# I'm going back to lurking & posting only in Cafe Society **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 20, 2005, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110 "2005-06-20T20:21:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/81 "2005-06-21T08:20:35Z")
You can’t go **Anaamika** , who else will stand up for the spiders? For the love of god, will someone please think about the spiders!?!?!? On topic, I’m really digging this concept of judging people based on one post or thread. Fun stuff. Anaamika is an attention whore. Must be a sure thing based on this one thread. Put money on it. It’s a safe bet. :rolleyes: I understand that this is the pit and all, but it seems like a bunch of people took an extra asshole pill this morning (yes they do come in suppositories). Reading well over half the replies here, I can certainly see Anaamikas point. ---
**Author:** ![Noone\_Special](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/noone_special/32/2863_2.png) [@Noone\_Special](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noone_Special)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/82 "2005-06-21T08:45:29Z")
“Attention Whore” !? And you just **had** to say it and make sure everyone noticed you saying it? :rolleyes: (Yeah, _you_. You know who you are.) Pot. Kettle. Black. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/83 "2005-06-21T10:55:36Z")
[onion]I’m Like An Attention Whore Except for Money[/onion] ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/84 "2005-06-21T11:36:55Z")
> [@Sarah Woodruff](#): > > Very funny. Really, this forum is like a high-school debating class after the hapless student teacher has left for the day. > > **Anaamika** , feel free to use these boards in whatever way you want, within the terms of use - after all, you’re a paying customer! As you’re obviously far too grounded and mature to roll around in the Pit with the nasssssty little high-schoolers, I hope it’s not too presumptuous to hope that I never see your handle in here again… I’ll note that the people being all mean and hateful and omigod say it ain’t so are also using the boards in whatever way they want within the terms of use… After all - we’re paying customers. Anaamika is welcome to declare her intention to leave the mean, nasty Pit, and her respondents are welcome to declare that she’s an assbite for it. And we have. ---
**Author:** ![Metacom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecae2f/32.png) [@Metacom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Metacom)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/85 "2005-06-21T12:18:13Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Ok, now that that’s cleared up. My point was not “Look at me, I’m leaving”, but “I’m leaving, and before I go, I want to make these specific points and want to be heard.” Not only was I heard, a bunch of you proved me right. You’re leaving??? Will you at least be reachable via-email??? ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/86 "2005-06-21T12:40:18Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > On topic, I’m really digging this concept of judging people based on one post or thread. Fun stuff. Anaamika is an attention whore. Must be a sure thing based on this one thread. Put money on it. It’s a safe bet. :rolleyes: You’re absolutely right. I had never heard of Anaamika before this particular thread. Somehow, I had missed all 5000+ of her posts. Yup, I jumped right to the conclusion that she was an attention whore based solely on this one OP. Guilty as charged. And I’m ever so grateful to her for pointing out that the board has gone downhill. In all the time I’ve been here, I’ve never heard anyone say such a thing. But now that she’s mentioned it, I realize that the happy happy fun land has turned into a virtual hell. Let Anaamika’s declaration be our wake-up call! We must shape up, lest Anaamika ship out! ---
**Author:** ![CandidGamera](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/candidgamera/32/2878_2.png) [@CandidGamera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CandidGamera)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/87 "2005-06-21T12:47:48Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > You know what? I’m not gonna post in the Pit either. This place sucks balls. Okay, this nearly produced one of those loud chuckle-snorts, but I caught it at the last second. I’d also like to second Miller’s remark. I’ll leave you all to guess which one. It’ll be like a game thread. Or do we hate those, too? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![UrbanChic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/9dc877/32.png) [@UrbanChic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UrbanChic)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 12:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/88 "2005-06-21T12:53:21Z")
> [@Green Bean](#): > > You’re absolutely right. I had never heard of Anaamika before this particular thread. You beat me to it. Are you kidding, Harborwolf? Anaamika was _everywhere_ for a good while. You couldn’t go two or three threads without tripping over her. In fact, for a brief moment, I wondered if Guinistasia changed her username. And I’m not even counting the dozens she started herself. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/89 "2005-06-21T13:06:25Z")
You know, if she had posted this a year ago in MPSIMS, it would have been responded to with fairly good humor, with “When come back, bring pie” and “all your posts are belong to us,” and perhaps the occasional poo-flinging malcontent who would get a moderate admonishment for said poo. Today, no matter where she posted it, all there would have been was poo-flinging, which is, as she said, only appropriate in the Pit. She wanted the people who care to know that she’s going to be focusing on CS for a while. If you’re not one of those people, she understands that you’re not going to get it, and she put this in the Pit so you can fling away. Knock yourselves out. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/90 "2005-06-21T13:15:17Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > You know, if she had posted this a year ago in MPSIMS, it would have been responded to with fairly good humor, with “When come back, bring pie” and “all your posts are belong to us,” and perhaps the occasional poo-flinging malcontent who would get a moderate admonishment for said poo. You know, if she had posted this a year ago in The Pit, it would have been responded with _exactly_ the same mix of “you go girl” with " you people are sooooo mean." The same posts, almost to the word. “You all all mean here in the pit. This place is going down hill! I’m leaving!” “Attention whore!” “Meanie” That’s always how these type of OPs go here in the Pit. P.S. “When come back, bring pie” isn’t good-natured. It is mocking the OP. ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/91 "2005-06-21T13:22:42Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > Today, no matter where she posted it, all there would have been was poo-flinging, which is, as she said, only appropriate in the Pit. She wanted the people who care to know that she’s going to be focusing on CS for a while. If you’re not one of those people, she understands that you’re not going to get it, and she put this in the Pit so you can fling away. a) If people had flung poo (what a precious turn of phrase) in MPSIMS, it could have been reported to a mod, the person who did the shit-slinging warned, and perhaps a case could have been made for less assholery in MPSIMS. b) Of course there were going to be forcefully flung feces - she started an “I’m leaving” thread. Those are generally considered (by us mean assholes who don’t let anyone do anything fun) poor form as well as one of the worst forms of attention-whoring. c) “Attention-whoring” in this case is the difference between merely **wearing** a miniskirt, and standing up on a table shrieking “OMIGOD MY SKIRT IS SO SHORT YOU CAN SEE MY ASS!!” d) I find it extraordinarily unlikely that the “people who care” are in the habit of wandering the Pit looking for vital announcements from their constituents. e) Thanks for the permission. Don’t get any on ya’. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/92 "2005-06-21T13:43:04Z")
Dang, I didn’t post for like six weeks and no one even noticed. Jerks! 😃 Smooches, Anaamika, I hope you’ll post again. ---
**Author:** ![Lord\_Ashtar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ea924/32.png) [@Lord\_Ashtar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lord_Ashtar)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/93 "2005-06-21T13:46:04Z")
> [@The Gaspode](#): > > No, all former mods have not written columns, but all former mods get SDSAB. Someone should tell **UncleBeer**. ---
**Author:** ![TheBoneyKingofNowhere](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b9e5f3/32.png) [@TheBoneyKingofNowhere](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheBoneyKingofNowhere)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/94 "2005-06-21T13:52:08Z")
If no one really cared about the OP (as has been mentioned more than once), then wouldn’t it have simply gone unresponded to? I don’t much like this kind of OP either (why throw in the “oooh, I’m leaving bit” if that’s not the “point”?), but clearly it makes it much easier to create one when the obvious lame arguments are going to ensue (non-penis). I don’t think all posters are attention-whores either, but it seems like the standard reply to OP’s of this nature are more attention-seeking than posts in CS. How ironic. ---
**Author:** ![Feydeau](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df788c/32.png) [@Feydeau](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Feydeau)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/95 "2005-06-21T14:25:15Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Maybe it’s the extreme nit-picking. FWIW, I’m sorry. But it does make me happy that you’re one of the few, the proud, the proofreaders! ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/96 "2005-06-21T14:44:10Z")
> [@Hamadryad](#): > > a) If people had flung poo (what a precious turn of phrase) in MPSIMS, it could have been reported to a mod, the person who did the shit-slinging warned, and perhaps a case could have been made for less assholery in MPSIMS. True, but these days, if you start a thread in MPSIMS that you know is bound for the Pit, that’s grounds for a warning, too. > [@](#): > > d) I find it extraordinarily unlikely that the “people who care” are in the habit of wandering the Pit looking for vital announcements from their constituents. We seem to have found the thread anyway. Perhaps it’s that “New Posts” link up at the top of the page? > [@](#): > > e) Thanks for the permission. Don’t get any on ya’. I never seem to. Vaya con juevos. ---
**Author:** ![StarvingButStrong](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/starvingbutstrong/32/335_2.png) [@StarvingButStrong](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StarvingButStrong)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/97 "2005-06-21T15:02:33Z")
I do think the content of the pit has changed a bit. We still get the pittings based on conflicting idiologies. We still get the ‘isn’t it horrible’ threads about news reports of terrible doings. But we don’t seem to have a lot of what I think of as the ‘fun’ pittings. Memorable examples of what I mean include the threads on 1) check splitting, 2) tipping 3) travelling with young children 4) whether fat people should have to buy extra space on planes. Threads that it seems everyone relates to and has relevant stories to contribute on both sides. Why is this, do you suppose? Have we ‘used up’ all the ‘good’ subjects? Is it that the average ‘experience level’ on the dope board has gone up, now that it is pay? Because to kick off that kind of thread, someone has to post a heart-felt, maybe over the top rant about a situation that isn’t totally black and white. But ranters mostly want to be agreed with, I think, so if you realize that your OP will bring counterattacks from the ‘other side’ you think twice and don’t post? As in, it takes a ‘newbie’ to post along the lines of “I hate people who bring their uninvited brats to parties”? And we just don’t have enough newbies? ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/98 "2005-06-21T15:13:21Z")
> [@UrbanChic](#): > > > [@Green Bean](#): > > > > You’re absolutely right. I had never heard of Anaamika before this particular thread. > > You beat me to it. Are you kidding, Harborwolf? Anaamika was _everywhere_ for a good while. You couldn’t go two or three threads without tripping over her. In fact, for a brief moment, I wondered if Guinistasia changed her username. And I’m not even counting the dozens she started herself. The full quote was: > [@Green Bean](#): > > You’re absolutely right. I had never heard of Anaamika before this particular thread. Somehow, I had missed all 5000+ of her posts. Yup, I jumped right to the conclusion that she was an attention whore based solely on this one OP. Guilty as charged. > > And I’m ever so grateful to her for pointing out that the board has gone downhill. In all the time I’ve been here, I’ve never heard anyone say such a thing. But now that she’s mentioned it, I realize that the happy happy fun land has turned into a virtual hell. > > Let Anaamika’s declaration be our wake-up call! We must shape up, lest Anaamika ship out! That sound you heard was a “whoosh”. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/99 "2005-06-21T15:15:49Z")
I take it back. The sound _I_ heard was a loud “whoosh”. Sorry . . . and after I did all that coding too. ---
**Author:** ![Biffy\_the\_Elephant\_Shrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e47c2d/32.png) [@Biffy\_the\_Elephant\_Shrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biffy_the_Elephant_Shrew)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/100 "2005-06-21T15:36:30Z")
> [@StarvingButStrong](#): > > I do think the content of the pit has changed a bit. We still get the pittings based on conflicting idiologies. We still get the ‘isn’t it horrible’ threads about news reports of terrible doings. But we don’t seem to have a lot of what I think of as the ‘fun’ pittings. Good point. Somehow the “no joke pittings” policy seems to have evolved into “if your thread doesn’t raise the blood pressure high enough it will get locked or moved to MPSIMS with a sniff of ‘This isn’t Pit material.’ Only sincerely angry rants need apply.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110.md?page=6)