# I'm different now. Just saying. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 6, 2011, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108 "2011-11-06T22:48:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![singular1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ba9def/32.png) [@singular1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/singular1)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2011, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/141 "2011-11-28T21:41:22Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Thank you. And I don’t even remember a necklace clasp thread (no need to link to it–I don’t like dredging up the past). But then, my memory isn’t the greatest, as an understatement. Maybe this is what you should concentrate on, rather than trying to convince us you’ve changed things you’re not aware of… ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2011, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/142 "2011-11-28T22:00:12Z")
The things I’m talking about having changed are things like having violent mood swings, etc. Those things very definitely HAVE changed. You don’t know me, so your saying differently doesn’t matter at all. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2011, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/143 "2011-11-28T22:01:23Z")
I don’t remember you being known for violent mood swings. You were known for asking for questions and then rejecting each suggestion, which you did in the necklace clasp thread. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2011, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/144 "2011-11-28T22:07:13Z")
I give consideration to each suggestion, but sometimes for my specific purpose/needs/situation, none of them is a good fit. That’s just the way it is. It’s not an intentional desire to not take advice, it’s just a case of there being reasons that for me, for that situation, the suggestions don’t work. Sometimes that upsets people because they think they have the perfect solution. I’ve taken plenty of advice that I’ve received on this board. You just remember the times I didn’t because you want to. It’s confirmation bias. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2011, 11:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/145 "2011-11-28T23:18:10Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > I don’t remember you being known for violent mood swings. I used to be, a long time ago. Since then, I’ve changed. That’s why I’m not known for them now. > [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > the necklace clasp thread. Are you talking about the thread where I was looking for something to hold my engagement ring? ---
**Author:** ![expectopatronum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/expectopatronum/32/173_2.png) [@expectopatronum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/expectopatronum)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2011, 3:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/146 "2011-11-29T03:09:08Z")
maybe you’re not violent, but at a quick glance you’ve made something like 200 posts over the past 4 days. i realize it’s a holiday weekend and a lot of people are off work and such, but that still seems a little excessive and manic. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2011, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/147 "2011-11-29T15:17:04Z")
I mainly post in the MPSIMS type threads. I rarely clutter up a GQ or GD thread with lots of posts, so I don’t see that as a problem. ---
**Author:** ![SlowMindThinking](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dc4da7/32.png) [@SlowMindThinking](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlowMindThinking)\ **Post date:** [November 29, 2011, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/148 "2011-11-29T20:50:13Z")
I guess I’m a long time member, short time lurker, because I’ve never seen any meltdown threads, nor any posts about your son. If not for this thread, I never would have known how contentious you are. I think we’ve only interacted in two threads, one on your wedding and one on men in speedos. I guess because of the “Hi Opal” jokes, I’ve always assumed you were one of the more popular posters. I guess what I’m trying to say that if you’ve spent a lot of time attention whoring, some of us are too oblivious or self absorbed to have noticed. Good on you if you were a wreck and now aren’t. I’ve also learned what a freakin’ Buckeye is. A horse chestnut?! Really? Why didn’t anyone ever tell me? ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/149 "2011-11-30T13:53:14Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > I have childhood issues regarding sports. I was raised by a single mother who put sports above me as a child. I was made to crawl across the floor to get things on the other side of the room rather than walk between her and her precious game, **made to wait hours before being allowed to ask a question** , etc. So I have some other issues related to sports that affect my opinion of them on an emotional level. (bolding mine) She really dug the commercials as well, huh? mmm ---
**Author:** ![chela](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chela/32/21582_2.png) [@chela](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chela)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/150 "2011-11-30T14:22:56Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > I mainly post in the MPSIMS type threads. I rarely clutter up a GQ or GD thread with lots of posts, so I don’t see that as a problem. doesnt matter where you hang out, clutter is clutter! online you seem the same to me, have you changed irl? ---
**Author:** ![irishgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/8edcca/32.png) [@irishgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/irishgirl)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/151 "2011-11-30T14:48:35Z")
Glad you feel better **Opal**. I do what I’ve always done- read what interests me, ignore what doesn’t, and try not to get invested in stuff on a message board. So… I tend not to read a lot of your posts, and thus haven’t formed much of an opinion about whether or not you have changed, but I hope that you continue to feel that you are progressing in a healthy direction with your life. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/152 "2011-11-30T15:51:20Z")
> [@chela](#): > > have you changed irl? Extremely ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 3:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/153 "2011-11-30T15:52:34Z")
> [@irishgirl](#): > > I do what I’ve always done- read what interests me, ignore what doesn’t, and try not to get invested in stuff on a message board. This is what I do as well. I skip a lot of people’s posts. It’s just easier that way. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/154 "2011-11-30T15:53:37Z")
> [@chela](#): > > online you seem the same to m You didn’t join until 2004, so you wouldn’t have known what I used to be like (the stuff I’m talking about, anyway.) ---
**Author:** ![expectopatronum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/expectopatronum/32/173_2.png) [@expectopatronum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/expectopatronum)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 5:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/155 "2011-11-30T17:20:33Z")
registration dates don’t necessarily reflect how long one has been reading the board. just saying. ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/156 "2011-11-30T17:28:48Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > You didn’t join until 2004, so you wouldn’t have known what I used to be like (the stuff I’m talking about, anyway.) So you’re referring to stuff that happened in 2003 at the latest, and you’re just posting about now?! ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 5:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/157 "2011-11-30T17:49:36Z")
> [@Invisible\_Chimp](#): > > So you’re referring to stuff that happened in 2003 at the latest, and you’re just posting about now?! There are quite a few people who formed an opinion about what sort of person I was based on the way I was back then, and who still judge me based on that opinion of me. This thread was mainly geared toward those types of posters, yes. Over the last 10 years I’ve changed to an incredible degree. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/158 "2011-11-30T18:13:22Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Are you talking about the thread where I was looking for something to hold my engagement ring? Yeah, that was the one. In that and a lot of your postings, you do come off as really into yourself. I mean, your mom didn’t want you to talk during games, and you interpret that as this scarring experience, whereas most people would just figure, “OK, Mom loves sports.” ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/159 "2011-11-30T18:24:14Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Yeah, that was the one. Ok, see I didn’t think of that as a necklace clasp thread, since what I was looking for was more of a charm. And if people got miffed that I didn’t like the option they found, they need to get over it. It was a question of me looking for a specific functionality and an aesthetic that appealed to me–very subjective. I rejected the ones that didn’t appeal to me. What was I supposed to do, buy and wear jewelry I didn’t like to preserve the feewings of someone on the internet? ---
**Author:** ![Sarahfeena](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sarahfeena/32/519_2.png) [@Sarahfeena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarahfeena)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2011, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108/160 "2011-11-30T18:40:48Z")
> [@OpalCat](#): > > Ok, see I didn’t think of that as a necklace clasp thread, since what I was looking for was more of a charm. And if people got miffed that I didn’t like the option they found, they need to get over it. It was a question of me looking for a specific functionality and an aesthetic that appealed to me–very subjective. I rejected the ones that didn’t appeal to me. What was I supposed to do, buy and wear jewelry I didn’t like to preserve the feewings of someone on the internet? People don’t know or care if you’re going to actually use their suggestions. They do know or care whether or not the trouble they took to make the suggestion seems appreciated or not. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108.md?page=7) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-different-now-just-saying/602108.md?page=9)