# I'm pregnant, but I fear it's doomed. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 5, 2011, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956 "2011-07-05T23:43:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/41 "2011-07-06T17:40:11Z")
Positive news! That’s great! ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/42 "2011-07-06T17:41:01Z")
Oh, that’s good news…here’s hoping you keep getting more! Sticky sticky! ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 5:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/43 "2011-07-06T17:44:00Z")
> [@Ferret\_Herder](#): > > **Anonymous Coward** : I’m not sure of the exact origin, but the first time I saw it was here when we were cheering for **TokyoPlayer** ’s wife’s pregnancy to “stick” and allusions were made to “sticky” grains of (short) rice, etc. IIRC, near delivery time, little “Beta-chan” seemed to be taking “sticking around” to heart and people started making “slippery” wishes! Yeah, TP’s first son (Ian-Pough) died at a few days old (he had an unsurvivable birth defect), the next try didn’t stick, the third one was Beta-Chan. Wonder whether we got it from a motherhood forum or the motherhood forums got it from a Doper 🙂 Anyway, glad to hear the good news, **EmAnJ**! ---
**Author:** ![baileygrrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19b73/32.png) [@baileygrrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/baileygrrrl)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 5:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/44 "2011-07-06T17:51:54Z")
> [@EmAnJ](#): > > I got my second beta number: 83. Entering the numbers in to a calculator shows my doubling rate to be 55.55 hours, which is well within the 48 - 72 hour doubling time guidelines. However, if I am right about when I ovulated, the numbers are very low for how far along I should be. But, I did have a sonohysterogram this cycle, and I suppose it could have delayed my ovulation. If it did delay it, even for three days or so, I’m right on track. > > I have an appointment with my family doctor in about an hour and am going to ask for an ultrasound this week. I also go in for another beta this afternoon and will have those numbers in a couple of days. > > Thanks again everyone for your support! 🙂 This sounds very hopeful 🙂 I just wanted to wish you all the best and pass on sticky vibes lol. I know the struggle. After a loss, it was so hard for me to enjoy the first couple of months of my current pregnancy. I was constantly thinking it would fail. I also remember the awful times waiting on test results. I hope you get positive answers soon! ---
**Author:** ![suranyi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e36b37/32.png) [@suranyi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/suranyi)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 6:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/45 "2011-07-06T18:51:24Z")
> [@EmAnJ](#): > > I got my second beta number: 83. Entering the numbers in to a calculator shows my doubling rate to be 55.55 hours, which is well within the 48 - 72 hour doubling time guidelines. However, if I am right about when I ovulated, the numbers are very low for how far along I should be. But, I did have a sonohysterogram this cycle, and I suppose it could have delayed my ovulation. If it did delay it, even for three days or so, I’m right on track. > > I have an appointment with my family doctor in about an hour and am going to ask for an ultrasound this week. I also go in for another beta this afternoon and will have those numbers in a couple of days. > > Thanks again everyone for your support! 🙂 That sounds like it could be good news. Best of luck! ---
**Author:** ![1GothMama](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/1/90ced4/32.png) [@1GothMama](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/1GothMama)\ **Post date:** [July 6, 2011, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/46 "2011-07-06T23:33:59Z")
Up is up! My doc told me not to pay attention to the numbers, only which direction they were going. I will keep you in my thoughts and hope the ultrasound shows a wibbly little heartbeat. ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 9:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/47 "2011-07-07T09:57:57Z")
I am also wanting to be educated. I take it they can’t just give you extra hormones to make sure it goes okay? Anyways, I’m sending vibes/prayers your way. ---
**Author:** ![Girl\_From\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3da27b/32.png) [@Girl\_From\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girl_From_Mars)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 10:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/48 "2011-07-07T10:20:09Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > I am also wanting to be educated. I take it they can’t just give you extra hormones to make sure it goes okay? For women who have undergone assisted contraception they generally put you onto Crinone gel, which is the hormone progesterone. This can help maintain uterine lining etc to give an embie the best possible chance of sticking around. Horrible stuff, but it’s worth it. I don’t think they would prescribe it for a common-or-garden pregnancy unless the woman had an issue like a very short luteal phase (\>10 days). **EmAnJ** - glad to hear everything is going in the right direction. Just a reminder that it’s likely still too early to see anything reassuring via dildocam (normally you can’t see a beating heart until about 6 weeks), but ask for a 3rd beta to check on the doubling rates. Have everything crossed for you! ---
**Author:** ![Renee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/renee/32/287_2.png) [@Renee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Renee)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 1:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/49 "2011-07-07T13:42:30Z")
Awesome news! I know it’s still scary, but try to focus on the positive. I really hope this is hte one for you. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/50 "2011-07-07T14:19:53Z")
> [@Girl\_From\_Mars](#): > > For women who have undergone assisted contraception they generally put you onto Crinone gel, which is the hormone progesterone. This can help maintain uterine lining etc to give an embie the best possible chance of sticking around. Horrible stuff, but it’s worth it. I don’t think they would prescribe it for a common-or-garden pregnancy unless the woman had an issue like a very short luteal phase (\>10 days). They’ve put me on vaginal progesterone and baby asprin this time. My progesterone is fine (was high before they even put me on the suppositories) and my luteal phase is 14 or 15 days. There is nothing medically wrong with my cycles. A couple of things cause miscarriages. For some, it’s low progesterone, which can be fixed with hormones. But for others, it’s genetic abnormalities that cause the embryo to abort early. In those cases, you don’t want them to ‘stick’ anyways. The problem is, it’s really hard to figure out what type of genetic abnormalities are causing the problem. My husband and I can do testing, but only 3% - 5% of repeat losses are caused by identifyable genetic issues. If I have a pregnancy that progresses far enough that they can biopsy the embryo, that might provide more clues, but I only seem to last about 5 to 6 weeks. There is also the possibility that my eggs are just poor quality for some reason, and again, we can’t really test for that (and what they can test for, they have, and everything is normal). The only option for determining poor egg quality is to do an IVF and see how they respond. I could also have an autoimmune disease I am unaware of, or a hostile uterus, or lupus. They’ll test what they can test, but in 50% of repeat loss cases, they can’t find a cause. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/51 "2011-07-07T15:38:34Z")
Update: It’s a loss. My numbers aren’t going up and are likely on their way down now. I expect to start bleeding this weekend. ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/52 "2011-07-07T15:39:33Z")
I’m sorry, **EmAnJ** StG ---
**Author:** ![LavenderBlue](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e95f7d/32.png) [@LavenderBlue](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LavenderBlue)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/53 "2011-07-07T16:02:11Z")
I am very sorry to hear that. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/54 "2011-07-07T16:22:21Z")
☹ dammit. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 4:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/55 "2011-07-07T16:52:35Z")
Aw, crap. I’m sorry to hear that, too. ---
**Author:** ![ENugent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/4af34b/32.png) [@ENugent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ENugent)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/56 "2011-07-07T17:06:03Z")
I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 5:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/57 "2011-07-07T17:14:53Z")
☹ ---
**Author:** ![Charley](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/97f17d/32.png) [@Charley](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Charley)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/58 "2011-07-07T17:17:12Z")
So very sorry to hear that, **EmAnJ**. ---
**Author:** ![EmAnJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/d2c977/32.png) [@EmAnJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EmAnJ)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/59 "2011-07-07T17:22:16Z")
Thanks everyone. I’m pretty much going right in to the ‘I don’t want to talk about it with anyone’ phase. We were supposed to go out to the in-laws tonight, but I just don’t think I can hack it. There will be too much sympathy, etc., and I hate crying, so I want to avoid it. I just want to be alone for a while. I’m looking on the bright side of this all (more testing before IVF to check genetic/uterus issues - I’ll be thankful to have that done before we spend so much money), plus, I have University starting in a couple of months and that’s pretty exciting in itself. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [July 7, 2011, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-pregnant-but-i-fear-its-doomed/587956/60 "2011-07-07T18:50:35Z")
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