# I'm obsessed with this girl **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 14, 2011, 3:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327 "2011-04-14T03:26:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/21 "2011-04-15T00:27:16Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > Do you have a better idea? Yea how bout you stay out of it then because I don’t want your help. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/22 "2011-04-15T02:20:23Z")
> [@Scotty Mo](#): > > Believe me, I understand. Im not going to call her. > > What’s tough though is that I still want too. I mean there’s no bad blood. She’s never done me wrong and I haven’t ever done anything wrong to her either. In fact, if I saw her out she would probably say “hi.” > > So I don’t even know what it means but I can’t help but think what if. I believe sir, that you should watch High Fidelity, and it will answer all your questions on this matter. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/23 "2011-04-15T02:32:50Z")
Don’t. She doesn’t like you that way, no matter how polite she is. Not enough anyways. And none of her friends like you (they don’t even bother to hide it). Its done. No matter what you do or how hard you try, its been decided, even if you were never in the room. Even if she fell in love, there are 10 million ways they’d jab a stake through its heart and they know them all. Walk away. For you. For Her. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/24 "2011-04-15T02:34:24Z")
I think you should give her a call. Look, girls play hard to get, right? If you give up you’ll just be proving what she already thinks about you. I’d drop the bit about “If not I get the point and don’t worry I won’t bother you again” because it makes you seem sort of sad and girls don’t respond to that. You don’t want pity. Taking what you suggested I’d modify it to something like this: “Amanda! Hey it’s Scotty. Hey I know it’s been a while but I still think about you a lot and just wanted to see how you’re doing. So if you want give me a call- if not I’ll give you another call tomorrow like before you go to work.” If you don’t know what time she goes to work you could ask. Good luck man. True love only comes along once in a lifetime. You’ll regret it for the rest of your life if you don’t do this. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 2:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/25 "2011-04-15T02:53:43Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Good luck man. True love only comes along once in a lifetime. You’ll regret it for the rest of your life if you don’t do this. I don’t know how it is possible to convey my utter disdain for this sentiment, but I have to try: :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: x One Billion. 7 Billion rolleyes almost gets there. Almost. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/26 "2011-04-15T02:57:49Z")
Wow. I’m only trying to explore the hypothetical possibilities and see if someone could help me think clearly. I’ve already stated multiple times I’m not gonna do it but I still keep getting met with hostility and mockery. Let’s actually think about a few things. What is so wrong about it? Say she answered and we talked and I say hey why don’t we be friends again and we met for a drink? Would that really be so terrible? Also, if this was a guy who was an old friend it would be a complete non-issue. Now I know the likelihood of this happening is slim and I dOnt feel like embarrassing myself further, SO IM NOT GONNA DO IT. If you’re not gonna help, please don’t bother. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/27 "2011-04-15T03:01:54Z")
> [@Scotty Mo](#): > > What is so wrong about it? Say she answered and we talked and I say hey why don’t we be friends again and we met for a drink? Would that really be so terrible? Dude, go for it. You only live once. What kind of guys does she usually date? Find out what kind of person she’s attracted to and make yourself that person. Find pictures of her exes online and use them as references. Above all, be confident! ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/28 "2011-04-15T03:06:30Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Dude, go for it. You only live once. What kind of guys does she usually date? Find out what kind of person she’s attracted to and make yourself that person. Find pictures of her exes online and use them as references. Above all, be confident! What part of my post above didn’t you understand? I’m not as frail as you might think and I don’t want your help either. Just leave. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/29 "2011-04-15T03:08:31Z")
> [@Scotty Mo](#): > > What part of my post above didn’t you understand? I guess the part where you sat there asking what’s so bad about taking her out for drinks. I gave you the answer: Nothing at all. Go for it. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/30 "2011-04-15T03:14:55Z")
Whatever. Forget I even asked. Thanks to those who did help. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/31 "2011-04-15T03:15:44Z")
Will do. Be sure to tell us how it goes! ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/32 "2011-04-15T03:21:19Z")
Nevermind ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/33 "2011-04-15T03:35:22Z")
Ask out some other girl instead. There are plenty of them. If you hit it off with even one other girl, you’ll forget about this one. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/34 "2011-04-15T04:19:02Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > Ask out some other girl instead. There are plenty of them. If you hit it off with even one other girl, you’ll forget about this one. I know this is the answer. It’s painfully obvious, even to me. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/35 "2011-04-15T04:44:24Z")
> [@Scotty Mo](#): > > I know this is the answer. It’s painfully obvious, even to me. Thanks. No problem. We’ve all been there with the pining for the one we think got away. Believe me. Every guy has to go throught it. It’s practically a rite of passage. In my own personal experience, I’ve found that it’s mostly about just aching for a relationship and unrealistic idealization. Once you hit it off with someone else (and you will…maybe not the first or second or third girl you go out with but one of them), you’ll find that you can look back on the past more objectively, see the flaws in the other girl (who you probably see as perfect right now), and see your incompatibility more clearly. There will come a day whem you’ll be with someone else who you adore and wonder what the hell you were ever thinking with this other girl. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/36 "2011-04-15T04:45:25Z")
You seem kind of grouchy. Lucky for you, girls love grouchy guys. Walter Matthau for example got more tail than a rocking chair. ---
**Author:** ![Electric\_Warrior](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@Electric\_Warrior](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electric_Warrior)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/37 "2011-04-15T05:19:41Z")
> [@Hello\_Again](#): > > I don’t know how it is possible to convey my utter disdain for this sentiment, but I have to try: :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: x One Billion. > > 7 Billion rolleyes almost gets there. Almost. Whoosh. ---
**Author:** ![Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e99b99/32.png) [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diogenes_the_Cynic)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 5:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/38 "2011-04-15T05:27:58Z")
In case you haven’t figured it out, **Scotty** , **Clockwork** is just fucking with you, man. ---
**Author:** ![panaccione](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/94ad74/32.png) [@panaccione](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panaccione)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 10:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/39 "2011-04-15T10:45:39Z")
> [@Diogenes\_the\_Cynic](#): > > In case you haven’t figured it out, **Scotty** , **Clockwork** is just fucking with you, man. No I noticed. That’s why I choose to ignore him and giraffe. Why you would want to taunt someone over the Internet who’s looking for help is just beyond me. Guess that’s just what trolls do. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2011, 11:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327/40 "2011-04-15T11:31:34Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > I don’t think a reminder is going to cut it. The only way he’s going to get over this girl is if he actually obtains some of her feces and smells it first hand. > [@Scotty Mo](#): > > Yea how bout you stay out of it then because I don’t want your help. Giraffe was not offering to help you obtain and smell her shit. You need to man up and do that entirely on your own. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-obsessed-with-this-girl/578327.md?page=3)