# I'm sick of beauty **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 9, 2009, 8:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570 "2009-12-09T08:27:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2009, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570/161 "2009-12-20T04:02:34Z")
Having a good-work life balance is important and devoting your entire life to your career can be exhausting and ultimately empty. But that’s not really a function of plumbing. I’m sure **Unintentionally Blank** would probably be equally happy if he found a less stressful job that gave him more time with the kids, and equally frustrated if he had to work a full time career and take care of the children like his wife did. As for women still doing the majority of household chores- isn’t this a function of not enough feminism, not too much? ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2009, 5:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570/162 "2009-12-20T05:22:39Z")
I don’t know what is going on with the household chores - I don’t know any couple in real life where the guy does more housework than the woman. I’m sure it exists, but I’m not personally seeing it. Maybe it’s a function of everyone I know being in our 40s - maybe couples in their 20s are splitting household chores up more evenly. ---
**Author:** ![Zeriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/58956e/32.png) [@Zeriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zeriel)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2009, 5:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570/163 "2009-12-20T05:57:16Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I don’t know what is going on with the household chores - I don’t know any couple in real life where the guy does more housework than the woman. I’m sure it exists, but I’m not personally seeing it. Maybe it’s a function of everyone I know being in our 40s - maybe couples in their 20s are splitting household chores up more evenly. _raises his hand_ My wife will readily admit I do 2/3 of the chores by time spend and 95% of the chores measured by sweat (since I do 100% of shoveling, raking, and gunk-scrubbing) ---
**Author:** ![Unintentionally\_Blank](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/unintentionally_blank/32/5418_2.png) [@Unintentionally\_Blank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Unintentionally_Blank)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2009, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570/164 "2009-12-20T14:43:46Z")
> [@Zeriel](#): > > _raises his hand_ My wife will readily admit I do 2/3 of the chores by time spend and 95% of the chores measured by sweat (since I do 100% of shoveling, raking, and gunk-scrubbing) Hush, those are _maintenance_, not chores…and don’t cost against the bottom line. 😛 (As does oil changes and car maintenance, spider squishing, BBQ-ing, and in my case, hot tub de-funking) I’m sure the membership of this August group is mostly comprised of women without glass ceilings and husbands that gladly pull their fair share of the childrearing and housework. I can’t imagine that’s what it’s like worldwide. ( **UB** carefully refrains from saying anything that could erupt into a sexual equality land war) ---
**Author:** ![Vambo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/6de8d8/32.png) [@Vambo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vambo)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2009, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570/165 "2009-12-20T15:27:53Z")
Beauty is an attraction mechanism. Once within speaking range, all other traits can be brought to bear. Learning to use the tools you have effectively is the real challenge. I understand your plight but from another vantage point. I am a large person and most people are intimidated by my size. It doesn’t help much that I dress to emphasize that. But I know that a quiet word or two can be the catalyst to breakdown that pent up nervousness people have around me and let them know that I am just a nice guy wrapped in a big body. Most often, once they get to know me as a few do, they find the qualities that are not fleeting and of true value become obvious while my size and menacing posture pale and become less noticeable. While there is a difference in the reaction we both get from people, there is a common thread in how it bothers us. That you accept yourself for who you are is more important than how others see you. I think that the rest of your attributes will eventually allow for you to find the opportunities and experiences that a lack of good looks might seem to hinder at first. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-sick-of-beauty/520570.md?page=8)