# I'm going to miss you, buddy **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 17, 2001, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260 "2001-04-17T06:46:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Monster104](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Monster104](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monster104)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 6:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/1 "2001-04-17T06:46:53Z")
☹ Over the last few days, I’ve had to deal with something I’ve never experienced before. For those of you who might have noticed a change in my attitude or behavior, this is why… On Saturday, April 14th, late at night, my close friend died in a car accident in Porter Ranch, CA. I cannot believe it…I’m totally in shock. Our whole senior class is completely shaken. He was a passenger with one of his friends, who was speeding in his Mercedes. The driver lost control of the car, and they hit a light pole and then flipped several times off the road. My friend died in the accident, and the driver had injuries and was taken to the hospital. No drugs or alcohol were involved. I and all my friends at school are deeply hurt and saddened. He was very nice, caring person. He was the type of person you could go to talk with, to share your deepest feelings with, and he would give you his honest opinion and give you advice he believes would be appropriate. He was a hilarious person, always managing to crack a joke. He could turn the most dull class into a laughing riot. His charisma was beyond anything I’ve ever encountered before. I’ve known him all through high school, and got to be very good friends with him in the 11th grade. Our class went through each grade together, but now, our senior prom and graduation will be missing one person. One person who was driving force behind unifying our class. He has always been kind to me, and has always had something to say to me to make me laugh. He would tell his friends about me, that they should have the chance to meet me, and that he was fortunate to know me. My last words to him were “I’ll see you later”. Now he’s gone, and none of us will ever see him again. We have lost his humor, his wit, and his love. Most importantly, we have lost a friend. I will never have the chance to fulfill my last words to him, and an emptiness will be in my heart from his death. We love you, Tony, and we’ll miss you forever. Rest in peace, my friend. ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 6:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/2 "2001-04-17T06:49:46Z")
Dude, I can seriously say that I sympathise with you. I wish I could EMPathise, but I’ve never experinced this. All I can say is :(:(☹ {{{{Monster}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/3 "2001-04-17T06:50:00Z")
I’m sorry, Monster. Yeah… it hurts, doesn’t it? Hang in there. You know where to find us if you need us. ---
**Author:** ![silent\_rob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e9a140/32.png) [@silent\_rob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silent_rob)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 6:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/4 "2001-04-17T06:59:09Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, **Monster**. My sympathies go out to your friend’s family, you, and your class. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/5 "2001-04-17T07:00:03Z")
Make sure you do not lose the ability to feel during this. or after, or whatever. Once you realize it’s gone, it can take a very long time to regain it. And you can do unfathomable amounts of damage to yourself if you don’t know it. {Monster} ---
**Author:** ![JavaMaven1](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/cab0a1/32.png) [@JavaMaven1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JavaMaven1)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/6 "2001-04-17T07:10:08Z")
I’m so sorry about your loss. If you need someone to talk to, you can email or catch me on AIM anytime. ---
**Author:** ![Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Airman_Doors_USAF)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/7 "2001-04-17T07:14:54Z")
I’m sorry to hear that, Monster. _Raising a glass for Tony_ ---
**Author:** ![reprise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@reprise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/reprise)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 7:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/8 "2001-04-17T07:19:45Z")
☹ {{{{Monstr}}}} You know where to find us if you need us. ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/9 "2001-04-17T10:55:37Z")
**Monster** , my condolences. Grieve in your own time, and grieve well. It’s not an easy thing to lose a friend, especially so young. My thoughts and prayers are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Falcon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/49beb7/32.png) [@Falcon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Falcon)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/10 "2001-04-17T13:08:54Z")
_hugs Monster_ My thoughts are with you, hon. ---
**Author:** ![Simetra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Simetra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simetra)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 1:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/11 "2001-04-17T13:17:12Z")
My condolences **Monster**. My prayers are with you and your classmates. **TP** offers some great advice. I hope you take it. Again, I’m sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/12 "2001-04-17T16:16:49Z")
Monster: As one who has always admired you from afar, I see you as a living tribute to your friend, Tony. It takes a good man to know a good man. Keep his spirit in your heart always. ---
**Author:** ![Anniz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/cc9497/32.png) [@Anniz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anniz)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/13 "2001-04-17T16:47:09Z")
Life is to hard sometimes. I’, so sorry for your loss **Monster**. ---
**Author:** ![ladybug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/46a35a/32.png) [@ladybug](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ladybug)\ **Post date:** [April 17, 2001, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/14 "2001-04-17T20:48:09Z")
{{{{ **Monster** }}}} I don’t really know what to say right now. ☹ I’m so sorry for your loss. My condolences to you and your classmates, and to your friend’s family. You’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. Amy ---
**Author:** ![Monster104](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Monster104](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monster104)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2001, 3:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/15 "2001-04-18T03:33:46Z")
Thanks for the kinds words. A little update…his family was originally planning to have a closed private funeral, but they changed their minds and are allowing his friends to attend as well. We also all pitched in some money to get an extra page added to the yearbook in memory of his contribution to our lives. I miss him more every hour. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![reprise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ea666f/32.png) [@reprise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/reprise)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2001, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/16 "2001-04-18T03:42:02Z")
I’m so pleased to hear about the yearbook. My son’s graduating class added pages for each of their classmates who died before graduating, and it was very moving for the class and extremely poignant for the families of those who were included post-humously in the graduation. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2001, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/17 "2001-04-18T07:07:35Z")
sigh {{{{{{{{{Monster}}}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [April 18, 2001, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-going-to-miss-you-buddy/62260/18 "2001-04-18T12:03:47Z")
Monster: Perhaps you could add a tribute for Tony to your website. My wife did this for our grandson who died, and the exercise was therapeutic. It helps for that feeling you have when you wish you could do something, but don’t quite know what.