# I'm bummed... **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 11, 2003, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808 "2003-10-11T05:30:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/1 "2003-10-11T05:30:04Z")
A very good friend of mine is going thru a very difficult time right now. I know, she’s just someone I met on these boards and have shared a bunch of e-mails with… but we really have become very good friends. Anyways, she’s going thru a world of shit right now, and it has caused her to go across country to her home. So she doesn’t even have e-mail access (except once all week…) so I can’t even talk to her or be supportive. _sigh_ Another woman, who I’d kinda like to be more than friends with, I haven’t heard from in almost two weeks. She seems to like me some, and I don’t think I pissed her off… but nothing. For two weeks… I don’t even know the point of this post. It’s too LITTLE info for anyone to help me. I guess I’m just venting. I don’t mean this to be a pity party, I guess I just need a hug… ☹ ---
**Author:** ![misstee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@misstee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misstee)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 6:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/2 "2003-10-11T06:01:42Z")
(((((( **if6was9** ))))) Is there anything I can do for you? ---
**Author:** ![j\_sum1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8baadc/32.png) [@j\_sum1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j_sum1)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 6:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/3 "2003-10-11T06:09:11Z")
You could always drown your sorrows in the virtual hot tub. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/4 "2003-10-11T06:14:58Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by misstee \* > \*\*(((((( **if6was9** ))))) > Is there anything I can do for you? \*\* Probably… but that’s not what I meant. 🙂 Thanks for the hug tho. **j\_sum1** , we have our own hot tub over in OMFG… thanks for the offer tho. ---
**Author:** ![j\_sum1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8baadc/32.png) [@j\_sum1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j_sum1)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 6:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/5 "2003-10-11T06:25:35Z")
I feel for you [b[if6was9\*\*. ---
**Author:** ![peritrochoid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c68b51/32.png) [@peritrochoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/peritrochoid)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/6 "2003-10-11T14:25:52Z")
**6** , bro, I’m sorry. I’ve been in a similar place, and I offer you as many good wishes as I am capable of. Not knowing the situation, (so this is a total WAG) I’d venture to say right now is probably a time of introspection for one or both of them. Being of similar persuasion myself, I know that some people withdraw from worldly contact in times of crisis so they can focus on dealing with the internal struggles. I seriously doubt it’s anything you’ve done. ---
**Author:** ![misstee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@misstee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misstee)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 4:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/7 "2003-10-11T16:04:16Z")
Is today any better for you **if6was9**? If you would like some one to talk to via email – you can email me, its in my profile. I’d be happy to chat. ---
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/8 "2003-10-11T16:24:59Z")
**if6** , many hugs. You know my email, feel free to vent. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/9 "2003-10-11T16:33:01Z")
Thanks for the well wishes **misstee** and **Salem**! I’ve already vented to others, so I won’t drag you two into it. Thanks anyway! 🙂 And I did get an e-mail from the first girl I talked about. It sounds like she’s handling things very well, so yes, I am feeling a little better this morning. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/10 "2003-10-11T17:35:25Z")
Let God be praised! oh, sorry… I thought I was in a _Monty Python_ skit. Carry on. oh yeay! {{{{ **i6w9** }}}} in a very manly (yet caring) way. ---
**Author:** ![Simple\_Dreamer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/eada6e/32.png) [@Simple\_Dreamer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simple_Dreamer)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 6:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/11 "2003-10-11T18:38:22Z")
((( **6** ))) Wish I could help you out, guy. You got my email. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/12 "2003-10-11T19:18:19Z")
Thanks, dear. And thanks **NCB**. ---
**Author:** ![Mastema](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/94ad74/32.png) [@Mastema](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mastema)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 7:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/13 "2003-10-11T19:19:08Z")
What part of the country is she in? We’re bound to have some dopers who could run some flowers over for you. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Sock\_Munkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/aeb1de/32.png) [@Sock\_Munkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sock_Munkey)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2003, 10:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/14 "2003-10-11T22:33:29Z")
Believe me I sympathize. I’m in kind of a similar state right now with one friend having bad times and one who doesnt want a serious relationship with me. ---
**Author:** ![tanookie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/48db29/32.png) [@tanookie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanookie)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 12:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/15 "2003-10-12T00:50:39Z")
Hiya… hope things work themselves out with your ladyfriend and unfortunately your online friend has to just ride through the rough time. She will still need your support when she comes home too so you will be able to help her then. Sometimes I think the friends that are there for us after the dust settles to help us pick up the pieces are the most important ones of all. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2003, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/16 "2003-10-12T01:02:39Z")
Thanks, mom! That’s sweet. More details in some other thread… **Sock Munkey** , we haven’t talked aout a serious relationship, not even really a not serious relationship. She just disappeared. 😕 That’s what has me bummed. ---
**Author:** ![j\_sum1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8baadc/32.png) [@j\_sum1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/j_sum1)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2003, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/17 "2003-10-13T10:51:36Z")
feelin’ better? ---
**Author:** ![misstee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/958977/32.png) [@misstee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/misstee)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 4:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/18 "2003-10-14T04:43:05Z")
I need an update **if6was9** , I need to know everything is better. I have been going through some crap of my own lately and I will feel better if you up date us with happy news. ---
**Author:** ![if6was9](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@if6was9](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/if6was9)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/19 "2003-10-14T04:47:44Z")
OK… the first girl sounds ok and is very strong! The other is… haven’t heard a word… ☹ **misstee** , wait ten minutes and you’ve got mail… ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2003, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808/20 "2003-10-14T04:50:22Z")
Sometimes even waiting and not knowing can be…well…_interesting_. Hey, if you were here, I’d let you sit on my front porch and drink beer and talk it out… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-bummed/206808.md?page=2)