# I'm about to quit my job **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 20, 2023, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840 "2023-06-20T15:56:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 13\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/21 "2023-06-20T16:54:55Z")
> [@amaguri](#): > > I know HR is not going to care but I have colleagues who will go bananas and that’s what I’m struggling with. I had an employee with me for 25 years who gave two weeks notice two years ago. I was shocked and it was poor timing _for me_, but life goes on. I took it very well, which I later learned really hurt her feelings. She apparently thought I’d be devastated and beg her to stay. (I heard all this from a friend of hers.) ---
**Author:** ![flurb](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/51bf81/32.png) [@flurb](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flurb)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/22 "2023-06-20T16:55:47Z")
My uninformed advice: based on how you’ve described the company (mass layoffs, unpleasant atmosphere), it sounds like they may be circling the drain. Unfortunately, in that situation managers and coworkers can become very unprofessional. Recognizing what your departure will mean for their workload, they may try to guilt or pressure you into unreasonable asks. All I can recommend is being polite and firm. Your final day is X date. You will complete the work you reasonably can in that timeframe. You will work with your supervisor to bring whomever he/she desires up to speed on your duties. But your assistance with the transition ends when you leave the company. ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/23 "2023-06-20T17:12:52Z")
OP, can I recommend this site “Ask a Manager”? This is one fairly common and significant topic that people have asked about and that she’s discussed. The link will bring you to a list of exit interview discussions (below a list of ads related to exit interviews): > **[Search Results](https://www.askamanager.org/search-results?q=Exit%20interview%20)** ---
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/24 "2023-06-20T17:15:19Z")
Good luck! Please update because I’m invested 😆 ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/25 "2023-06-20T18:38:44Z")
> [@muldoonthief](#): > > Some companies have that as a policy that they escort resigning employees out immediately. Happened to me once. The boss called me and another guy in on Friday afternoon and handed us our termination letters with no explanation. An HR guy walked back to my office to get my stuff, and I thought I’d clear out miscellaneous emails, only to find they had locked my account while I was in the meeting. The guy was a real prick, but I got paybacks several months later. ---
**Author:** ![amaguri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@amaguri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amaguri)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/26 "2023-06-20T18:54:46Z")
LOL! i told my boss, he was actually very cool about it (i think in the back of his mind he’s thinking “Great! Cost savings!”) word got out insanely fast and i’m trying to control the leak but so far you were all right, it’s been much less painful than i anticipated. 50% have been “cool i’m happy for you!” and 50% have been “i’m happy for you but what am i gonna do without you?” so i guess i get the flattery and the support without too much of the negative emotions. maybe that’s still to come 🙂 HR for their part – who has actively avoided giving me the time of day for all of 2023 – has been very on top of things with this news haha ---
**Author:** ![teelabrown](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/teelabrown/32/8412_2.png) [@teelabrown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/teelabrown)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/27 "2023-06-20T19:05:03Z")
Congratulations on getting it over and done with. I recently retired, and went through the same anxiety. I had worked there for twenty-three years, and it was hard to wrap my head around the idea that I wasn’t going to be there anymore. When I told them, I too got a lot of “I’m happy for you”, “I’m jealous of you”, and “What’ll I do without you?” from my various bosses. ---
**Author:** ![FloatyGimpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/floatygimpy/32/7750_2.png) [@FloatyGimpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FloatyGimpy)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/28 "2023-06-20T19:08:16Z")
Yay! Glad it’s over and it wasn’t too bad. Enjoy yourself as you embark on a new adventure! ---
**Author:** ![amaguri](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/49beb7/32.png) [@amaguri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/amaguri)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/29 "2023-06-20T19:50:55Z")
thank you all for your support today! it’s been an exhausting day already but as usual the worrying was way worse than the reality ---
**Author:** ![TriPolar](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tripolar/32/3008_2.png) [@TriPolar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TriPolar)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2023, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/30 "2023-06-20T21:32:03Z")
Congratulations on your unemployment! ---
**Author:** ![bump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7c8e57/32.png) [@bump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bump)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2023, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/31 "2023-06-22T15:39:30Z")
> [@amaguri](#): > > and hopefully not have an excruciatingly painful meeting with HR Like I’m fond of pointing out to short-time co-workers, “What are they going to do, fire you?” Don’t sweat it- you will have already quit, and you don’t owe them anything. Not even to put up with their bullshit if they take too long, delay you, etc… You’re doing this as a nice thing for _them_, not for yourself, so you need to keep that in mind if they act like you owe them anything at all. ---
**Author:** ![Jackmannii](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackmannii/32/311_2.png) [@Jackmannii](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackmannii)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2023, 3:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/32 "2023-06-22T15:41:28Z")
Congratulations. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [June 23, 2023, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840/33 "2023-06-23T00:37:39Z")
Amaguri, there is some good advice here, especially about clearing out the stuff you want and completing stuff that is important to you before you give notice. That includes contact information for those you want to stay in touch with. Because you never know. As a general rule, I prefer to not burn bridges but being light and not completely honest with HR can actually be a boon to you, should you ever find yourself wanting to come back to this company. Because they may yet turn things around. But good for you for not sitting around and waiting for that to happen. Best of luck to you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-about-to-quit-my-job/985840.md?page=1)