# I'm not giving up my seat **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 16, 2013, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431 "2013-01-16T22:34:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 57
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1121 "2013-01-22T03:24:49Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > I suspect the opposite, actually. You’d be getting far less sympathy from many of the people in here had you left out your afterword. > > See, the thing is, I understand you not wanting to sit next to a person who’s coughing all over you. I wouldn’t want to, either. But you had other options than you being the one beside her. For instance, as penalty for their lateness _and_ their rudeness, you could have sat _them_ next to her and had the last laugh. But instead of choosing to be nice to people _even if they were rude to have asked in the first place_, you chose instead to escalate it. > > Why? Why were you _that_ stubborn? You were _so_ stubborn that you actually ruined the whole experience for yourself. So much so that you just had to come pitch a fit about a 10-second verbal spat that should have just been forgotten about by the time the credits rolled. Shayna, you do not know me. The movie was not ruined. I forgot about them about 30 seconds later…that’s until the started texting for 3 hours straight. They would have done that anyway, so that is a wash. Now back to my republican fundraising…but first, is their anything else you want to tell me about myself? Just so I can know, since you seem to know me better than I do, all based on a few posts on an internet forum. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1122 "2013-01-22T03:25:16Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > And texting is extremely rude. Not just to me, but to the entire theater. Now don’t lose your mind or anything, but I couldn’t agree more with this. Texting throughout a movie is the height of rudeness. It’s unbelievably distracting and I’d have had no problem telling them to shut their damn phone off. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1123 "2013-01-22T03:26:28Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > Shayna, you do not know me. > > The movie was not ruined. I forgot about them about 30 seconds later…that’s until the started texting for 3 hours straight. They would have done that anyway, so that is a wash. > > Now back to my republican fundraising…but first, is their anything else you want to tell me about myself? Just so I can know, since you seem to know me better than I do, all based on a few posts on an internet forum. This is an awfully strange thread for someone who forgot about them 30 seconds later. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1124 "2013-01-22T03:26:46Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > The mocking and name calling really makes you look mature, level-headed, and highly sociable by the way. Not going to address this, I take it? ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1125 "2013-01-22T03:28:03Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > This is an awfully strange thread for someone who forgot about them 30 seconds later. I was focused on the movie. You see, I am not focused on the movie now. I know, it is hard to comprehend. ---
**Author:** ![Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hentor_the_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1126 "2013-01-22T03:31:04Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > This is an awfully strange thread for someone who forgot about them 30 seconds later. The spastic over-reactions here are also at odds with her characterization, too. Does she strike anyone like a “water off a duck’s back” kind of person? ---
**Author:** ![dropzone](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dropzone/32/7515_2.png) [@dropzone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dropzone)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1127 "2013-01-22T03:32:07Z")
> [@bobot](#): > > ❤ I can do this ❤ and this ❤ but not the fat one. ETA: This is nuts. I’m going to bed early. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1128 "2013-01-22T03:34:07Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > Not going to address this, I take it? Why would I care what you think of how I post in the forum where insults are specifically allowed? At least I know where the appropriate places are for me to express my annoyance at rude people … like not in a crowded movie theater when other people would actually be disturbed by it. You, on the other hand … not so much. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1129 "2013-01-22T03:36:32Z")
> [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](#): > > The spastic over-reactions here are also at odds with her characterization, too. Does she strike anyone like a “water off a duck’s back” kind of person? You know what? You are a fucking liar. And a dickhead. And an asshole. You are also a republican, against UHC. You fucking disgust me, you un-socialized dog. By the way, would you have been ok if they did xyz? By the way, would you have been ok if they did xyz? By the way, would you have been ok if they did xyz? By the way, would you have been ok if they did xyz? By the way, would you have been ok if they did xyz? I have remained pretty calm for someone who has dealt with 20+ pages of this. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1130 "2013-01-22T03:36:53Z")
> [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](#): > > The spastic over-reactions here are also at odds with her characterization, too. Does she strike anyone like a “water off a duck’s back” kind of person? LOL. No. But then, I’m sure neither do I, if all anyone went by were my posts in the 'Pit. On the other hand, I’ve never posted a 'Pit rant about how unbelievably rude someone was to ask me if a seat next to me was taken in a movie theater, either, so there’s that. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1131 "2013-01-22T03:37:59Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > Why would I care what you think of how I post in the forum where insults are specifically allowed? At least I know where the appropriate places are for me to express my annoyance at rude people … like not in a crowded movie theater when other people would actually be disturbed by it. You, on the other hand … not so much. Big and bad on the internet to make up for real life inadequacies. Got it. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1132 "2013-01-22T03:40:20Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > You know what? > I have remained pretty calm for someone who has dealt with 20+ pages of this. What on earth did you expect from a 'Pit thread? Fluffy bunnies are over in [MPSIMS](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/forumdisplay.php?f=4) — this is where the gloves come off. ---
**Author:** ![R3d\_Anonymous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/aeb1de/32.png) [@R3d\_Anonymous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/R3d_Anonymous)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1133 "2013-01-22T03:40:46Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > LOL. No. > > But then, I’m sure neither do I, if all anyone went by were my posts in the 'Pit. On the other hand, I’ve never posted a 'Pit rant about how unbelievably rude someone was to ask me if a seat next to me was taken in a movie theater, either, so there’s that. 😛 It started in IMHO. Then the mods moved it here because everyone was treating this like a pit thread there. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1134 "2013-01-22T03:42:05Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > Big and bad on the internet to make up for real life inadequacies. > > Got it. That you think it’s an inadequacy not to behave like a jerk in public is telling. I’ve stated my case. Have a nice life dear. It’ll be a difficult one if you keep up this behavior, I’ll just leave it at that. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1135 "2013-01-22T03:43:31Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > LOL. No. > > But then, I’m sure neither do I, if all anyone went by were my posts in the 'Pit. On the other hand, I’ve never posted a 'Pit rant about how unbelievably rude someone was to ask me if a seat next to me was taken in a movie theater, either, so there’s that. 😛 Yet again, please read the thread. I did not start a pit rant. Anonymous user pitted my IMHO thread. The mods merged the threads. I know. You rather just spout off your opinion, rather than inform yourself. I did not write a rant in the pit. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1136 "2013-01-22T03:44:37Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > That you think it’s an inadequacy not to behave like a jerk in public is telling. > > I’ve stated my case. Have a nice life dear. It’ll be a difficult one if you keep up this behavior, I’ll just leave it at that. Bye, please don’t come back. ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1137 "2013-01-22T03:57:08Z")
> [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](#): > > Not at all. We did make people when the theater was full, as opposed to the assertion that this is never done. In fact, we did. I was an usher during high school and a summer or two in college and this matches my experience 100%. > [@](#): > > At the same time, I never was present for a circumstance where someone asked for seating help and a lot of open rows remained open. I was–we were a stand-alone theater (not a multi-plex) which got a lot of world premiers and first run movies. We’d regularly have people (some of whom were older, but not all) who didn’t want to sit in the neck-breaker seats up front ask us to help them find seats in the middle and there was never a problem asking someone to scoot over one. ---
**Author:** ![RaftPeople](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/6f9a4e/32.png) [@RaftPeople](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RaftPeople)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1138 "2013-01-22T03:59:03Z")
> [@RaftPeople](#): > > \ > [@mademoiselle](#): > > Soo… > [@mademoiselle](#): > > Still ignoring the “in the clear minority” thing, eh? > [@mademoiselle](#): > > Were you one of the ones calling me a liar earlier? Or uniformed? Or… I don’t what to make of this post of yours, can you help me understand? ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1139 "2013-01-22T04:00:34Z")
> [@RaftPeople](#): > > I don’t what to make of this post of yours, can you help me understand? 😕 Maybe it’s my dyslexia, but I don’t understand that sentence. Eta, sorry I see your edit. One minute, and I will search for the post in question. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1140 "2013-01-22T04:04:11Z")
Here you go: > [@RaftPeople](#): > > Yes, but you would be in the clear minority with that opinion. > [@l1I235](#): > > Do you have anything to back this up, other than your opinon? Because faithfool did the numbers, and in this very thread, the majority think I did nothing wrong. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431.md?page=56) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431.md?page=58)