# I'm going back to lurking & posting only in Cafe Society **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 20, 2005, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110 "2005-06-20T20:21:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![El\_Kabong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/el_kabong/32/496_2.png) [@El\_Kabong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/El_Kabong)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/61 "2005-06-21T01:58:23Z")
What’s all this crap about the OP being an attention whore anyway? Like no one else around here is. Let he or she who has never posted just to see their posts cast the first electronic stone. ---
**Author:** ![Good\_Egg](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/96bed5/32.png) [@Good\_Egg](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Good_Egg)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/62 "2005-06-21T02:03:36Z")
> [@Binarydrone](#): > > Well, sort of. In the same way that the inevitable result of running through a really rough neighborhood on roofies, naked and with a $1000 bill taped to your ass proves that people are inherently mean Spoken like someone who knows. we want photos… ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/63 "2005-06-21T02:19:35Z")
Is anyone else hearing Barenaked Ladie’s It’s All Been Done Before in there heads? ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/64 "2005-06-21T02:21:18Z")
I’ve just got a few misconceptions to clear up: 1. I only posted this in the Pit, because for Og’s sake, where else would it go? I knew it would turn into a bitch-fest. Which leads me to… 2. Of course you can call me an attention whore, whatever. It’s the Pit. 3. The snarkiness I am referring to is not about the Pit, people. It’s about the same snarky people who have snuck into MPSIMS, IMHO, and GD. Cafe Society still seems to be full of nice people. It’s not that I have thin skin…I’ve taken my lumps in the Pit though I’ll acknowledge not as much as some of you. I just think, if flirting should be regulated to MPSIMS, then being mean and caustic should be in the Pit. 4. I apologize to **Paul in Saudi** , that GD thread, the person who brought it up ( **Shayna** ), and anyone else who was offended. Yup, that was wrong of me to be hair-trigger and not come back and say anything. Sorry. **CateAyo, El\_Kabong, Miller, The Gaspode, Queen Tonya, Ethilrist** , and anyone who defended me who I can’t see because I can’t see all the posts now…thank you. And for you who think I shouldn’t even post that I’m leaving? Yeah, fuck you. I can post whatever I want same as you can. Ok, now that that’s cleared up. My point was not “Look at me, I’m leaving”, but “I’m leaving, and before I go, I want to make these specific points and want to be heard.” Not only was I heard, a bunch of you proved me right. ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/65 "2005-06-21T02:22:40Z")
I would be Biggirl, but I’m afraid it’s being drowned out by the maniacal laughter. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/66 "2005-06-21T02:23:38Z")
Heh. Kinda figured you coudn’t stay away. ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/67 "2005-06-21T02:24:35Z")
I wish I received a nickle everytime someone started a thread like this. I would probably be able to retire early. ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/68 "2005-06-21T02:29:21Z")
> [@El\_Kabong](#): > > What’s all this crap about the OP being an attention whore anyway? Like no one else around here is. > > Let he or she who has never posted just to see their posts cast the first electronic stone. 'Zactly. Everyone here is, to some extent, is an attention whore. Every post, no matter which forum it’s in, means “look at me.” You feel you have something to contribute, you do so. Don’t deny your inner attention whore. Accept it, deal with it, go forth and whore your little bottom off. ---
**Author:** ![imthjckaz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/imthjckaz/32/3223_2.png) [@imthjckaz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/imthjckaz)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/69 "2005-06-21T02:32:47Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I won’t be posting further in this thread, either, but I’ll read it. > > Bye! This is why these threads are so amusing, because the op in these types of threads always comes back. Always. I also wish I had a nickel for every time I made a spelling error. I’d be a very wealthy person. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/70 "2005-06-21T03:18:04Z")
> [@UrbanChic](#): > > Aw, man. I always knew there were a few people I could count on to never, even in jest, give anyone those stupid, stupid iHugs. It’s what got me through many a rough day on the Boards. And now you’ve gone and done it. Quite frankly that was the best compliment that I have ever gotten here. Haj ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/71 "2005-06-21T03:28:44Z")
> [@psycat90](#): > > I would be Biggirl, but I’m afraid it’s being drowned out by the maniacal laughter. You need to up your husband’s lithium dose. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![EllisDee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellisdee/32/4531_2.png) [@EllisDee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EllisDee)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/72 "2005-06-21T03:53:58Z")
> [@Maureen](#): > > 'Zactly. Everyone here is, to some extent, is an attention whore. Every post, no matter which forum it’s in, means “look at me.” You feel you have something to contribute, you do so. > Don’t deny your inner attention whore. Accept it, deal with it, go forth and whore your little bottom off. I disagree. Attention whoring is posting about yourself, in particular when trying to solict sympathy. One of the higher forms of attention whoring, on a messageboard, would be to start a thread stating your intended posting habits. “I’m leaving!” and “Hello, I’m new!” are typical attention whoring posts. This OP takes it to the next level. (Of course, she didn’t link a picture, so she still has room to ratchet it up a notch.) I don’t agree that posting a question in GQ or commenting on a tv show in CS is being an attention whore. While I might concede that every post _you_ make, whichever forum it’s in, means “look at you”, I would not agree that that’s the case for all posts from all posters. It just occured to me that the vast majority of MPSIMS is attention whoring. Since it’s such an unwieldy name, I advocate changing the forum name from “Mundane Pointless Stuff I Must Share” to the much simpler synonym, “Attention Whoring”. ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/73 "2005-06-21T04:02:22Z")
tomato, tomahto. ---
**Author:** ![istara](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e79b87/32.png) [@istara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/istara)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/74 "2005-06-21T05:26:16Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > She has a right to make it, we have a right to criticize it. Personally, I can’t stand these kinds of egocentric, whiny OPs. **Anaamika** wrote a pointless, annoying OP and she’s being called on it. I hardly think that this thread “proves [her] point” – if, indeed, she has one. A-fucking-men. If you want to “leave”, just do it. ---
**Author:** ![Charlie\_Tan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/charlie_tan/32/12582_2.png) [@Charlie\_Tan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charlie_Tan)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 5:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/75 "2005-06-21T05:31:27Z")
**andros** - one thing that’s always bugged the hell out of me is when people splice up a post in small sentences and reply, sentence, by sentence. It makes a rebuttal really hard (with the nested quote tags) since there isn’t a lot of coherence in the post one is trying to rebut. So - in short. No, all former mods have not written columns, but all former mods get SDSAB. The _title_ is not the issue, it’s just another thing to point to when seeing what have happened during the last 14 months. The Reader gives this place a budget which will buy Jerry a danish and a cup of coffee. Ed rely on volounter work so heavily, that when one of those people screw up big time, he can’t afford to throw that person out. As for shut up and pay up - no, no one has made that a sticky. But the feeling I get from TPTB is that they want it that way. They don’t want waves and trouble, they don’t have the time and they don’t have the energy - again, what with this place not having any kind of budget. And dude, the rant was lame - so what. It’s not like the other posts in this thread are blistering with wit. Or that the Pit ever does nowadays. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/76 "2005-06-21T05:37:38Z")
:shrug: OK. ---
**Author:** ![Conan\_the\_Librarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f1d935/32.png) [@Conan\_the\_Librarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Conan_the_Librarian)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 5:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/77 "2005-06-21T05:59:34Z")
> [@Hamadryad](#): > > If you are spiting THAT, hey - I’m all about being spited. Bring on the spite. This line made me chuckle untill I realized I misread it, and those extra t’s aren’t there. It’s ok, I know you have a spitting fetish but you wanted to cover it up. ---
**Author:** ![Maendosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ebca7d/32.png) [@Maendosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maendosa)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/78 "2005-06-21T06:23:51Z")
:rolleyes: "You had alot to say. You had alot of nothing to say. Come down. Get off your fuckin cross. We need the fuckin space to nail the next fool martyr" :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Go\_You\_Big\_Red\_Fire\_Engine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/eada6e/32.png) [@Go\_You\_Big\_Red\_Fire\_Engine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Go_You_Big_Red_Fire_Engine)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 7:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/79 "2005-06-21T07:49:45Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > I just think, if flirting should be regulated to MPSIMS, then being mean and caustic should be in the Pit. > [@](#): > > Not only was I heard, a bunch of you proved me right. So by being mean in **the pit** we proved you were right about the **other forums** being mean? Nice point, moron. ---
**Author:** ![Sarah\_Woodruff](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/df788c/32.png) [@Sarah\_Woodruff](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sarah_Woodruff)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/80 "2005-06-21T08:04:23Z")
> [@FinnAgain](#): > > try to remember that there are some _very_ good discussions that go on in the Pit. Very funny. Really, this forum is like a high-school debating class after the hapless student teacher has left for the day. **Anaamika** , feel free to use these boards in whatever way you want, within the terms of use - after all, you’re a paying customer! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110.md?page=5)