# I'm going back to lurking & posting only in Cafe Society **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 20, 2005, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110 "2005-06-20T20:21:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![EllisDee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellisdee/32/4531_2.png) [@EllisDee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EllisDee)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/41 "2005-06-20T23:24:01Z")
> [@Hamadryad](#): > > Every time a fluffy MPSIMS/CS person leaves the Pit, a gargoyle gets its wings. Hey now, I like to think of CS as neutral in the war of snarky vs fluffy. I don’t think I’ve ever seen {{{hugs}}} in Cafe Society, thankfully. That kind of glurgy drivel makes me want to puke. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/42 "2005-06-20T23:27:23Z")
You know what? I’m not gonna post in the Pit either. This place sucks balls. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/43 "2005-06-20T23:27:40Z")
> [@Duck Duck Goose](#): > > Hanh? > [goggles silently] > > Hanh? > [goggles silently, even more] > > This has always been, hands-down, the **snarkiest** place on the Web. Perhaps you have been posting in some alternate Dope universe? I agree with this 100%. Anyone who thinks this place has become meaner or snarkier in the recent past is employing highly selective memory (or else hasn’t been around very long.) ---
**Author:** ![Go\_You\_Big\_Red\_Fire\_Engine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/eada6e/32.png) [@Go\_You\_Big\_Red\_Fire\_Engine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Go_You_Big_Red_Fire_Engine)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/44 "2005-06-20T23:34:52Z")
“I’m going back to lurking & posting only in Cafe Society” Oh dear thank god. You’re obviously not fit for the pit. Maybe this thread should’ve gone in ATMB Bosda-style. Because you know what, most people don’t give a fuck. This is as much of a pathetic joke of a thread that this one is. ---
**Author:** ![Go\_You\_Big\_Red\_Fire\_Engine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/eada6e/32.png) [@Go\_You\_Big\_Red\_Fire\_Engine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Go_You_Big_Red_Fire_Engine)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/45 "2005-06-20T23:37:03Z")
> [@Duck Duck Goose](#): > > Perhaps you have been posting in some alternate Dope universe? MPBSIMS ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/46 "2005-06-20T23:39:41Z")
> [@GorillaMan](#): > > Quite simply, I get better debates in my local pub than here - when the board achieves pub-debate status, count me in 😛 Yeah, I agree. No more posting in the pit until the hamsters pour me a beer and light my cigarette as soon as I log in. That joke(?) aside, I think **Anaamika** has found that she is a fluffy person on line. _shrug_ Takes all kinds. I doubt a post was necessary, but she does seem to be genuinely concerned about the direction the board is taking. I don’t think that concern is necessary, but I’m not going to rip her a new one for feeling that way. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/47 "2005-06-20T23:40:49Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > I agree with this 100%. Anyone who thinks this place has become meaner or snarkier in the recent past is employing highly selective memory (or else hasn’t been around very long.) What the fuck would you know? You’re one of _them_. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/48 "2005-06-20T23:42:08Z")
> [@Duck Duck Goose](#): > > > [@Anaamika](#): > > > > People seem so much more snarky these days. > > Hanh? > [goggles silently] > > > [@Anaamika](#): > > > > This used to be a more enjoyable, mild place. > > Hanh? > [goggles silently, even more] > > This has always been, hands-down, the **snarkiest** place on the Web. Perhaps you have been posting in some alternate Dope universe? No, actually, she’s been contributing to the hair-trigger snarkiness that she’s complaining about. See [this post](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=6220740&#post6220740), appearing on page 3, _after_ the target of her ire has already apologized for the comments that set her off. Notice that she didn’t actually contribute constructively to the subject matter of the thread. Notice also that when it was called to her attention that she should perhaps have read more carefully before flying off the handle, she didn’t bother to come back and acknowledge her mistake. Nope, one single post in a 5 page thread and her entire contribution was to break the rules of the forum and commit the same offense she’s whining about here. Perhaps she’s right and she does need a break. ---
**Author:** ![Colibri](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/colibri/32/1841_2.png) [@Colibri](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Colibri)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/49 "2005-06-20T23:54:26Z")
> [@andros](#): > > What the fuck would you know? You’re one of _them_. Snarky people? So are you. ---
**Author:** ![CateAyo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/50afbb/32.png) [@CateAyo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CateAyo)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/50 "2005-06-20T23:56:33Z")
I note that there are a few descriptives of “attention whore” being directed at the author of the OP. I have not seen this in her previous posts, IMHO. Perhaps, instead of attempting to provoke sympathy with or even understanding of her position (we see how well that worked), she was setting the stage to have her point proven for her. Perhaps she succeeded in this? Have a good day, all. Hawk ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2005, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/51 "2005-06-20T23:57:36Z")
> [@Hamadryad](#): > > For chrissakes. If you can’t mock, poke fun at, and generally rip to shreds some idiot starting an “I’m leaving” thread, who CAN you? > > That’s the only change I’ve seen in the Pit really, folks - now people will come in to DEFEND people for this ridiculous, narcissistic, attention-whoring, borderline martyrdom. > > Every time a fluffy MPSIMS/CS person leaves the Pit, a gargoyle gets its wings. In fairness, I only defended it out of spite for people like you, which I feel is still a validly pit-ish motive. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/52 "2005-06-21T00:05:22Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > Why do you keep saying that - you’ve been here for 3 years?!?! > > (At least I’m pretty sure it was you saying that in someother thread, somewhere.) I may well have registered a while back, but did not start posting here on regular basis (make that at all) until about 6-9 months ago. So, I consider myself not exactly new, but newish. **Biffy** --we’ll be crazy together! And \ I agree with all of \*\*Miller’s \*\* post. (checking hell for ice. 😛 ). I can’t speak to attention whorishness. But the thread is here now, for good or ill. so be it, I guess. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/53 "2005-06-21T00:06:10Z")
> [@Colibri](#): > > Snarky people? So are you. No, no, we know _that_. I meant . . . _them_. You know. The _SDSAB_ mafia. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/54 "2005-06-21T00:12:26Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > You know what? I’m not gonna post in the Pit either. This place sucks balls. umm… chief, you might wanna check your contract… ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/55 "2005-06-21T00:14:31Z")
> [@Miller](#): > > In fairness, I only defended it out of spite for people like you, which I feel is still a validly pit-ish motive. Ooo! What kind of a people am I? One who wishes people who think the Pit is too mean would go ahead and not read it? Or one who thinks “I’m leaving” threads are self-serving, narcissistic and stupid? If you are spiting THAT, hey - I’m all about being spited. Bring on the spite. ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/56 "2005-06-21T00:18:19Z")
I firmly believe you can post criticizing the tone of the board. Or you can post to say goodbye. Doing both at the same time is gauche. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/57 "2005-06-21T01:33:19Z")
> [@elfbabe](#): > > I give a fuck. Definitely not to YOU, though. You’re icky. {{{ **elfbabe** }}}} There. Now we’re both fucking hypocrites…or icky…or whatever. It feels good though, doesn’t it. Glad to be of service. Many of you have commented, and you have an arguable point, that the Board has gone down hill since P2P. Do you remember why we went to P2P? The main reason was that our usage here was too much for the Reader’s resources to handle. Right? The administration tried a few things to avoid having to go to a paid system. One of them was trying to get us to stop with the game threads, post count parties and other fluff. We, as a community, were unable to self-police, the fluff continued and now we have to pay to post here. The excess of fluff is what caused the problem and now it’s too late to go back. Haj ---
**Author:** ![Uvula\_Donor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/e19adc/32.png) [@Uvula\_Donor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uvula_Donor)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/58 "2005-06-21T01:38:54Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > This place sucks balls. Goddamnit, did I miss out _again??_ Because I have _never_ had my balls sucked in the Pit. grumble grumble ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/59 "2005-06-21T01:41:43Z")
Aw, man. I always knew there were a few people I could count on to never, even in jest, give anyone those stupid, stupid iHugs. It’s what got me through many a rough day on the Boards. And now you’ve gone and done it. I’m so disillusioned. I don’t know where to turn. Perhaps I’ll start an MPSIMS thread… ---
**Author:** ![nicobie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3e96dc/32.png) [@nicobie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nicobie)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/60 "2005-06-21T01:43:44Z")
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