# I'm Authorizing Mom Into Palliative Care Tomorrow Morning **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 17, 2010, 12:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477 "2010-08-17T00:19:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![scareyfaerie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scareyfaerie/32/3135_2.png) [@scareyfaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/scareyfaerie)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/41 "2010-08-18T12:15:08Z")
I’m sorry for your loss, but you can take some comfort from knowing that her passing was peaceful and she wasn’t alone. Take care on your trip. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/42 "2010-08-18T13:20:59Z")
I’m sorry you’re going through this, but glad she went fast and easy. Drive safe. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/43 "2010-08-18T13:35:17Z")
My condolences, **jayjay**. I’m glad her death was relative fast and peaceful. StG ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/44 "2010-08-18T14:04:57Z")
**Jayjay** I’m sorry to hear your mother has passed but I’m glad it was peaceful and she wasn’t alone. Feel free to keep us updated here over the next few weeks. You’ve got a stack of things to do, this is a very emotional time, and we’ll be happy to give you support, or just a place to vent, while you get through this. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 2:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/45 "2010-08-18T14:53:29Z")
Travel well and safely. We’ll be waiting for you. ---
**Author:** ![Surly\_Chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ec9cab/32.png) [@Surly\_Chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Surly_Chick)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/46 "2010-08-18T15:16:10Z")
My thoughts are with you, **Jayjay**. I lost my mom in October so I know your pain. Hang in there. ---
**Author:** ![Mama\_Zappa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/71e660/32.png) [@Mama\_Zappa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mama_Zappa)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/47 "2010-08-18T16:59:59Z")
It never feels “right” to lose a parent no matter how long a life they’ve led… we somehow always expect them to be there. I remember when my mother passed away I turned to my brother and said “I guess we’re the grownups now”. Condolences on having to make the decision to ease your mom’s passing. It’s the right thing but that doesn’t make it any easier. I was not POA for my mother (two of my brothers were) but I was in agreement with their decision. Regarding settling her property etc.: you might want to have a consult with an attorney who specializes in wills / estate planning. He will be able to advise you on the legalities of what you must do regarding house, other property, as the executor. My brothers did, and while they didn’t need his services for more than that consult, it reassured them that they were doing the right things. ---
**Author:** ![Tamerlane](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tamerlane/32/7602_2.png) [@Tamerlane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tamerlane)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/48 "2010-08-18T18:07:48Z")
Sorry, **jayjay**. I’m glad it was at least a peaceful end. Do take care of yourself. ---
**Author:** ![Cadence](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Cadence](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cadence)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 6:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/49 "2010-08-18T18:33:01Z")
It sounds like a good passing which you helped give her by having the courage not to force her to stay here past her time. Still, I know it all hurts like hell. Just get through it, take care of yourself as much as possible and please let us know how you are. ---
**Author:** ![MoodIndigo1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e8c25b/32.png) [@MoodIndigo1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MoodIndigo1)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/50 "2010-08-18T18:37:01Z")
So sorry for your loss, jayjay, but it’s good that she had a swift and painless death. You did the right thing. Remember to take good care of yourself, don’t skip meals, take any help that’s offered. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/51 "2010-08-18T18:38:40Z")
I am sorry, I have not experienced the loss of either my mom and dad, but can’t imagine how hard it must be… ---
**Author:** ![Gagundathar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a183cd/32.png) [@Gagundathar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gagundathar)\ **Post date:** [August 18, 2010, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/52 "2010-08-18T18:58:30Z")
**JayJay** , you performed a difficult task bravely and well. I am certain your mother appreciated what you did and passed away knowing how very much you loved her. I wish you and yours the very best, and I must said I shed a tear when I read this thread. We are lucky to have such a community of folks. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2010, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/53 "2010-08-19T16:16:05Z")
I’m accessing from my aunt’s computer right now. I really want to thank all of you for your well wishes and condolences. We met with the funeral director, who is both a member of my mother’s parish and a family friend, and made arrangements. Today has been and is going to be a running-around day to get things taken care of, then tomorrow is the visitation and Saturday morning is the funeral mass and entombment. I had my share of trouble actually getting here, but that’s both another thread and irrelevant (tire tread peeled off and went flying, causing a pinhole in the fuel line, which is still dripping gas (yay!))). Again, thank you for the very comforting sentiments. ---
**Author:** ![swampbear](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampbear/32/467_2.png) [@swampbear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampbear)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2010, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/54 "2010-08-19T16:39:22Z")
**{{{jayjay}}}** I am so sorry for your loss. You, your brother and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2010, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/55 "2010-08-19T17:00:54Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > I really want to thank all of you for your well wishes and condolences. I read this as “well wishes and _congratulations_” and had a moment of, “WTF, who would congratulate you.” :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Wheelz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wheelz/32/5718_2.png) [@Wheelz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wheelz)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2010, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/56 "2010-08-19T19:52:52Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, **jayjay**. I’ll be losing my dad within the next few months so I know what a helpless feeling it is to know it’s coming and not be able to stop it. Just don’t forget to take care of yourself and your living relatives in the coming days and weeks. ---
**Author:** ![Perciful](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/b38774/32.png) [@Perciful](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Perciful)\ **Post date:** [August 21, 2010, 1:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/57 "2010-08-21T13:24:25Z")
> [@jayjay](#): > > I’m accessing from my aunt’s computer right now. I really want to thank all of you for your well wishes and condolences. We met with the funeral director, who is both a member of my mother’s parish and a family friend, and made arrangements. Today has been and is going to be a running-around day to get things taken care of, then tomorrow is the visitation and Saturday morning is the funeral mass and entombment. > > I had my share of trouble actually getting here, but that’s both another thread and irrelevant (tire tread peeled off and went flying, causing a pinhole in the fuel line, which is still dripping gas (yay!))). Again, thank you for the very comforting sentiments. I’m sorry and hope all goes well. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mighty\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Girl)\ **Post date:** [August 23, 2010, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477/58 "2010-08-23T03:36:56Z")
My belated but heartfelt condolances, **jayjay** [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-authorizing-mom-into-palliative-care-tomorrow-morning/550477.md?page=2)