# I'm accused of sexism so of course I get a warning. **URL:** \ **Category:** About This Message Board\ **Created:** [July 30, 2016, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306 "2016-07-30T17:13:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Drunky\_Smurf](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drunky_smurf/32/449_2.png) [@Drunky\_Smurf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drunky_Smurf)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2016, 6:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/61 "2016-08-01T18:29:04Z")
> [@engineer\_comp\_geek](#): > > While there is some truth to that, the general “don’t be a jerk” rule helps us to cover cases where folks use weasel words and rules lawyering to try to get away with something that they shouldn’t. Gotcha. I was being a bit hyperbolic, I’ll admit. But Colibri’s wording was odd. I see now he has clarified somewhat. ---
**Author:** ![DrDeth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DrDeth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrDeth)\ **Post date:** [August 1, 2016, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/62 "2016-08-01T19:05:43Z")
> [@TriPolar](#): > > That part probably did it. I think the rest of it was spot on. I don’t know your rap sheet here, but you don’t seem like a problem poster, I’m surprised you didn’t just get a note under the circumstances of responding to an insult, even allowable as that insult may have been. I agree, I think **Saint Cad** ’s post was fairly reasonable except “shove the accusation of sexism up your ass where it belongs.” I will make a plea for this to be reduced to a Note due to context, but yeah, that one line crossed the line. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 12:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/63 "2016-08-02T00:52:01Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > I said specifically that that was how I would respond. And one of the two responses you give you yourself say is incorrect; one is similar to what I said; and the third is vague. I don’t see how any of them are “better.” Right; I get that’s how you would respond, I just don’t think it’s a very good response :). I assume you’re saying #2 is similar to what you say. It’s different. Your response centers around “words that some people might regard as sexist.” I suggest saying, “Thanks for pointing out that sexist language!” Do you see the significant difference there? ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/64 "2016-08-02T02:09:18Z")
> [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > Your response centers around “words that some people might regard as sexist.” I suggest saying, “Thanks for pointing out that sexist language!” Do you see the significant difference there? You’re right. Then all three of your responses are worse than mine.😉 ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/65 "2016-08-02T02:11:06Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > You’re right. Then all three of your responses are worse than mine.😉 I love how you make declarations and don’t back them up. It’s adorable! ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/66 "2016-08-02T02:20:53Z")
> [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > I love how you make declarations and don’t back them up. It’s adorable! Thanks! I’m just not interested in arguing with you about it. As I stated, my response was what I would have said. In my opinion, yours are not so good. If you happen to make a sexist remark, you can try them out!😉 ---
**Author:** ![raventhief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/raventhief/32/4_2.png) [@raventhief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raventhief)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/67 "2016-08-02T03:58:56Z")
Huh. It is a bit like the difference between “I’m sorry I offended you,” and “I’m sorry you were offended.” ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/68 "2016-08-02T04:23:33Z")
> [@DrDeth](#): > > I will make a plea for this to be reduced to a Note due to context, but yeah, that one line crossed the line. I suspect that the mods are not likely to do so because of the context. One of the reason they have stated for giving out warnings is to help the poster realize they were out of line. Someone who started not just one, but two threads in ATBM complaining is not likely to be seem to be owning their behavior. > [@Colibri](#): > > I said specifically that that was how I would respond. I thought that Mods don’t apologize . . . 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/69 "2016-08-02T04:33:20Z")
> [@TokyoBayer](#): > > I thought that Mods don’t apologize . . . 😉 I see the smiley, but I’ve apologized both for posts I’ve made as a poster and errors I’ve made as a mod. ---
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2016, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306/70 "2016-08-02T04:43:32Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > I see the smiley, but I’ve apologized both for posts I’ve made as a poster and errors I’ve made as a mod. This was just referring to the current thing about other Mods and the torch bearers demanding a pound of flesh. Nothing person and I _apologize_ that the smiley didn’t make it clear. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-accused-of-sexism-so-of-course-i-get-a-warning/761306.md?page=3)