# I'm getting laid too much. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 15, 2001, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066 "2001-01-15T01:51:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/81 "2001-01-17T01:30:47Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by webmastr \* > \Isn’t this whole PC craze because of some people assume a slight or slam in any and every situation, when it wasn’t necessarily intended, in which every little stance/instance/example isn’t spelled out in excrutiating detail? I am not necessarily saying this was the case with Esprix/ColdFire (Ok, so maybe I am a little 🙂 \ You’ll find me to be the least PC person on earth, **webmastr**. Intonation is another thing that comes into play here. Reread **PharmBoy** s initial observation (using the term losely). How can I _not_ interpret that as a slam? > [@](#): > > Anyway, **Coldfire** , I don’t think his second statement would be cause to ban him. Me neither. I just told him to watch his step. Everyone deserves a second chance. Although this _was_ quite a serious mess-up. > [@](#): > > And I also respectfully submit that indicating you are not going to listen to any of his explanations or replies goes against the nature of SDMB. Perhaps this thread is not the place for it, but he should have (within reason) a chance to be heard. If he wanted his opinion to be treated with respect, he should have _worded_ it with respect. It’s as simple as that. This is not a debate about AIDS. His remark did not _make_ it one either - it was far to inflamatory for that. As for his backpaddling second try: he should have thought of that earlier. _Dixit_. > [@](#): > > Let me (restate) that at this point I am neither supporting nor disagreeing with Pharm’s post in total. I just think ColdFire’s response was a bit extreme, unless the beef is that this was not the appropriate forum. Your opinion is noted. The beef was not the appropriateness of the forum, it was the apparent intent and intonation of **PharmBoy** s first post. ---
**Author:** ![Busta\_Rib](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/45deac/32.png) [@Busta\_Rib](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Busta_Rib)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 4:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/82 "2001-01-17T04:28:12Z")
Bastard! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![webmastr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9fc29f/32.png) [@webmastr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/webmastr)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 5:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/83 "2001-01-17T05:25:27Z")
I do have a question, however. I stress that I am not being judgemental here, I just want throw out a thought. I was thinking that any straight guy (or gal, for that matter) that ‘boasted’ about his sexual activeness (multiple partners, in a very short time frame, by using chat rooms) would probably be met with posts roasting him for ‘being shallow’ and a slut. Not that this is or is not true; nor do I say that Espris is or is not a slut. My point is that I think a straight person posting a similiar type of message would _not_ be met with so many non-critical posts. I also note that many of the posts will give a ‘bastard’ and ‘you suck’ type opening, but then throw in a smiley face or whatever - is this out of the fear that they might be seen as critical of Esprix, and thus a homophobe? Again - I don’t really know if this is true or not. But I just had the feeling reading the posts that maybe people are going out of their way (OK, maybe not out of their way - but I can’t think of any other way to say it) to _not_ offend, or be perceived as offending, someone who is in the minority in terms of sexual preference. And I don’t think people would be so tolerant of straights basically saying there were only in for one-night stands (don’t know if that is what Esprix is saying, but it seems like that to me). I am not a homophobe (at least I don’t think I am – some of my best friends are gay 😉 ) and I am NOT saying that Esprix should be criticized for living as he sees fit. I personally (as I mentioned above) worry about the potential risks, both to him and his partners, but that is not the focus behind my question here. I am merely asking if indeed there is a double standard of sorts at work that may prevent or shield minorities from criticism that would otherwise be directed at non-minorities. If so - is this acceptable? ColdFire, if this is too much of a hijack, I can open a new thread on it. Thanks - I do hope I have gotten my question across… ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/84 "2001-01-17T07:18:00Z")
You know what? I’m sorry I brought the whole fucking thing up. A guy can’t even _kid around_ without getting blasted anymore. Kee-rist… Esprix ---
**Author:** ![oldscratch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@oldscratch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/oldscratch)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/85 "2001-01-17T07:24:24Z")
you know what esprix… don’t be. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/86 "2001-01-17T07:36:23Z")
Thanks, babe. Don’t let the turkeys get you down, eh? 😉 And, uh, since I’ll be coming to SF sometime this year… how _you_ doin’? 😉 Esprix ---
**Author:** ![webmastr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9fc29f/32.png) [@webmastr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/webmastr)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/87 "2001-01-17T07:39:35Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Esprix \* > \*\*You know what? I’m sorry I brought the whole fucking thing up. A guy can’t even _kid around_ without getting blasted anymore. Kee-rist… > > Esprix \*\* No, no, no - again. And I agree with scratch; no reason to feel sorry about the thread, regardless of your reasons for starting it. Look - my query was about people’s _reaction_ to it, as opposed to a similiar thread started by a white male (for example) and if there would be difference. I think _I_ am sorry I posted to this thread, but for the record: Esprix, get a slightly thicker skin, because in no way was I _blasting_ you. I have read many of your posts in a number of threads, and while I don’t think I would be interested in getting to know you in the biblical sense, I bet you are a blast to be around. (mundane point that probably only I find of interest: the most fun I have ever had was at a gay bar in San Antonio - my first and only time in San Antonio, but it was an absolute blast. Does that prove I am not a homophobe? No?). Your posts are a riot, and I love your sig. OK? I think I will shut up now. ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/88 "2001-01-17T07:43:27Z")
Uh, **webmastr**? Who said you were the one that got me down, turkey? Esprix ---
**Author:** ![tisiphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@tisiphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tisiphone)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 7:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/89 "2001-01-17T07:51:35Z")
Yeah. What **Oldscratch** said. And if you’re ever in the North, do I ever have someone to introduce you to. 😉 If you could be induced to shower your god-like favours his way, I would grovel and worship at your feet. He’s been whining at me for three years . . . As a desperately married woman, I envy your variety. 😛 Tisiphone, who thinks you rock, too. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 8:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/90 "2001-01-17T08:04:36Z")
You watch your step, buddrick! Here in Canada it’s illegal to, quote, “do an act with attempt to alarm Her Majesty.” So leave the queen alone! Says, Matt (Gentleman Usher of Esprix’s Rod) ---
**Author:** ![webmastr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9fc29f/32.png) [@webmastr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/webmastr)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 8:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/91 "2001-01-17T08:17:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Esprix \* > \*\*Uh, **webmastr**? Who said you were the one that got me down, turkey? > > Esprix \*\* Um - I thought you did. Seeing as how your post was like _right after mine_ and all. Honest mistake if I wasn’t the object of the post. Apologies for jumping to conclusions. ---
**Author:** ![tisiphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/bbe5ce/32.png) [@tisiphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tisiphone)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 8:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/92 "2001-01-17T08:18:44Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by matt\_mcl \* > \*\* Here in Canada it’s illegal to, quote, “do an act with attempt to alarm Her Majesty.” > > \*\* And exactly what do _you_ have in mind should he actually poke his nose north of the border? Oh, :o [sub]nevermind…that’s been covered.[/sub] Not like you’d ever let him get farther than Montreal. 😛 Considering her Maj’s relatives,past and present, I’d imagine she’d be pretty much immune to any alarms of that sort. Tisiphone ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 12:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/93 "2001-01-17T12:23:14Z")
Well, leaving the pundits, nay-sayers, prudes, sexually repressed and hysteria-prone aside for a moment… where was I? Ah, yes, Vince. {sigh} What a hunk. But now you can add Willie to the list - wonderful beefy Navy boy. Yum! And, believe it or not, I may actually have some real _dates_ lined up for later this week - dinner, coffee, and no guarantee of gettin’ any! :eek: But, of course, in my heart of hearts I’m saving myself for my second-favorite Canadian, **matt**. Oh, and, um, my favorite northern Californian **Doobieous**. Um, er, I mean **oldscratch**. But then again there are all those Dopers I’ve left behind on the east coast… Aw hell. There just ain’t enough of me to go around - but we sure as hell can try! 😃 Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Jonathan\_Chance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jonathan_chance/32/701_2.png) [@Jonathan\_Chance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jonathan_Chance)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 2:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/94 "2001-01-17T14:09:53Z")
Merely two points… 1. Jesus Esprix. Be careful. No! Not about anything like that. I can trust you on that I think. But for God’s sake…make sure you’re drinking you Ginseng energy-boost tea and such. Healthy breakfasts every day…get a lot of fruits and such. No sense wearing yourself out. Remember! Endless sex is an endurance sport…not a sprint! 2. Call broker. Take strong positions in latex, vaseline, and body oil markets. Corner them if possible. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/95 "2001-01-17T14:33:26Z")
Really now. prudes, sexually repressed? Lets just poeple names who disagree with you young man. A little defensive eh? I can’t imagine why these posters are jealous of you. Using people for their bodies, throwing them away afterwards, and also vice versa. Why not just buy an inflatable toy? Not jealous, not repressed, I feel sorry for you. ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 2:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/96 "2001-01-17T14:45:00Z")
Heh. Esprix, just to let you know: if you want me to close this one, just say the word. ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/97 "2001-01-17T15:35:50Z")
_sigh_ Vanilla, if you go out for coffee with someone, and then neither of you calls the other again, were you using each other for conversation? If I go to bed with someone, and we both understand the nature of what’s going on, and we’re both getting the same thing out of it, how is that “using”? It may not be the world’s deepest and most powerful and meaningful liaison, but not everyone in the world feels the need to exchange rings and sign a pre-nup before bumping uglies. ---
**Author:** ![vanilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/f19dbf/32.png) [@vanilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vanilla)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/98 "2001-01-17T15:42:21Z")
matt: good point. Maybe they all knew they were just fun for the moment in bed. You make sense. If, however, any of them thought it might lead to something, it would be using. But you are right. ---
**Author:** ![Chef\_Troy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/85f322/32.png) [@Chef\_Troy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chef_Troy)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/99 "2001-01-17T18:21:23Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jonathan Chance \* > …make sure you’re drinking you Ginseng energy-boost tea and such. Healthy breakfasts every day… **get a lot of fruits** and such. Um, I think this was kind of the point Esprix was making. Oh, and **Matt** , mon petit morceau de viande? Don’t keep chasing after Esprix now that he’s out on the left coast screwing everything but the crack of dawn. Instead, exchange a series of increasingly passionate letters with your ever-lovin’ Cheffie, and when I scrape up the money I’ll pack my spurs and head your way. _wink_ ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [January 17, 2001, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-getting-laid-too-much/50066/100 "2001-01-17T20:17:15Z")
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