# I'm proposing tomorrow, or "Today a Boyfriend, Tomorrow a Fiancé" **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 7, 2009, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679 "2009-05-07T18:54:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Tio\_Gringo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b5e925/32.png) [@Tio\_Gringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tio_Gringo)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/1 "2009-05-07T18:54:28Z")
This evening, my girlfriend and I are getting on a plane to San Francisco for the weekend. Tonight we will be staying right on the coast down by Pescadero, and tomorrow I will be on bended knee asking from her hand in marriage. Here’s how it will play out: I have a retro-style glass bottle into which I am going to put a rolled-up piece of paper. Upon said sheet of paper is a sappy bit of poetry (about on par with Vogon poetry) professing my undying love and asking her to marry me. I plan to sneak out of the room early tomorrow morning and place my message in a bottle on the beach. A few hours later, we will go for a walk on the beach together where she will discover the bottle and read the note. I, in the meantime, will be down on one knee with the ring in the palm of my hand awaiting her answer with bated breath… Wish me luck! ---
**Author:** ![ParentalAdvisory](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/53a042/32.png) [@ParentalAdvisory](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ParentalAdvisory)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/2 "2009-05-07T19:21:13Z")
Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![mnemosyne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c4cdca/32.png) [@mnemosyne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mnemosyne)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/3 "2009-05-07T19:24:09Z")
Oooh, good luck! I hope no one takes the bottle away before your girlfriend can get back to it… have a back-up plan just in case, but I hope it goes off the way you planned because it’s really romantic! She sounds like a lucky girl to have you! ---
**Author:** ![Valgard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/7feea3/32.png) [@Valgard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Valgard)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 9:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/4 "2009-05-07T21:19:02Z")
Pay attention to where you put that bottle vis-a-vis tide levels! ---
**Author:** ![robardin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/43a26b/32.png) [@robardin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robardin)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/5 "2009-05-07T21:43:30Z")
Be sure to sign the note. Otherwise, she may turn around and say, “SEE? You won’t propose to me, but some STRANGER on an UNKNOWN ISLAND can find the guts to do it!” ---
**Author:** ![Alan\_Bird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b3f665/32.png) [@Alan\_Bird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alan_Bird)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/6 "2009-05-07T21:53:23Z")
Good luck and congrats! Is there any possibility she may wake up and notice you’re gone? ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/7 "2009-05-07T22:16:58Z")
Oooooooooh! (Carry the bottle with you in your manpurse and then toss it near her when she isn’t looking. I wouldn’t trust the tides and people and stuff. With your luck, you will end up proposing to a dirty, smelly hippie!) GOOD LUCK! ---
**Author:** ![bathsheba](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/9e8a1a/32.png) [@bathsheba](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bathsheba)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/8 "2009-05-07T22:31:51Z")
Heh. Like she’d say yes to a guy who has a manbag. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![not\_alice](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_alice/32/7283_2.png) [@not\_alice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_alice)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/9 "2009-05-07T23:17:45Z")
> [@Tio\_Gringo](#): > > This evening, my girlfriend and I are getting on a plane to San Francisco for the weekend. Tonight we will be staying right on the coast down by Pescadero, and tomorrow I will be on bended knee asking from her hand in marriage. Here’s how it will play out: > > I have a retro-style glass bottle into which I am going to put a rolled-up piece of paper. Upon said sheet of paper is a sappy bit of poetry (about on par with Vogon poetry) professing my undying love and asking her to marry me. I plan to sneak out of the room early tomorrow morning and place my message in a bottle on the beach. A few hours later, we will go for a walk on the beach together where she will discover the bottle and read the note. I, in the meantime, will be down on one knee with the ring in the palm of my hand awaiting her answer with bated breath… > > Wish me luck! Those are some of my favorite beaches there. Check and understand to the tide levels, the crowd flows - you don’t want some kid or dog finding and moving it, and the trash pickup patterns of the rangers or whoever (those are state beaches, bring a few bucks to park - you are going to get engaged, at some you can park on the road and dodge traffic, but if she says yes or no you won’t be in a mood to do that when you return). Also consider carrying a spare in case the original does not turn up!!! Under no circumstances should you surprise her too close to the tops of the cliffs!! It is a long way down and yes, people do fall there! ---
**Author:** ![Hal\_Briston](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a9a28c/32.png) [@Hal\_Briston](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hal_Briston)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/10 "2009-05-07T23:49:58Z")
Congratulations and good luck! Hopefully you can find a way to minimize the time between bottle placement and discovery – maybe twenty bucks to a bellhop could bring the time down to just a couple of minutes? One other bit of advice that I always offer to the newly engaged: Just because she will now be your fiancé, It is not, repeat, _not_, appropriate to start referring to her as your “ex-girlfriend”. ---
**Author:** ![not\_alice](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/not_alice/32/7283_2.png) [@not\_alice](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/not_alice)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2009, 11:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/11 "2009-05-07T23:59:45Z")
> [@Hal\_Briston](#): > > Congratulations and good luck! Hopefully you can find a way to minimize the time between bottle placement and discovery – maybe twenty bucks to a bellhop could bring the time down to just a couple of minutes? Heh, that is a very rural area, there are not going to be any bellhops. I am surprised there is even a hotel, it might be a B and B. I forgot, to celebrate, there is a lighthouse nearby with a spectacular view, and up at San Gregorio is a general store that has some food, fun people and bands, at least on the weekends, 1 mile inland at Stage Road (which takes the inland route back to Pescadero). Locals will be able to point you to either. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 12:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/12 "2009-05-08T00:03:22Z")
Good luck! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![joyfool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/df788c/32.png) [@joyfool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joyfool)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 3:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/13 "2009-05-08T03:10:40Z")
Best wishes!! Here’s to a resounding YES! ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/14 "2009-05-08T03:17:15Z")
It’s good to see romance is still alive and well. Good luck! ---
**Author:** ![China\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/779978/32.png) [@China\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/China_Guy)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 11:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/15 "2009-05-08T11:21:45Z")
come back and let us know how it went…good luck ---
**Author:** ![redshift](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/bbce88/32.png) [@redshift](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/redshift)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 11:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/16 "2009-05-08T11:29:47Z")
Best of luck, hopefully everything will go as planned! ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 12:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/17 "2009-05-08T12:10:59Z")
Hope you got lucky. ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 10:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/18 "2009-05-08T22:43:30Z")
WHAT HAPPENED!!!111!!! The SUSPENSE IS KILLING US! ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 10:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/19 "2009-05-08T22:54:33Z")
Don’t disturb them! The lovebugs might be lovebugging, and even a bug hates to be disturbed at times like that! ---
**Author:** ![Myrrajh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/87869e/32.png) [@Myrrajh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Myrrajh)\ **Post date:** [May 8, 2009, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-proposing-tomorrow-or-today-a-boyfriend-tomorrow-a-fiance/495679/20 "2009-05-08T23:37:32Z")
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