# I'm bitter. \[Lame...and tame.\] **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [May 8, 2005, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bitter-lame-and-tame/302969 "2005-05-08T22:12:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2005, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bitter-lame-and-tame/302969/21 "2005-05-10T23:00:52Z")
Just out of curiosity, **dare\_devil** , did this guy know how you felt about him? All along? Or did you just play flirt back with him? Because guys really have no idea unless you tell them _exactly_ how you feel. Exactly. Otherwise, he might truly have not known, and was just comfortable enough with you to play around with. He might have thought he could flirt around with you with no repurcussions. Another vote for go speak to him. Tell him how you feel and exactly why you feel the way you do. It’s not fair to keep him in the dark if he really doesn’t know. “Figure it out” means nothing to someone who doesn’t have a clue. All that aside, I hope you feel better soon. Treat yourself to something nice you like, like a funny movie or a mini shopping trip, even if it’s just window shopping. Or whatever you like, I’m just thinking of things I’d do. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/2bfe46/32.png) [@John\_Carter\_of\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Carter_of_Mars)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2005, 12:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bitter-lame-and-tame/302969/22 "2005-05-11T00:00:31Z")
> [@istara](#): > > I was reluctant to hijack this thread, because of provoking a pile-on of “insensitivity” accusations, but fuck it. You’ve chosen to post it in the fucking Pit, so I’ll speak my fucking mind. > > Any OP with the title “lame and tame” should go in MSPSHITIMUSTSHARE, _not_ The Pit.\ And on and on ad nauseum. You’re a real sweetheart, **istara**. Wanna dance? :wally ---
**Author:** ![dare\_devil007](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3bc359/32.png) [@dare\_devil007](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dare_devil007)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2005, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bitter-lame-and-tame/302969/23 "2005-05-11T00:44:23Z")
> [@Anastasaeon](#): > > Just out of curiosity, **dare\_devil** , did this guy know how you felt about him? All along? Or did you just play flirt back with him? Because guys really have no idea unless you tell them _exactly_ how you feel. Exactly. Otherwise, he might truly have not known, and was just comfortable enough with you to play around with. He might have thought he could flirt around with you with no repurcussions. > > Another vote for go speak to him. Tell him how you feel and exactly why you feel the way you do. It’s not fair to keep him in the dark if he really doesn’t know. “Figure it out” means nothing to someone who doesn’t have a clue. > > All that aside, I hope you feel better soon. Treat yourself to something nice you like, like a funny movie or a mini shopping trip, even if it’s just window shopping. Or whatever you like, I’m just thinking of things I’d do. 😉 Well, later, he told me that our friend told him that “I have a thing for him.” So, of course, I admitted that it’s true. Then he figured it out and apologized for misleading me. He wants to go back to being friends again, but I said I have to think it over some ice cream… ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2005, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bitter-lame-and-tame/302969/24 "2005-05-11T03:09:13Z")
> [@istara](#): > > I was reluctant to hijack this thread, because of provoking a pile-on of “insensitivity” accusations, but fuck it. You’ve chosen to post it in the fucking Pit, so I’ll speak my fucking mind. > > Any OP with the title “lame and tame” should go in MSPSHITIMUSTSHARE, _not_ The Pit. > > I also refer you [**this wise thread**](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=315911&page=1&pp=50) > > I don’t doubt your heartache and agony, but IMO the best place for this sort of stuff is a LiveJournal. If you must post it publically here, at least put it in a forum designed for _“…I must share”_ stuff. Fuck off jackass and take your junior moddery with you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bitter-lame-and-tame/302969.md?page=1)