# I'm scared. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [April 3, 2015, 9:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696 "2015-04-03T09:09:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Kiber](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kiber/32/317_2.png) [@Kiber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kiber)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 4:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/41 "2015-04-03T16:50:04Z")
The last things I expect to find on the internet are examples of truth, compassion, beauty and love. That this thread delivers all is a testament to you. Get well soon. ---
**Author:** ![BubbaDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bubbadog/32/333_2.png) [@BubbaDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BubbaDog)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 4:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/42 "2015-04-03T16:51:48Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Feeling a kîtkre better. Got painkillers. Going titb tests. Dry hif I freaked anyone out. Hard to tell if its the pain killers or cellphone typing but either way just get better. ---
**Author:** ![Peremensoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ce7236/32.png) [@Peremensoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peremensoe)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/43 "2015-04-03T16:55:38Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Don’t know what to do. Where’s the poll? ---
**Author:** ![Thudlow\_Boink](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thudlow_boink/32/320_2.png) [@Thudlow\_Boink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Thudlow_Boink)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/44 "2015-04-03T16:55:54Z")
Not sure what I can say that hasn’t already been said, but if this were a Get Well Soon card that we were passing around, I’d be sure to sign it. ---
**Author:** ![GrumpyBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc8723/32.png) [@GrumpyBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrumpyBunny)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/45 "2015-04-03T16:58:09Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Back in hospital yesterday. Blood sugar okay but everything eley sucjs. On antibiotics. Gastrointestinal distress ongoing. > > Don’t know what to do. Feel like my body is breaking. > > Scared. Don’t want kids to see me like this. > > Wasted so much of my life. After Corbin died. Did bad shit. Probably earned this. Butb I have tried to change be good husband father. Was such a bad father to Corbin. Bad son bad boyfriend. Have to make up. For it all. > > From . room stinks. I stink. > > Not enough life insurance should have more . burden. > > If I die the babies will forget me. I wanted to be good dad. No good. Crying. I’m sorry. You haven’t slept, have you? The 3-5 am crazies are the worst. Virtual hugs. Get well. Find out what’s going on (IBS? _C. diff_? Another bug?) If you can’t sleep, you won’t get better. Ask your doc for something to help that. Don’t beat yourself up right now; it won’t accomplish anything. If you can’t let the thoughts go (and FWIW, some medications can make these thoughts worse – prednisone and other steroids, for example), make a list of what you want to do better and your notes on how. Then put the list away until you are out of the hospital and healed. Then do as much as you can to complete that list. ---
**Author:** ![No\_umlaut\_for\_U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ea5d25/32.png) [@No\_umlaut\_for\_U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/No_umlaut_for_U)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/46 "2015-04-03T17:01:49Z")
Gute besserung! Positive thoughts radiating out to you. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_Bravo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_bravo/32/493_2.png) [@Johnny\_Bravo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_Bravo)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/47 "2015-04-03T17:02:28Z")
Of Pallas Athene, guardian of the city, I begin to sing. Dread is she, and with Ares she loves deeds of war, the sack of cities and the shouting and the battle. It is she who saves the people as they go out to war and come back. _Hail, goddess, and give us good fortune with happiness!_ ---
**Author:** ![Robert163](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/4af34b/32.png) [@Robert163](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robert163)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/48 "2015-04-03T17:06:56Z")
Yeah, I agree, the past is gone and if you made mistakes you can just (continue to) redouble your efforts to live better in the present/future. ---
**Author:** ![Honey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/honey/32/5074_2.png) [@Honey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Honey)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/49 "2015-04-03T17:07:11Z")
The good thing about life, is that you get more than one chance to make things right. There is nothing you can do about the past, so stop dwelling on it. Get yourself better physically, and move forward. Feel free to PM me if you want to vent or whine, it’s no problem. ---
**Author:** ![TheFaerie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c57346/32.png) [@TheFaerie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheFaerie)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/50 "2015-04-03T17:22:20Z")
{{{{{ **Skald** }}}}} When my mom was in the hospital recently we found that the worst part was the not knowing, and whenever a doctor or therapist gave us new information, it helped because it was a move forward. There is always a way forward. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/51 "2015-04-03T17:34:15Z")
> [@Yllaria](#): > > You know, don’t you, that if it turns out that you have a GI proplem that could be helped by a fecal transplant, you’ll have a board-ful of volunteers, right? I’m going to mail mine right now! ---
**Author:** ![Master\_Wang-Ka](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/master_wang-ka/32/3325_2.png) [@Master\_Wang-Ka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Master_Wang-Ka)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/52 "2015-04-03T17:36:08Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > Feeling a kîtkre better. Got painkillers. Going titb tests. Dry hif I freaked anyone out. You sound better already. Happier, at least. And if you DO need a fecal transplant, you sure came to the right place… ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/53 "2015-04-03T18:19:11Z")
Hang in there, Skald. It’s human to be scared in the face of illness, but try your best not to turn that fear into beating yourself up about past mistakes. If I am sure of anything in this world, it is that illness is not retribution. You are more loved and have done more good than you realize. Please try to take that in and believe it. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/54 "2015-04-03T18:44:47Z")
Skaldy! I’m so sorry to see this. I understand completely. I went through years of pain and fear with gastro crap they couldn’t diagnose at the time. The doctors told me I wouldn’t make it to 21 (I was 16 at the time) but they couldn’t tell me exactly what was wrong. But I did. And you’ll get through this too. I’ll tell you the biggest mistake I made was trying to be tough and brave. I didn’t bother the doctor with every little symptom, and I let things get too bad before I kicked and screamed for help. Pester! Nag! Insist! Be a wimp if you have to, but make them take every twinge seriously until you are back to feeling strong and normal. If a doctor says the word “psychosomatic” fire them immediately. Do not go back to that one. Release the monkeys if you have to. And let us know if we can do anything at all for you. {{{{{Skald}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Unauthorized\_Cinnamon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/bc8723/32.png) [@Unauthorized\_Cinnamon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unauthorized_Cinnamon)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/55 "2015-04-03T20:10:09Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > . . . things are \*rarely \*as dire as they seem alone in a hospital room at 4 am. . . . This pretty much says it. Try to keep holding on. I’m glad you got good painkillers. For what it’s worth, I’ve found my personal philosophy to be very helpful. It is: “Shit happens.” I find the universe much easier to cope with from a perspective where there’s no one out there controlling things, random stuff occurs, and sure as hell people don’t necessarily get what they deserve. ---
**Author:** ![johnpost](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f17d59/32.png) [@johnpost](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnpost)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/56 "2015-04-03T20:39:45Z")
hang in there Skald. ---
**Author:** ![gnoitall](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bb73d2/32.png) [@gnoitall](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gnoitall)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/57 "2015-04-03T20:47:16Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I’m going to mail mine right now! Epic (awesome or unfortunate) username/post combo! Get better, Skald! That’s an order! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![MichaelEmouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/michaelemouse/32/101_2.png) [@MichaelEmouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelEmouse)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/58 "2015-04-03T20:50:40Z")
What, no hypothetical-based poll? ---
**Author:** ![Face\_Intentionally\_Left\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/face_intentionally_left_blank/32/288_2.png) [@Face\_Intentionally\_Left\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Face_Intentionally_Left_Blank)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/59 "2015-04-03T21:01:50Z")
I spent a month in the hospital over Christmas/New Years, and another month in rehab due to my Crohn’s colitis. As an added bonus, I had a couple of kidney stones and pulmonary embolisms. I got very down and more than once was awake at 2 in the morning, crying. It was rough. Very fucking rough. Hang in there. If they could fix me, they can fix you. Take care and stay strong. ---
**Author:** ![Satchmo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/satchmo/32/4223_2.png) [@Satchmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Satchmo)\ **Post date:** [April 3, 2015, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696/60 "2015-04-03T21:31:06Z")
Good to hear you’re doing a little better Skald old bean. Remember, the last thing I want to do is hurt you. It’s on the list, but it is the last thing. 😉 Satch [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-scared/716696.md?page=4)