# I'm single (long) **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 27, 2003, 10:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816 "2003-10-27T10:05:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/41 "2003-10-27T19:32:48Z")
Thanks. I guess right now I just want to chill and have some fun. If things work out again then they do. If not, I guess time heals everything. That plus good vodka. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/42 "2003-10-27T20:26:52Z")
And cookies of all kinds. Donā€™t underestimate the healing power of cookies! (Cookies and vodka? Well, whatever works. The Russians do vodka with pickles, or sometimes dried fish. Although the smell of the dried fish would be enough to make me heave up the vodka.) ---
**Author:** ![pestie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e5b9ba/32.png) [@pestie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pestie)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/43 "2003-10-27T20:34:40Z")
**Angua** , youā€™re one of the coolest Dopers Iā€™ve ever encountered. Be well. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 8:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/44 "2003-10-27T20:42:10Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Eva Luna \* > \*\*And cookies of all kinds. Donā€™t underestimate the healing power of cookies! (Cookies and vodka? Well, whatever works. \*\* Now thereā€™s an idea. _Notes AnguaCookies and vodka as a DopeFest idea_. We could make it into some sort of game! šŸ™‚ **Pestie** , thank you. I am fine, really, just a tad emotional. He just called me. Told me he still loved me. I canā€™t argue with that, I would say I still love him, but I cannot cope with the way he makes me feel a lot of the time. I guess I just donā€™t feel appreciated for me any more. Am I being selfish by getting out becuase I donā€™t feel appreciated for who I am? ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/45 "2003-10-27T21:22:09Z")
Mmmmmmā€¦ female astrophysicistsā€¦ (drool) Angua, have you heard of a project called SIRTF? ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 2003, 9:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/46 "2003-10-27T21:26:13Z")
šŸ˜ƒ Yes, I have. We had a bit of a seminar on it today in fact. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/47 "2003-10-28T00:06:14Z")
Well done ā€“ you clearly did the right thing. Iā€™d just like to add that in my experience, if you canā€™t explain an idea in your field to a scientist from a different field, then odds are you donā€™t really understand it very well. The smartest physicists Iā€™ve known consistently tend to be able to explain complicated ideas clearly to someone unfamiliar with the problem. ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/48 "2003-10-28T01:10:22Z")
**Angua** : Is it possible heā€™s serious about loving you, and can wake up and not be a jerk about things? We canā€™t tell on the evidence we have: several things suggest heā€™s been a right jerk, but I donā€™t think the threadā€™s complete without someone asking if a swift kick up the rear end would wake him up and possibly put you back together. **Giraffe** : Yep. You know you understand something when you can explain (or rather, give an arbitrarily brief summary of) it to someone unfamiliar with the background. Of course, I might get in over my head explaining something over the phone, and get cross; we can all be jerks sometimes. Aside: Iā€™m curious now. My algebraic topology course hasnā€™t got far enough to tell me what a Poincare 3-sphere is, but from looking up poincare on mathworld etc. Iā€™m guessing itā€™s what could be described as ā€œsomething like a sphere as opposed to a donut in that it has no ā€˜holesā€™ or ā€˜tunnelsā€™ yet _not_ deformable into a sphere.ā€ SDMB topologists? I donā€™t know whether this means wormholes or not, but it sounds a queesy shape for the universe šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/49 "2003-10-28T01:38:49Z")
But, is it amorphous? [sing it with me, now!] When the Moon hits your eye Like a big pizza pie Thatā€™s amorphous When your math starts to drool Just like pasta fazoul Youā€™re in love ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 8:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/50 "2003-10-28T08:29:32Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shade \* > **Angua: Is it possible heā€™s serious about loving you, and can wake up and not be a jerk about things? We canā€™t tell on the evidence we have: several things suggest heā€™s been a right jerk, but I donā€™t think the threadā€™s complete without someone asking if a swift kick up the rear end would wake him up and possibly put you back together.** Yes, I think that is in fact the most likely scenario. However, the main problem is _he thinks heā€™s done nothing wrong_. This break up is the swift kick up the rear end. If it works it works. > [@](#): > > \*\* I donā€™t know whether this means wormholes or not, but it sounds a queesy shape for the universe šŸ™‚ \*\* It does sound wrong for the universe, and from what I recall, youā€™ve done a fairly good job explaining it šŸ™‚ Poor universe, being forced into queesy shapes. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 10:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/51 "2003-10-28T10:07:48Z")
Iā€™ll also add that this isnā€™t the first time weā€™ve ā€œhad wordsā€ about the same subject. We had the same argument about 12 lunar months ago. Its a recurring theme, and heā€™s had chances before. The entire ā€œno nookie during Ramadhanā€ is one of my major ā€œno compromisesā€, and well, its reached critical point this year. He may well love me, but heā€™s damned lousy about showing it. ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/52 "2003-10-28T11:17:47Z")
> [@](#): > > It does sound wrong for the universe, and from what I recall, youā€™ve done a fairly good job explaining it. Thatā€™s odd; I certainly donā€™t _understand_ it šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/53 "2003-10-28T11:21:34Z")
Hehe. šŸ™‚ Now, if only someone could invent some sort of clue stick with which to give mathematicians a clue about love with. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/54 "2003-10-28T11:28:03Z")
Nope. Weā€™re all ā€˜Let L be loveā€¦ā€™ and no amount of hitting will make a difference when weā€™re being stubbon šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/55 "2003-10-28T11:33:49Z")
I thought that may well be the case. Nevermind. šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/56 "2003-10-28T11:35:48Z")
> [@](#): > > Yes, I think that is in fact the most likely scenario. However, the main problem is he thinks heā€™s done nothing wrong. This break up is the swift kick up the rear end. If it works it works. > [@](#): > > Well, as you can imagine, I dislike being treated like this, and Iā€™m sick of spending each evening after Iā€™ve had a conversation with him, crying because I get the distinct impression that a) Iā€™m, thick, and b) heā€™s just in it for the physical side of things. Does he know how you feel after speaking to him when asserting heā€™s done nothing wrong? > [@](#): > > Then came kicker number two. Heā€™s a mathematician, Aside: itā€™s amazing how funny things can be quoted out of context šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/57 "2003-10-28T11:39:42Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shade \* > **Does he know how you feel after speaking to him when asserting heā€™s done nothing wrong?** Yup. Because I have had no qualms whatsover in telling him this. > [@](#): > > \*\*Aside: itā€™s amazing how funny things can be quoted out of context šŸ™‚ \*\* Bad **Shade**! Naughty **Shade**! šŸ™‚ ---
**Author:** ![Shade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2bfe46/32.png) [@Shade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shade)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/58 "2003-10-28T11:42:55Z")
Well, if he canā€™t see that _thatā€™s_ wrong, he _does_ need a cluebat. I mean, even if he thinks youā€™re overreacting it should be pretty fucking obvious that you canā€™t go on like that. Aside: \A spā€¦ no, wait, what did I do wrong? Aside 2: \Yay\, functional analysis lecture in 5 minutes, Iā€™ve got to go. ---
**Author:** ![Angua](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/8baadc/32.png) [@Angua](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angua)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 11:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/59 "2003-10-28T11:49:04Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Shade \* > **Well, if he canā€™t see that _thatā€™s_ wrong, he _does_ need a cluebat. I mean, even if he thinks youā€™re overreacting it should be pretty fucking obvious that you canā€™t go on like that.** Well, quite. Hence why Iā€™m a lot happier today than I was this time last week. > [@](#): > > **Aside: \A spā€¦ no, wait, what did I do wrong?** I suppose if youā€™re a mathmo yourself, youā€™re allowed to say things like that. šŸ˜‰ > [@](#): > > \*\*Aside 2: \Yay\, functional analysis lecture in 5 minutes, Iā€™ve got to go. \*\* _points and laughs_ šŸ˜ƒ ---
**Author:** ![Tansu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/67e7ee/32.png) [@Tansu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tansu)\ **Post date:** [October 28, 2003, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816/60 "2003-10-28T15:21:30Z")
Sounds to me like youā€™ve done the right thing, Angua my dear. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-single-long/209816.md?page=4)