surprisingly difficult. ---
**Author:** ![Teacake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Teacake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Teacake)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2011, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/39 "2011-04-30T21:44:49Z")
I havenā€™t had a honeymoon, but there are a lot of places weā€™ve been to that I wouldnā€™t be that happy about going to on a hypothetical honeymoon with a hypothetical new partner. Big cities, like Rome (our first holiday together) or Paris (our tenth anniversary), I donā€™t think I could or would want to avoid going back to forever, but there are plenty of places I would probably never want to see again without my current partner. Actually, I canā€™t really think about it. It makes me feel anxious - which isnā€™t like me. Maybe Iā€™ll go and get a hug. ---
**Author:** ![Otara](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/a88e4f/32.png) [@Otara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otara)\ **Post date:** [April 30, 2011, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749/40 "2011-04-30T22:05:14Z")
Hotel in home town, wasnt that great. Would prob be more wondering about how partner might view it if I recycled. Otara [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-you-remarried-would-you/579749.md?page=3)