# I'm glad I don't have to be put through Valentine's Day **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [February 14, 2016, 12:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-glad-i-dont-have-to-be-put-through-valentines-day/746070 "2016-02-14T00:25:44Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2016, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-glad-i-dont-have-to-be-put-through-valentines-day/746070/61 "2016-02-16T14:46:49Z")
> [@faithfool](#): > > Heh. I’m agreeable to round one. And since this is a frilly, frou frou holiday I’m not celebrating this year, we’ll make it umbrella drinks. I’ll take a strawberry Pina Coloda. Whadaya have? I’m not really an umbrella drinks kind of guy, but I’ll go with a regular Pina Colada, or a PBR, [Zac Brown](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lB8Nkn3Xjes)-style, but only if you’re also springing for plane tix somewhere warm since I had my [del]toes[/del] body in the water on Sat…in NJ! ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2016, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-glad-i-dont-have-to-be-put-through-valentines-day/746070/62 "2016-02-16T16:14:59Z")
I used to give Valentine’s Day cards to all of my single friends, but a few mean naysayers complained about it. Like, why are you giving us cards, it’s all about love? And I said, well, I love you guys. And then they said, it’s all about romantic love, don’t send us any. It annoyed me a lot. Love is so scarce in this world, are you really going to turn down what little bit you get? Apparently so. So I stopped sending them at all. But Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be commercial. It’s just about commemorating the love you have. If you don’t have it, and you’re in a relationship, that’s something you might want to work out! This year for valentine’s day we got each other cards and small gifts. We spent the weekend playing Fallout 4. And on Monday, we went to the grocery store and got the candy 50% off. You celebrate it the way you want to. It’s about _love_, you bitter, cynical, old farts. 🙂 And I call you that with all the love in my heart! ---
**Author:** ![Enright3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/enright3/32/2897_2.png) [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)\ **Post date:** [February 16, 2016, 4:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-glad-i-dont-have-to-be-put-through-valentines-day/746070/63 "2016-02-16T16:32:10Z")
> [@ZipperJJ](#): > > You have a daughter don’t you? I love getting Valentines Day stuff from my dad. Even if you don’t see your daughter on Valentine’s Day, I bet she would get a kick out of getting something in the mail. > > A son too maybe? He might not scoff at a card if it contained a iTunes gift card too. > > I’ve never really had a valentine SO. But I make the most out of the holiday by sending cards to several of my friends’ kids and nieces. It’s fun! > > Maybe you could get over the bad feelings by putting out some good feelings to people you actually DO love. Ugh! I actually sent my two daughters Valentines Day bouquets this year. I ordered them from 1-800-Flowers dot com on February 5th to be delivered to their offices on February 12th (Friday). Well, they still haven’t arrived. :mad: I did get a refund (well I’m supposed to… I have to wait up to 10 days for it to be processed!) Fat lot of good that did. I have gotten screwed over more than once by online ordering. I guess it’s local flower shop next time. > [@pidgeon92](#): > > It’s one of the rare nights of the year that my husband insists on making dinner. He puts a lot of effort into it, and I really appreciate it. We gave up on cards and presents years ago. > [@Novelty\_Bobble](#): > > wait, what? from your _Dad_? Valentines day stuff from your _Dad_? > > In what scenario can that be appropriate or tastefull? Valentines day is surely a day for those romantically/sexually attached. My daughter is a great kid but there is zero chance of her getting any valentine’s day gifts from me. I shudder at the thought of _The Look_ she’d give me if I did. > > Or is that another trans-atlantic cultural quirk that I’m blissfully unaware of? I’m hoping it’s a trans-atlantic cultural quirk that you’re blissfully unaware of. It would not be weird or creepy in my family. It would be considered a nice gesture. I have a running joke with my wife and friends that Valentines day is a hierarchical holiday, in that guys get screwed over because they can never give a Valentines day present less than what was given the year before. Furthermore guys have to take a hit every several years and reset the bar by screwing up Valentines really good thereby setting the bar low again for the following year. 🙂 Well this was my reset year. 🆒 My wife joked (accurately, I might add) to some friends of ours at a party that she was aware of my scheme, and that she was also aware that I only send flowers to her work so that the OTHER people in her office will know what a great guy I am. Yes it’s true that I do that, and have joked with her on many occasions about it. We’ve both had good belly laughs as she tells me about Susie or Jane remarking how lucky she is to get flowers! But this year she got me back at the party. It was hilarious, and even more so when I said at the party; “you know I now have to reset the bar this year don’t you?” She said “I expect nothing less!” The point is that we don’t really care about the faux-holiday called Valentine’s Day, but we have fun with it anyway. When our birthdays come around we basically say to the other one, is there anything you’ve been wanting to buy for yourself that’s expensive that you’ve been putting off? Same with Christmas too, now that I think about it. We didn’t give Christmas gifts this year because our ultimate present is a trip we’re taking to Ireland in August/September to do touristy stuff and watch Georgia Tech play Boston College in football. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-glad-i-dont-have-to-be-put-through-valentines-day/746070.md?page=3)