# If your wife or SO told she had fellated a male stripper is that a deal breaker? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 12, 2008, 9:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633 "2008-10-12T21:23:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Nikki\_Tikki\_Tavi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3da27b/32.png) [@Nikki\_Tikki\_Tavi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nikki_Tikki_Tavi)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2008, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/61 "2008-10-16T19:09:12Z")
My husband and I are monogamous and there’s no question he would consider this cheating. I wouldn’t even waste my time begging for forgiveness, I’d be packing my bags as soon as I sobered up. For those couples in open relationships this might be okay if it fits into the terms of what they’ve discussed and deemed acceptable beforehand. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2008, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/62 "2008-10-16T20:11:19Z")
> [@Spezza](#): > > I am wondering why more people aren’t commenting on the obvious double-standard implicit in the OP. > > “The closest analogy..” What?! How on earth does man sucking on nipple equate to woman sucking on cock?! The closest analogy is nipple : nipple. So why is that so casually passed over? From Post #6: > [@PunditLisa](#): > > Well, ick. First of all, nipple:nipple analogy is better than nipple : penis. ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2008, 8:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/63 "2008-10-16T20:31:13Z")
> [@ratatoskK](#): > > I’m getting a little fatigued of all these “Is it a deal breaker” threads. Why not just have one asking “If your SO was a total moron, would that be a deal breaker?” A I think it’s kind of ridiculous that people would say that if their SO acted like a total moron, it would be a dealbreaker. Personally, it would take more than a sloppy lap dance before I would walk away from the man whom I’m absolutely certain would take a bullet for me. I have far from an open marriage but I’m far too sensible to break up a perfectly good marriage over one relatively small mistake. ---
**Author:** ![Throatwarbler\_Mangrove](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8c91f0/32.png) [@Throatwarbler\_Mangrove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Throatwarbler_Mangrove)\ **Post date:** [October 16, 2008, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/64 "2008-10-16T20:33:16Z")
[Dante] Hey, Try not to suck any dicks on your way through the parking lot! [/Dante] Two whole pages and no _Clerks_ reference? This election is destroying you guys. ---
**Author:** ![JRDelirious](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jrdelirious/32/9531_2.png) [@JRDelirious](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JRDelirious)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/65 "2008-10-17T02:43:57Z")
> [@Throatwarbler\_Mangrove](#): > > [Dante] > Hey, Try not to suck any dicks on your way through the parking lot! > [/Dante] > > Two whole pages and no _Clerks_ reference? This election is destroying you guys. See Post #58 Oh, and in my case, it would at the very least be a major\* “you got some 'splainin to do” \*moment. Not being currently in any committed pairing I cannot go beyond that, as the specifics of the reaction would depend on the specifics of the relationship… ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2008, 4:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/66 "2008-10-17T04:09:38Z")
Just had a thought: Would it make any difference if it was in the past, before you even knew her? ---
**Author:** ![Tiffanyheels](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/2bfe46/32.png) [@Tiffanyheels](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiffanyheels)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2017, 2:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/67 "2017-03-17T02:08:11Z")
Well, years ago My wife went to a male review with my sister and a two other women. She was so turned on and wet when she got back it was great! She told me there we re women in the restroom masterbating and she almost did herself. She also admitted she was very close to having an orgasm at her seat anyway. Since this is the same wife that came in her jeans at a Kenny Rogers concert once (she rarely wore panties), I am sure of this. The night she went to the male review she wore pantyhose without panties and did not wear a bra either. ---
**Author:** ![Arrendajo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Arrendajo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arrendajo)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2017, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/68 "2017-03-17T02:10:19Z")
But would she fellate a zombie? ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [March 17, 2017, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633/69 "2017-03-17T02:52:58Z")
Yeah, no. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/if-your-wife-or-so-told-she-had-fellated-a-male-stripper-is-that-a-deal-breaker/467633.md?page=3)