# I'm not giving up my seat **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 16, 2013, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431 "2013-01-16T22:34:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 61
**Author:** ![artemis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/91b2a8/32.png) [@artemis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/artemis)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1201 "2013-01-22T16:50:04Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > But it’s also _commonplace_ in movie theaters all across America… It’s not at all commonplace here for latecomers to ask other people to move rather than just quietlysitting down in whatever open seats are still left. (Before the show starts, yes, but that’s not disrupting anyone.) I suspect regional differences account for part of the differences in viewpoint we’re seeing in this thread. Areas where theaters are routinely crowded are going to have slightly different customs than ones where theaters are almost never packed. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1202 "2013-01-22T16:51:12Z")
> [@Bob Ducca](#): > > You’re right, he does sound pretty dreamy. Kind of weird to hear it from his sister though. The idea is his size, and dare I say it, the fact he is not a 5’8" female. But I get it, you are back to messing with people online for shits and giggles. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1203 "2013-01-22T16:52:20Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > And I thought you were leaving? > > Just can’t help yourself, can you? You really are stupid, aren’t you. I never said I was leaving the thread. I said you will have a difficult life if you keep up this behavior “and I’ll just leave it at that.” That doesn’t preclude me from responding to anyone who directly addresses me ever again in this thread. Just like you and your precious movie seats, I don’t have to move on and I don’t owe you an explanation as to why I might choose not to. Life’s got a funny way of coming back around on you like that. Get used to it. ---
**Author:** ![Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hentor_the_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1204 "2013-01-22T16:52:37Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > And I thought you were leaving? > > Just can’t help yourself, can you? I know you’re working on defiantly asserting your autonomy, so I want to point out that insisting other people go away is not going to help you build that skill. In order to work on simple gainsay, you need someone to lob contrary positions. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1205 "2013-01-22T16:53:31Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > You really are stupid, aren’t you. I never said I was leaving the thread. I said you will have a difficult life if you keep up this behavior “and I’ll just leave it at that.” > > That doesn’t preclude me from responding to anyone who directly addresses me ever again in this thread. > > Just like you and your precious movie seats, I don’t have to move on and I don’t owe you an explanation as to why I might choose not to. > > Life’s got a funny way of coming back around on you like that. Get used to it. Well. Since you are staying, read the goddamned thread rather than repeating the same shit over and over again. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1206 "2013-01-22T16:55:04Z")
> [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](#): > > I know you’re working on defiantly asserting your autonomy, so I want to point out that insisting other people go away is not going to help you build that skill. In order to work on simple gainsay, you need someone to lob contrary positions. …I was waiting for it. I am not telling anyone to leave. You see Hentor, these are people who did the “I’m leaving…” post. Just reminding them, you see. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1207 "2013-01-22T16:56:45Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > I’ve stated my case. Have a nice life dear. It’ll be a difficult one if you keep up this behavior, I’ll just leave it at that. Sounds like a departure to me… ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1208 "2013-01-22T16:57:10Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > I am not telling anyone to leave. You see Hentor, these are people who did the “I’m leaving…” post. Just reminding them, you see. Didn’t say I was leaving. As you so snottily like to spew: Read the thread. ---
**Author:** ![Shayna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shayna/32/17976_2.png) [@Shayna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shayna)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1209 "2013-01-22T16:58:36Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > Sounds like a departure to me… Reading comprehension’s not any more your strong suit than social graces. Color me shocked. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1210 "2013-01-22T16:59:40Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > Read the thread. [At 25 pages, that ship has sailed.](http://t.qkme.me/3ot3z2.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1211 "2013-01-22T17:00:14Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > Reading comprehension’s not any more your strong suit than social graces. Color me shocked. This from someone in the course of just a few hours made numerous errors based on…not properly reading the thread. Or even the fucking OP. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1212 "2013-01-22T17:01:46Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > Well. Since you are staying, read the goddamned thread rather than repeating the same shit over and over again. Irony meter: exploded. Also, I find this interesting: **mademoiselle** Join Date: 04-09-2002 Total Posts: 399 Posts between 2003 and 2013: 0 Total posts in 2013: 244 2013 posts in this thread: 237 After a decade away, you’d think you’d have more to talk about than the one movie. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1213 "2013-01-22T17:02:25Z")
> [@Shayna](#): > > Reading comprehension’s not any more your strong suit than social graces. Color me shocked. :dubious: “Have a nice life?” and “I’ve stated my case?” Is that what you typically say when you are thinking about hanging around for a while? ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1214 "2013-01-22T17:02:57Z")
And four more posts to the thread since I started writing that. Edit: Five. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1215 "2013-01-22T17:03:48Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > Irony meter: exploded. > > Also, I find this interesting: > > **mademoiselle** > Join Date: 04-09-2002 > Total Posts: 399 > Posts between 2003 and 2013: 0 > Total posts in 2013: 244 > 2013 posts in this thread: 237 > > After a decade away, you’d think you’d have more to talk about than the one movie. The fuck? Yes, all I did in ten years was see a fucking movie last week. Since I post every damn thing I do on the internet. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1216 "2013-01-22T17:04:00Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > Irony meter: exploded. > > Also, I find this interesting: > > **mademoiselle** > Join Date: 04-09-2002 > Total Posts: 399 > Posts between 2003 and 2013: 0 > Total posts in 2013: 244 > 2013 posts in this thread: 237 > > After a decade away, you’d think you’d have more to talk about than the one movie. Did we ever find out what movie it was? ---
**Author:** ![Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hentor\_the\_Barbarian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hentor_the_Barbarian)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1217 "2013-01-22T17:05:11Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > Sounds like a departure to me… See, it still sounds like “you threaten to mow me down by taking a contrary view so I wish you would stop” to me. In order to practice your assertion of autonomy you should be encouraging them to stay. Victory isn’t always keeping the ball and making them go away to play with the three wheeled car. ---
**Author:** ![Asimovian](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/asimovian/32/172_2.png) [@Asimovian](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Asimovian)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1218 "2013-01-22T17:05:42Z")
**mademoiselle** , you know I tend to share your view on the etiquette side of this issue, so please take this as a friendly comment. I don’t know if you’re calling people out on the “you still haven’t left yet?” issue because you’re having fun and are in the spirit of this Pit thread now, but in case you’re still trying to argue seriously at this point, that ain’t helpin’. It’s really detracting from any worthwhile commentary (although how anyone on any side of this issue could still have anything worthwhile to say, given the length of this thread, is beyond me). ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1219 "2013-01-22T17:07:34Z")
> [@l1I235](#): > > The idea is his size I just got the vapors. ---
**Author:** ![l1I235](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8491ac/32.png) [@l1I235](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/l1I235)\ **Post date:** [January 22, 2013, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431/1220 "2013-01-22T17:07:34Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > And four more posts to the thread since I started writing that. > > Edit: Five. Would you like to get my bloodwork, see my apartment lease, and then perhaps my drivers license next? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431.md?page=60) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-not-giving-up-my-seat/647431.md?page=62)