# I'm 22, getting married and you can suck it **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 16, 2007, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246 "2007-12-16T21:36:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [December 21, 2007, 11:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/81 "2007-12-21T23:36:39Z")
My parents got married at 22 and Mom was considered verging on old maid territory. Of course that was 42 years ago. ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2007, 10:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/82 "2007-12-22T10:50:03Z")
Best wishes for a beautiful wedding and a long and happy marriage! People are not identical, what is right for you may not be right for anyone else. You’re old enough to make your own decisions and take responsibility for them, so if marriage is what you want to do, well, I hope you have a wonderful one. Irishfella and I are happier than ever 2 years into our marriage. To know we’re bound together on every level we can be is a great feeling. ---
**Author:** ![Sarahfeena](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sarahfeena/32/519_2.png) [@Sarahfeena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarahfeena)\ **Post date:** [December 22, 2007, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/83 "2007-12-22T14:01:37Z")
I was married at 32, and I wish I had been younger. We waited to have kids for a while (too long, I think), and I ended up having the second one at age 40, which I think is a little TOO old. Most of my friends married their college boyfriends within a year or so of graduation, and there’s only one divorce out of all of them. I say go for it! In my opinion, making a marriage work is more about really liking the person, and both parties wanting it to work than finding some magical Mr. or Mrs. Right. I don’t think that exists. ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2007, 1:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/84 "2007-12-31T01:09:26Z")
_appears from the abyss, smelling of jack and cigarettes_ You are, you are and I will. See you at the wedding! _Disappears into the abyss, a glass chinking and a fag in hand_ ---
**Author:** ![AngelicGemma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/439d5e/32.png) [@AngelicGemma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelicGemma)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2007, 10:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/85 "2007-12-31T10:47:08Z")
[QUOTE=nocturnal\_tick] _appears from the abyss, smelling of jack and cigarettes_ You are, you are and I will. See you at the wedding! _Disappears into the abyss, a glass chinking and a fag in hand_ [/QUOTE] An appearance! I’m honored. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![diggleblop](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ac91a4/32.png) [@diggleblop](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggleblop)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2007, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/86 "2007-12-31T13:59:24Z")
I would ask you if I could come, but I’ll just go to the next one. ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2007, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/87 "2007-12-31T20:21:26Z")
_saunters in drunkenly_ [QUOTE=AngelicGemma] An appearance! I’m honored. 🙂 [/QUOTE] Well you did tell me… _trips over and spills drink_ ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2007, 10:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/88 "2007-12-31T22:06:05Z")
By the way, nice title! ---
**Author:** ![Zambini57](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/4491bb/32.png) [@Zambini57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zambini57)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2008, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/89 "2008-01-01T02:41:52Z")
Well, you both have college degrees, so you should be able to drag down some pretty good dough. And that is pretty much the factor that decides whether a marriage will survive or not. Money. Forget about all the “soul mate” bullshit. That will vanish after about 5 years. If you have a decent income, you should be able to tolerate each other for awhile. ---
**Author:** ![DrCube](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/a3d4f5/32.png) [@DrCube](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrCube)\ **Post date:** [January 1, 2008, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/90 "2008-01-01T10:02:02Z")
The people mentioning how much you’ll change or _grow_ in the next 5, 10, 20 years are missing the point. The whole idea is to find someone to come along for the ride; someone who will change and grow with you so you don’t have to do it alone. Believe me, I’ve been married for 7 years, since I was 18. I’ve been with the same girl since I was 15. Sometimes you find the right one early. We’re both a hell of a lot different than we were 5 or 10 years ago, but the whole point is that we’ve changed _together_. And it’s been a wonderful experience. Congratulations on the marriage, by the way. A pit thread was a great way to announce it! ---
**Author:** ![gfloyd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/d2c977/32.png) [@gfloyd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gfloyd)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2008, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/91 "2008-01-10T20:16:57Z")
I’m 22. I just got married. Fuck them that don’t approve (or, erm, don’t, as the case may be). We’ve been together for almost three years. He’s 10 years older than me, but most of the time I’m the mature one. The problem is that people look at the age, not the experiences. As my husband (still not used to that word) says, it’s not the years, babe, it’s the mileage. If your in the same place, who is anyone to complain. I’ve spent my life being told I as too young to do what I wanted, but I never listened. I graduated from college at 19 with no regrets, despite the people that said I was ruining my life. I think this is similar. Be happy with your love, and know that the people that complain the loudest are the ones that have never felt that way. ---
**Author:** ![Morbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morbo/32/389_2.png) [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2008, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/92 "2008-01-10T21:40:44Z")
[QUOTE=gfloyd] As my husband (still not used to that word) says, it’s not the years, babe, it’s the mileage. [/QUOTE] He stole that line from a movie that came out before you were born. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Daerlyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/898d66/32.png) [@Daerlyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daerlyn)\ **Post date:** [January 10, 2008, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/93 "2008-01-10T21:53:32Z")
25 years old here, will be 26 on my 3rd wedding anniversary. **Mnementh** and I were together roughly a year and a half prior to marrying, and although the parameters of our relationship have altered somewhat drastically, we are still very happy together and planning for kidlets and houses and so on in the next few years. Sometimes it doesn’t work, but I think mostly it does if you’re willing to work at it. Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Woodhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Miss\_Woodhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Woodhouse)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2008, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/94 "2008-01-11T01:11:58Z")
> [@](#): > > The people mentioning how much you’ll change or grow in the next 5, 10, 20 years are missing the point. The whole idea is to find someone to come along for the ride; someone who will change and grow with you so you don’t have to do it alone. > > Believe me, I’ve been married for 7 years, since I was 18. I’ve been with the same girl since I was 15. Sometimes you find the right one early. We’re both a hell of a lot different than we were 5 or 10 years ago, but the whole point is that we’ve changed together. And it’s been a wonderful experience. I agree with **Dr. Cube**. You and your spouse will change throughout your marriage no matter how long you wait to get married. Mr. Woodhouse and I married young. We experienced college as a married couple and then had our children while still in our 20s. We have both changed a lot and individuals and as a couple and we still love each other. I’m so happy I got to experience my 20s at his side. 15 years and we are happier than we were the day after our wedding day. 😉 (Wedding days are way too much stress. the day after is lovely, however.) Oh and I’m rolling my eyes at the guy who says having money is the secret to marrital bliss. Bad money management can place great stress on a marriage, but ask any crowd at a country club if money made their first marriage a good one. Then ask them if it worked for the second or third. You could ask the same questions in the cheap country bar. Divorce is universal these days. ---
**Author:** ![Smith8762](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9de0a6/32.png) [@Smith8762](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smith8762)\ **Post date:** [January 11, 2008, 6:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246/95 "2008-01-11T18:31:05Z")
Mrs. Snowblindfrog and I got married at 22 and 23 respectively. We met in highschool. I was 18, she was 17. We dated for a few years before getting engaged, were engaged a couple of years before marriage, and were married a couple of years before kids came along. We’ve been married for 4 years (together a total of 9 years). We didn’t really encounter any naysayers. Mrs. Snowblindfrog comes from a family of failed marriages (her mother is rumored to be embarking on marriage #4 anytime now), but we still didn’t get any negative pushback. Congrats to you both! Keep the in-laws at bay! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-22-getting-married-and-you-can-suck-it/430246.md?page=4)