# I'm Authorizing Mom Into Palliative Care Tomorrow Morning **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 17, 2010, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477 "2010-08-17T00:19:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2010, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/21 "2010-08-17T16:58:55Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > Mom is breathing on her own without the respirator, is conscious (her eyes are open and tracking), but non-communicative at the moment. That may be the morphine, though…she could just be totally out of it. Well, it sounds like they are keeping her comfortable, which is really the best you can hope for at this point. I talked to my Dad on the phone two nights before he died, and one of the things I asked him was if they were doing a good job controlling the pain. He sounded lucid enough, but he said yes, they weren’t stingy with the pain meds. Of course, by that time, he’d been clean and sober for over 30 years, so I’m guessing his tolerance was pretty low. I was still just glad he wasn’t in pain. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2010, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/22 "2010-08-17T20:10:18Z")
No experience, no advice, just sympathy. My thoughts are with you and your mom. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2010, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/23 "2010-08-17T20:36:52Z")
Ah, this would be the call you’re waiting on, then. My wishes to your mother for an easy passing and to you for the tenacity to get through all of your responsibilities after. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2010, 9:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/24 "2010-08-17T21:06:33Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > I’m so sorry **jayjay**. I’ll keep both your mom and you in my prayers. And mine. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![DocCathode](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doccathode/32/18773_2.png) [@DocCathode](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocCathode)\ **Post date:** [August 17, 2010, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/25 "2010-08-17T23:48:46Z")
I just wanted to add my voice to the chorus expressing love and sympathy. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/26 "2010-08-18T02:50:53Z")
She’s passed. My aunt called and told me. She says it was very peaceful…my aunt and my uncle were saying a rosary over her when my mother opened her eyes and looked at them. Her breathing just gradually became shallower and shallower until it stopped. I’m taking bereavement leave tomorrow morning and driving up to Altoona to make arrangements and such. ---
**Author:** ![wonky](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wonky/32/393_2.png) [@wonky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wonky)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 2:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/27 "2010-08-18T02:52:37Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > She’s passed. My aunt called and told me. She says it was very peaceful…my aunt and my uncle were saying a rosary over her when my mother opened her eyes and looked at them. Her breathing just gradually became shallower and shallower until it stopped. > > I’m taking bereavement leave tomorrow morning and driving up to Altoona to make arrangements and such. I’m so sorry, jayjay. I’m glad it was quick and peaceful. I hope you can find peace, too. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/28 "2010-08-18T02:57:58Z")
Don’t know how I missed this thread yesterday. I’m sorry to hear of your mom’s passing but I’m glad it was peaceful. I hope you have a safe drive to Altoona. When you get there, try to take things just one at a time, and don’t be afraid to delegate stuff to others if you can. You, **supervenusfreak** and the rest of your family will be in my thoughts and prayers in the coming days. Take care and let us know how you’re doing. ---
**Author:** ![supergoose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@supergoose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/supergoose)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 3:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/29 "2010-08-18T03:20:15Z")
I’m so sorry, **jayjay**. Take care of yourself - try to remember that you can’t take care of anything else well unless you do. ---
**Author:** ![dogbutler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dogbutler/32/428_2.png) [@dogbutler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dogbutler)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/30 "2010-08-18T04:08:51Z")
I’m sorry for your loss. {{{{}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Lucky\_13](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucky_13/32/13209_2.png) [@Lucky\_13](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucky_13)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 5:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/31 "2010-08-18T05:16:27Z")
((((( **jayjay** and his brother))))) ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 5:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/32 "2010-08-18T05:33:29Z")
What Goose, Dog and Lucky said. And look for those little moments or peace and those small smiles where and when you can. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 6:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/33 "2010-08-18T06:31:21Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **jayjay** ---
**Author:** ![missred](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/missred/32/14096_2.png) [@missred](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/missred)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/34 "2010-08-18T07:18:17Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, **jayjay**. You, **supervenusfreak** and the rest of your family will be in my thoughts in the coming days. ---
**Author:** ![smee\_goan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f07891/32.png) [@smee\_goan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/smee_goan)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 10:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/35 "2010-08-18T10:09:31Z")
I can’t believe FMLA won’t get you out of work. You must not be aware of it. My mom committed suicide don’t feel too bad. ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 10:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/36 "2010-08-18T10:29:14Z")
I’m very, very sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. Please accept the Doors family’s condolences, and please let me know if there’s anything we can do. ---
**Author:** ![rocking\_chair](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocking_chair/32/2918_2.png) [@rocking\_chair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rocking_chair)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 10:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/37 "2010-08-18T10:43:52Z")
i’m very sorry. may her memory be eternal. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 10:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/38 "2010-08-18T10:47:38Z")
Very sorry to hear that, **jayjay**. ---
**Author:** ![OtakuLoki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ac8455/32.png) [@OtakuLoki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OtakuLoki)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 10:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/39 "2010-08-18T10:54:47Z")
My condolances, **jayjay** ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 12:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/40 "2010-08-18T12:04:31Z")
Be careful out on the road, **jayjay** , take care of yourself the best you can. Is **supervenusfreak** going with you? My condolences. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477.md?page=3)