# I'm a Bitter Young Woman.... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 17, 2000, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966 "2000-12-17T02:11:50Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Broken\_Doll](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bbce88/32.png) [@Broken\_Doll](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broken_Doll)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/1 "2000-12-17T02:11:50Z")
Lately [more than usual] I’ve been feeling extremely bitter about mostly everything. Stuff like how I’m surrounded by sluts here in Queensland, my life being almost unbearable etc, etc. I guess this is a thread for people to get out what they are feeling bitter about. It can be anything. Just get to it. ---
**Author:** ![tubagirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b77776/32.png) [@tubagirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tubagirl)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/2 "2000-12-17T02:26:31Z")
I think if your going to feel bitter, find something to take it out on. I am completely bitter about work. They screw me on a regular basis. I try not to let my bitterness seep out into other facets of my life or then I’ll get depressed. Find something specific to be bitter about… ---
**Author:** ![Welfy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e56c9b/32.png) [@Welfy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Welfy)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/3 "2000-12-17T02:36:40Z")
I’ve been feeling very bitter lately. My friends all think I’m possessed by a demon. They avoid me because my bitterness is sort of like poison. And well, you guys know that I take it out on myself. And I feel that that will be a part of me that will never change. ---
**Author:** ![wyldelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/4491bb/32.png) [@wyldelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wyldelf)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 3:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/4 "2000-12-17T03:11:27Z")
Would just like to place myself in the “non-slut” category of Queensland girls 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Eo\_Echo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ebca7d/32.png) [@Eo\_Echo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eo_Echo)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 5:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/5 "2000-12-17T05:53:25Z")
I’m feeling you. I’m so bitter I’m bleeding coffee. Although I like sluts, personally. ---
**Author:** ![dewt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9dc877/32.png) [@dewt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dewt)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/6 "2000-12-17T07:06:22Z")
Bitty Betty botched a batch of bitter batter. Things like this make me bitter. They keeps running through my mind… over and over… making me more and more bitter until… oh this is stupid. It’s late, I’m going to bed. Don’t be bitter. At least you’re not one of those dumb sluts. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Narile](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/71c47a/32.png) [@Narile](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Narile)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/7 "2000-12-17T07:46:52Z")
I’ve gone beyond bitter and gone straight to pure alum. ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/8 "2000-12-17T07:50:54Z")
I’m bitter about life in general, I was happy a few months ago, then my boyfriend dumped me, I was bitter then I got over it and went out with another guy, got disilusioned by that guy, didn’t really love him so I broke up with him, I was going to start going out with my first boyfriend again and I was really happy, for once I didn’t feel the weight of the depression of the world all on my shoulders and a little while ago he told me he needed time to try something new. I love him and he needs time. Can I go cry in a corner now? Please? Kitty ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 7:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/9 "2000-12-17T07:54:28Z")
I’m not bitter, I’m just sad. ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/10 "2000-12-17T07:55:18Z")
Sorry to hear it BD. But try not to let things get you down. And surrounded by sluts is bad because…? And Fairy Princess Kitty: that sucks!! Perhaps you’d be better off without him? ---
**Author:** ![wyldelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/4491bb/32.png) [@wyldelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wyldelf)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 7:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/11 "2000-12-17T07:56:46Z")
I am not bitter, just a little melancholy on occasions. When I am feeling a bit down on the world though I go and hang out with my friends who always make me feel good. They are special people. ---
**Author:** ![bwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@bwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bwk)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/12 "2000-12-17T08:06:13Z")
I’m a bitter getting-older-every-second woman. I’m bitter about my body (knee and foot problems), about my lack of direction previously in life that has allowed me to drift into this port of nowhere, about many of my relationships - geez, some of them are so effed up, about my lack of any close friends and my apparent inability to make new friends, my lack of funds, my desire to sleep 12-16 hours of every day, my inability to control my mood, my tendency to procrastinate, and a bunch of other stuff. I do have many things in life to be happy about, but the bitter list is pretty big. I’m also bitter about the fact that I feel that I must partially contradict anything bad I say about my life or even the good things will be taken away. Sigh. ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/13 "2000-12-17T08:06:30Z")
dpr, I just may be better off without him but how do I get myself to stop loving him? Kitty ---
**Author:** ![bwk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@bwk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bwk)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/14 "2000-12-17T08:12:09Z")
Kitty, just think about all of the things that are wrong with him. There’s got to be something. Something he does that bugs you… think about it… or something he did to make you mad… a fight you had… Sometimes that helps… ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/15 "2000-12-17T08:16:40Z")
There’s a thousand things that I hate about him, when I first met him I thought he was an arrogant, pompous ass, he hasn’t changed too drastically, the thing is that I understand those little things about him now and I love him anyway. I learned to love him for who he was, idiosyncracies and all, how do I stop loving someone after something like that? Kitty ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/16 "2000-12-17T08:21:16Z")
_looks at wyldelf suspiciously_ When you say ‘special’ do you mean special as in wonderful or as in…? hmmmmmm 😉 ---
**Author:** ![wyldelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/4491bb/32.png) [@wyldelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wyldelf)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/17 "2000-12-17T08:23:08Z")
::innocent look:: **dpr** whatever do you mean. You know I think you are very very special. One of a kind in fact. ::Bats eyelashes:: ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/18 "2000-12-17T08:26:39Z")
Well it’s difficult to comment on such a heavy topic so I’m treading lightly here, but do you love him because of the amount of effort you’ve put into the relationship and the fact that you don’t want to face being single again or truly because you don’t think you could live without him in your life? Wyldelf: I know THAT bat and what it means… FINE!!! hey I’ve just realised I’m not bitter or a woman. Can I still post to this thread? ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/19 "2000-12-17T08:32:44Z")
dpr, of course you can post, we love even if you are a guy and happy. I love him for who he is, I just love him, unconditionally. I loved him before I put effort into it, I love the way he made me feel with just a tap on the nose or a kiss on the forehead, he made me feel special. He was a really good friend before we started going out, we’ve always been really playful and I love that. I just love him, how can I stop that? Kitty ---
**Author:** ![wyldelf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/4491bb/32.png) [@wyldelf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wyldelf)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2000, 8:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966/20 "2000-12-17T08:55:15Z")
Fairy Princess Kitty You can’t just stop loving someone. It wouldn’t be love if you could just turn it on and off. What you can do however is make decisions in life that are based on other things. Loving someone doesn’t necessarily mean he is what you need. It is difficult to live without the one you love but by no means impossible. I did it for 8 years - I still get pangs occasionally but I have managed to move on with my life and make it very meaningful and rewarding. I am also ready to believe that it is possible that there is more than one person out there for you and that you just need to open your heart up again to allow it to happen. Sorry for butting in and rambling as well (2 apologies really) but I thought another opinion may help a little. Just ignore it if it is unwanted advice. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-a-bitter-young-woman/45966.md?page=2)