# I'm going to hide some trivial info in my marriage **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 18, 2013, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545 "2013-08-18T06:39:47Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 12:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/21 "2013-08-19T00:29:34Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > BTW my username isn’t my real name. It is what I thought would be the ideal name based on Kabalarian numerology. Duh. ---
**Author:** ![Cheshire\_Human](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/5f8ce5/32.png) [@Cheshire\_Human](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheshire_Human)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/22 "2013-08-19T01:39:56Z")
> [@kayaker](#): > > Huh. I didn’t find that trivial at all. Well, carry on. Trivia is as trivia does. Stop hating on trivia. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/23 "2013-08-19T02:53:40Z")
Hey, I love trivia. But **JC** ’s situation is pretty much the polar opposite of trivia, being a situation of deep substance. Mum’s the word. ---
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/24 "2013-08-19T04:36:21Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > It is what I thought would be the ideal name based on Kabalarian numerology. Whoa, whoa, whoa… say what!? ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 4:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/25 "2013-08-19T04:47:17Z")
> [@White SIFL](#): > > Whoa, whoa, whoa… say what!? > [@](#): > > The name of **John** has made you serious-minded, responsible, and stable. > > You love the security of a home and family, you are fond of children, and, as a parent you would be fair and understanding. > > Although you have good business judgment, you are not aggressive in your dealings because you do not like to create issues. > > You would be successful in any position dealing with the public as you have a diplomatic and tactful manner and possess a charming, easy-going nature which puts people at ease. > > People are drawn to you because they feel that you are patient, kind, understanding, and responsive. > > You would be effective in a career or in volunteer work where you are handling people and serving in a humanitarian way. > > While you are honest and responsible, one weakness that is paramount in your life is your lack of self-confidence and initiative, which causes you to put things off and avoid facing issues. > > Generally speaking, you have few problems with your health; however, there is a weakness affecting the fluid functions of the body. I thought Clay gave the same description but anyway now it seems like it is: > [@](#): > > Your first name of **Clay** has given you a quick, analytical mind. > > You are creative, versatile, and imaginative. > > However, independence, positivity and the urge for action and progress are such strong forces in your nature that you find it difficult to control them. > > You feel happy as long as headway is being made, but as soon as you are obstructed or your individuality and freedom of action are restricted, you experience an intense nervous reaction. > > Moods of depression can result during which you become caustic and belligerent in your attitude toward everyone, especially to those in closest association with you. > > Routine, monotony, and the responsibility of looking after details can have a similar effect on you, as you are a person who desires change, travel, and new experiences. > > In order to gain greater congeniality in your personal associations, you need to cultivate a more relaxed manner, greater generosity, understanding, and tolerance, and, above all, you need to avoid being too outspoken and self-opinionated. The influence of this name can be very destructive to your health and personal happiness, even though it may take you far in business. > > You frequently experience nervous tension in the solar plexus. > > A sensitive stomach and ulcers could result. > > Also, ailments could centre in the head affecting the eyes, ears, nose, throat, or teeth. There is also this: > [@](#): > > The name of **Johnclay** gives you a clever, quick, analytical mind, but you suffer with a great deal of self-consciousness, lack of confidence, and much aloneness because of misunderstandings. > > Your idealistic and sensitive nature gives you a deep appreciation for the finer things of life and a strong desire to be of service to humanity. > > There are times when you experience inner turbulence at your inability to say what you mean. > > It is far easier for you to express your deeper thoughts and feelings through writing than verbally. > > You find pleasure in literature, in poetry, and in your ideals and will turn to them when you feel you have been misunderstood. > > You are deeply moved by the beauties of life, especially nature. > > Because your feelings run deep, you must guard against the ups and downs, being very inspired one minute, then moody, reserved, and depressed the next. > > Your reactions to people vary according to how you feel. > > You tend to be secretive and noncommittal about private matters, yet at times you will talk effusively in order to hide your self-consciousness or to lead others away from personal subjects. > > You are inspired by encouragement from others, yet suspicious of their intent. > > You crave affection but seldom find anyone who understands your nature. > > Physical weaknesses would show in your heart, lungs, or bronchial organs. From here: > **[/index.cfm](https://www.kabalarians.com/)** > > Searching for your purpose or interested in name meanings? Choose a successful Kabalarian Balanced Name. /index.cfm ---
**Author:** ![Lucas\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lucas_jackson/32/303_2.png) [@Lucas\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lucas_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/26 "2013-08-19T04:55:51Z")
Wow, OK asked and answered. Thanks for taking the time to explain. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/27 "2013-08-19T05:22:20Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > I thought Clay gave the same description but anyway now it seems like it is: > > There is also this: > > From here: > [http://kabalarians.com/](http://kabalarians.com/) All that from “John”?? Where? How? Huh? ---
**Author:** ![GusNSpot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gusnspot/32/436_2.png) [@GusNSpot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GusNSpot)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/28 "2013-08-19T05:26:04Z")
I got it just fine. I also understand RINO just fine… what? ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/29 "2013-08-19T05:26:33Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > All that from “John”?? Where? How? Huh? Go to the link [http://kabalarians.com/](http://kabalarians.com/) and see the “Instant Name Analysis” box on the left… Edit: See Why Names Matter. Watch: on the right… it basically uses the letters in the name and some [pseudoscientific] maths… ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 6:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/30 "2013-08-19T06:53:52Z")
214? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 7:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/31 "2013-08-19T07:41:54Z")
> [@JohnClay](#): > > . . . based on Kabalarian numerology. Well, you should have said that at the beginning, like the thread title. Would have saved us from wasting our time. ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/32 "2013-08-19T07:46:06Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Well, you should have said that at the beginning, like the thread title. Would have saved us from wasting our time. Wasted people’s time by thinking that my screen name was my real name? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/33 "2013-08-19T08:00:23Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > **JohnClay** , how’s your sleep? Your post is showing some disorganized thoughts and whiff of mania. Go make sure you’re taking all your meds, okay? And if you’re not currently taking anything, it might be worth going to the doctor today and talking with them. > > I think it’s just fine not to share with your wife that you changed your mind over such a minor matter. But I am concerned with your mental health at the moment. This thread and the “wife’s penis” thread makes me think you may be right. ---
**Author:** ![Becky2844](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@Becky2844](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Becky2844)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 8:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/34 "2013-08-19T08:04:00Z")
It sounded like the short version of long conversations I’ve had at the kitchen table (or on the phone) at 3am, when iced tea has given way to booze. Let your wife pick. We like to nest. Before too long (20 or 30 years or so) you’ll think you like the stuff, too. ---
**Author:** ![Quint](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/76d3ee/32.png) [@Quint](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quint)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 8:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/35 "2013-08-19T08:11:54Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > This thread and the “wife’s penis” thread makes me think you may be right. “Wife’s Penis”?? Link?? ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/36 "2013-08-19T08:23:31Z")
> [@Quint](#): > > “Wife’s Penis”?? Link?? [Link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=699867) ---
**Author:** ![JohnClay](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/c37758/32.png) [@JohnClay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnClay)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 8:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/37 "2013-08-19T08:54:29Z")
> [@Becky2844](#): > > …Let your wife pick. I’d rather we get things in the kitchen that we both like. And I would have let her keep it if I wasn’t able to talk her out of it. > [@](#): > > …Before too long (20 or 30 years or so) you’ll think you like the stuff, too. I’d rather have a small amount of possessions and get rid of the stuff we’re not using than to be like my parents and have junk everywhere. I like motels/hotels and some rich people’s houses where things like quite bare. My lounge is like that. If my wife wants things to clutter up the place I suggest to her to keep it in our bedroom. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 10:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/38 "2013-08-19T10:52:05Z")
> [@Siam\_Sam](#): > > [Link](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=699867) Whoa. Weeeeeeeee. Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![grude](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e47774/32.png) [@grude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/grude)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/39 "2013-08-19T13:06:28Z")
I thought this was going to be about like some kind of private joke password between the two of you, setting up the hidden info beforehand in case of having to face a situation in the future like an evil clone or twin. You know so you could convince her to shoot the other guy. > [@](#): > > While I was having a nice hot shower at her mum’s place her mum told her about a set of cups she had that she never used. Your mother in law talks to you in the shower? ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2013, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545/40 "2013-08-19T13:22:15Z")
> [@grude](#): > > Quote: > While I was having a nice hot shower at her mum’s place her mum \*\*told her \*\*about a set of cups she had that she never used. > Your mother in law talks to you in the shower? Read much? :dubious: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-hide-some-trivial-info-in-my-marriage/666545.md?page=3)