# I'm Free!!!!!........ **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 26, 2000, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572 "2000-09-26T07:55:05Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 15\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![pipefitter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/97f17d/32.png) [@pipefitter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pipefitter)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 7:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/1 "2000-09-26T07:55:05Z")
Well almost. By this time next year, I’ll be a single man again. Got the bad news this weekend. Seems we got married too fast after we met, and were both on rebounds from previous relationships (hers her just recent divorce, mine a very serious girlfriend). Should have seen it a long time ago. Been married 16 years in November, two girls. So watch out all you females out there, I’ll be in the market soon enough. Don’t know how often I’ll get to post (will be at my mom’s for six months, but don’t know when), but I’ll keep everyone informed of the progress, if y’all want to know. ---
**Author:** ![MysterEcks](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@MysterEcks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MysterEcks)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 8:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/2 "2000-09-26T08:19:59Z")
My condolences or congratulations, **pipefitter** –whichever (or both) applies. Mine lasted eight years; the divorce was final in May. ---
**Author:** ![CanadianSue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/71e660/32.png) [@CanadianSue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanadianSue)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 1:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/3 "2000-09-26T13:31:43Z")
Mine was 13 years and was final last Monday!! ---
**Author:** ![SmoothOperator](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/3bc359/32.png) [@SmoothOperator](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SmoothOperator)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/4 "2000-09-26T13:42:12Z")
My marriage is going through it’s dying stages right now. By my 23 anniversary, I will most likely be separated. ---
**Author:** ![Girlbysea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Girlbysea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlbysea)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 1:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/5 "2000-09-26T13:45:38Z")
May I join the club? ---
**Author:** ![Kiki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/dc4da7/32.png) [@Kiki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiki)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/6 "2000-09-26T14:38:14Z")
Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. I was only married a little over two years though. My one year (divorce) anniversary was this past June. My divorce only took three weeks though… I got one of those emergency divorces. Very slick! Condolences and congratulations all in one I guess. Let us know what happens. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![purrplebear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/90ced4/32.png) [@purrplebear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purrplebear)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/7 "2000-09-26T15:17:05Z")
Pipefitter, my dear friend. I know how sad this makes you, and how worried you are about your girls. Like I said last night, I’m here for you, as much as I possibly can be. If you can’t get online much, you can let me know, and I’ll keep everyone posted. Stay strong, and call that lawyer today. I love you, my friend. {{{{{{{{{Lou}}}}}}}}}} MysterEcks, CanadianSue, Rachelle, my condolences/congradulations on your divorces becoming final. Smoothy, I’m sorry to hear that, have you thought about counseling? I hate to see anyone just give up without a fight. {{{{{{{{dopers}}}}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Stuffy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Stuffy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stuffy)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/8 "2000-09-26T15:24:02Z")
Condolences and cograts to everyone. My divorce after an 8 year marriage was official in Oct of 98. I actually just got remarried in March to a very understanding and beuatiful woman who helped me to learn to trust again, thanks Hon (she’s been lurking)! ---
**Author:** ![JTR](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ee59a6/32.png) [@JTR](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JTR)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/9 "2000-09-26T18:51:55Z")
Sorry to hear it, **pipefitter**. Sixteen years and two children is a lot of commitment. I’m sure that this is completely turning your life upside down. It sounds like it’s going to be a tough break-up–you’re probably going to be slogging through the shit for some time to come. But keep in mind that it won’t last forever. There will be good times, laughter, and love again in the future. Don’t let it beat you down or make you start hating life. It’ll pass. By all means, keep us informed of your progress. Feel free to lean on people here for a little help and advice, as needed. ---
**Author:** ![Damhna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/3bc359/32.png) [@Damhna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Damhna)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/10 "2000-09-26T18:54:52Z")
6 Months to my legal freedom left. All time record of 18 Months. Mistake from the outset. Ill be waiting a long long time before I try that again. In the meantime…🙂 ---
**Author:** ![SouthernStyle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b3f665/32.png) [@SouthernStyle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SouthernStyle)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2000, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/11 "2000-09-26T19:15:19Z")
My first time around ended several years ago on December 31. Her lawyer didn’t bother to let me know that everything had been signed, so it wasn’t until a couple of weeks later when I received a copy of the documents in the mail that I even knew I was divorced. If I EVER go through that again, I’m pushing for having the divorced finalized on July 4th. Something poetic about getting divorced on “Independence Day”! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![pipefitter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/97f17d/32.png) [@pipefitter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pipefitter)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/12 "2000-09-27T00:04:05Z")
Thanks for all the moral support, fellow dopers. At least I know where to come for a pick-me-up!!! I will keep all informed as to my progress on this divorce. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/13 "2000-09-27T00:13:50Z")
Congratudolences. May your divorce be civil. ---
**Author:** ![ultress](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/7c8e57/32.png) [@ultress](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ultress)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/14 "2000-09-27T03:42:30Z")
Certainly a different lifestyle is about to happen to you. Sorry to hear what you are going through. In 16 years there had to be some happiness and you have your girls too. Life is bittersweet. Things have changed a great deal in the dating scene since you were there 16 years ago. Don’t get discouraged. I’ve been divorced for 10 years and while it hasn’t always been easy, it is what I prefer. Best to take things slow since you feel that you married on the rebound, be careful not to let that happen again. Feel free to email me if you need someone to listen. ---
**Author:** ![Scotticher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9c0ed/32.png) [@Scotticher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scotticher)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 4:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-free/34572/15 "2000-09-27T04:05:55Z")
I wouldn’t presume to offer you advice, hon, but you can have my shoulder to cry on if you want it. Cheri