# I'm going back to lurking & posting only in Cafe Society **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [June 20, 2005, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110 "2005-06-20T20:21:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Ponder\_Stibbons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ponder_stibbons/32/343_2.png) [@Ponder\_Stibbons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ponder_Stibbons)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/101 "2005-06-21T15:48:54Z")
> [@Go You Big Red Fire Engine](#): > > MPBSIMS Mundane Pit-du-BBQ Shit I Must Spew? ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/102 "2005-06-21T16:29:16Z")
> [@Hamadryad](#): > > If people had flung poo (what a precious turn of phrase) Almost (dare I say it?) . . . twee. ---
**Author:** ![JohnBckWLD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/d6d6ee/32.png) [@JohnBckWLD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnBckWLD)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/103 "2005-06-21T16:43:43Z")
You think they’re vicious in here? Unless you like comic books, LoTR or Star Wars, I challenge you to try spending a few weeks over in that imperiously controlled forum without going insane. If you carry out your _threat_, remember this rule: To hardly know him is to know him well. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/104 "2005-06-21T16:53:44Z")
> [@JohnBckWLD](#): > > LoTR Goddammit, I am so fucking sick and tired of you ignorant asses coming in here and pretending you know so damn much. You just display your pitiful stupidity every time you post, dumbass. Christ, leave the discussion to those of us who actually _know_ what we’re talking about, willya? I mean, for fuck’s sake, how dumb do you have to be to know it’s _Lo **t** R_. You don’t capitalize “the,” you ignorant mook. ::d&r:: ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/105 "2005-06-21T19:05:39Z")
> [@andros](#): > > Almost (dare I say it?) . . . twee. DUDE. I came thisclose to saying “how twee” and changed my mind. ---
**Author:** ![Morbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morbo/32/389_2.png) [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/106 "2005-06-21T19:36:20Z")
> [@Go You Big Red Fire Engine](#): > > So by being mean in **the pit** we proved you were right about the **other forums** being mean? > Nice point, moron. Exactly what I was going to say. (Well, I might have left out the ‘moron’ part, seeing as how she’s all fragile and shit). Personally, I think the OP’s angry because she didn’t get the responses she expected when she posted in the Pit about how [pedestrians should walk behind her car when she pulls out in front of them without looking](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=300317). ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/107 "2005-06-21T20:22:33Z")
> [@UrbanChic](#): > > You beat me to it. Are you kidding, Harborwolf? Anaamika was _everywhere_ for a good while. You couldn’t go two or three threads without tripping over her. In fact, for a brief moment, I wondered if Guinistasia changed her username. And I’m not even counting the dozens she started herself. I know who Anaamika is. Not entirely clueless ya know. We share a similar affection for spiders, thus explaining the first part of my post. What tweaked me was that all of a sudden everyone decides that she is an attention whore based on this thread. Strikes me as kind of shitty. YMMV ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/108 "2005-06-21T20:34:27Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > everyone decides that she is an attention whore based on this thread. But it wasn’t based on this thread… ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/109 "2005-06-21T20:47:49Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > What tweaked me was that all of a sudden everyone decides that she is an attention whore based on this thread. Strikes me as kind of shitty. > > YMMV MMDV. It is exactly this type of thread that makes me think “attention whore”. yep. ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 8:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/110 "2005-06-21T20:59:44Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > But it wasn’t based on this thread… I must’ve missed the other threads where she seemed like an attention whore, or acted the part enough to stand out from the rest of us whores. I’d welcome the correction. It won’t change my mind to much on her. Anyone who likes spiders as much as me is peachy keen in my book, but it’ll clear things up just the same. **Wring** , normally I’d agree with you. It may be because I find Ana to be an overall pleasant person that I don’t. It just says a lot to me that the first few posts in this thread were so predictable. Sometimes I wonder if people hang out in the pit just to be assholes. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/111 "2005-06-21T21:09:27Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > **Wring** , normally I’d agree with you. It may be because I find Ana to be an overall pleasant person that I don’t. It just says a lot to me that the first few posts in this thread were so predictable. Sometimes I wonder if people hang out in the pit just to be assholes. Sometimes, sure. I used to hang out in GD mostly, but of late here is more likely where I’d be. Can get the same sort of debate type of thing going, and every now and then I get to be snippy and call some one an asshole -which I have to refrain from IRL. Plus you get all the updates on big events (bannings etc) in here. I don’t know the OP at all. and she may well be a helluva nice person. can’t tell it from this thread though. and, FWIW, (ie not much), I just generally don’t like this type of thread “I’m leaving and here’s why”. It reminds me of when I was a kid in grade school and wanted to play on the merry go round but didn’t want the other kids to have it go around and around (made me dizzy). I’ve matured (slightly) since then. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/112 "2005-06-21T21:27:01Z")
> [@wring](#): > > Sometimes, sure. I used to hang out in GD mostly, but of late here is more likely where I’d be. Can get the same sort of debate type of thing going, and every now and then I get to be snippy and call some one an asshole -which I have to refrain from IRL. Plus you get all the updates on big events (bannings etc) in here. I don’t know the OP at all. and she may well be a helluva nice person. can’t tell it from this thread though. and, FWIW, (ie not much), I just generally don’t like this type of thread “I’m leaving and here’s why”. It reminds me of when I was a kid in grade school and wanted to play on the merry go round but didn’t want the other kids to have it go around and around (made me dizzy). I’ve matured (slightly) since then. 😉 I like the debate here too, but the standards of evidence are lower. I guess it’s a tradeoff for the higher entertainment value. You also demonstrate what I was talking about in my earlier post. Personally, I don’t see Ana as being that much more of an attention whore than the rest of us. Even now I don’t since I think she had a point. Yet, a bunch of posters just jump right in with the usual comments seemingly without considering the rest of the OP, though it did help to reinforce her point. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/113 "2005-06-21T21:32:26Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > I must’ve missed the other threads where she seemed like an attention whore… I wasn’t super clear - it isn’t ONLY this thread. A few people have posted that they’ve seen her _EVERYWHERE_, all the time, and then she pops up again with this thread - that’s what’s getting her painted with the AW brush. I think if some poster with 4 posts over 5 years posted and said “I think I’ll avoid the pit” people would be less likely to haul out the AW name. YMMV but that’s how I was reading it. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/114 "2005-06-21T21:44:49Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > A few people have posted that they’ve seen her _EVERYWHERE_, all the time, and then she pops up again with this thread - that’s what’s getting her painted with the AW brush. I think if some poster with 4 posts over 5 years posted and said “I think I’ll avoid the pit” people would be less likely to haul out the AW name. So, she’s an attention whore based on her post count? You might want to compare your post count and join date with her post count and join date before you make that particular argument. ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/115 "2005-06-21T21:49:19Z")
> [@alice\_in\_wonderland](#): > > I wasn’t super clear - it isn’t ONLY this thread. > > A few people have posted that they’ve seen her _EVERYWHERE_, all the time, and then she pops up again with this thread - that’s what’s getting her painted with the AW brush. I think if some poster with 4 posts over 5 years posted and said “I think I’ll avoid the pit” people would be less likely to haul out the AW name. > > YMMV but that’s how I was reading it. That’s silly. By that token Guin and Liberal are the biggest whores on the board if we are going by post count. Maybe we need to set a standard of measurement. I think anyone with a post count above…oh heck, let’s say mine, is an attention whore. 😛 That’ll teach you people to be chatty. ---
**Author:** ![Rufus\_Xavier](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@Rufus\_Xavier](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rufus_Xavier)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 10:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/116 "2005-06-21T22:15:17Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > Maybe we need to set a standard of measurement. I think anyone with a post count above…oh heck, let’s say mine, is an attention whore. 😛 Well, I’m fucked. ---
**Author:** ![Biffy\_the\_Elephant\_Shrew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e47c2d/32.png) [@Biffy\_the\_Elephant\_Shrew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biffy_the_Elephant_Shrew)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/117 "2005-06-21T22:19:46Z")
Hello, sailor, new in town? ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 11:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/118 "2005-06-21T23:09:22Z")
> [@Rufus Xavier](#): > > Well, I’m fucked. You’d hope, otherwise you’re a lousy whore. ---
**Author:** ![wring](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/838e76/32.png) [@wring](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wring)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/119 "2005-06-21T23:16:40Z")
> [@Harborwolf](#): > > You’d hope, otherwise you’re a lousy whore. but would that count as an attention whore? ---
**Author:** ![Harborwolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/c89c15/32.png) [@Harborwolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harborwolf)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2005, 11:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110/120 "2005-06-21T23:24:09Z")
> [@wring](#): > > but would that count as an attention whore? depends on how big the audience is. Methinks Paris Hilton would be the gold standard of an attention whore. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-back-to-lurking-posting-only-in-cafe-society/309110.md?page=7)