# I'm so lonesome I could die. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 23, 2012, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103 "2012-06-23T22:47:18Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Frosty\_Camel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/c67d28/32.png) [@Frosty\_Camel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frosty_Camel)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2012, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/41 "2012-06-24T07:16:17Z")
I am who I say I am and what happened to my family is what happened to my family. I had no idea the veracity of jwhat I said would be called into quesion. I hope none of you have to ever feel what it’s like to have the biggest tragedy of your life doubted, even if it is just a bunch of anonymous jerks on the internet. Isn’t the one guiding principle don’t be a jerk? That’s what it said when I signed up. Thank God for real life friends. Even if nobocy I know has ever been through what Im going through, they are there for me. I was certain that out of the hundreds of people on this forum, somebocy here has been through a tragedy like this and could offer help. That is what I was looking for. Nothing else. For anyone who cares, I’m ok for now although I doubt I’m going to sleep tonight. I’ll look elswhere for advice. ---
**Author:** ![Quintas](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/48db29/32.png) [@Quintas](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quintas)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2012, 8:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/42 "2012-06-24T08:57:39Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > Yeah, but it was also part of the chorus of “Heartbreak Hotel”, IIRC. Elvis is lonesome for a specific person. Hank’s is an existential loneliness. ---
**Author:** ![Enkel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/df705f/32.png) [@Enkel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enkel)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2012, 8:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/43 "2012-06-24T08:59:46Z")
Frosty Camel, There’s a reason totally not related to you that people are reacting this way. I hate to say this, but if there were an online obituary or news report, that would settle the matter for them. I personally hope that you are doing okay (or at least as well as could be expected under the circumstances). I can understand if you don’t want to post here again, but I wish you well. ---
**Author:** ![CyclopticXander](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/59ef9b/32.png) [@CyclopticXander](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CyclopticXander)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2012, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/44 "2012-06-24T13:40:02Z")
Stay classy SDMB. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2012, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/45 "2012-06-24T15:29:18Z")
Dear Frosty Camel, I am so very sorry for your loss. I too am new here on SDMB and I’ve found this can be a helpful and enlightening place. I’m also learning how some here can post callously with their guilt-by-association, judgmental responses to your loss. Please don’t lump all of us in together with them, and I hope we didn’t lose you here. My words can barely begin to ease your pain. We don’t know each other yet. I stand with you, as best I can, and in this time of loss will keep you in my prayers. Sincerely, E7T ---
**Author:** ![Acorns.but\_not\_Bacon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3da27b/32.png) [@Acorns.but\_not\_Bacon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acorns.but_not_Bacon)\ **Post date:** [June 24, 2012, 3:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/46 "2012-06-24T15:37:10Z")
Frosty Camel I too am terribly sorry you’re going through so much pain. There are definitely people who care and I really can’t believe the replies you have received in this thread. A few posters here are becoming very oversensitive about so called "past events/“trolls” and this thread does not warrant such replies. ---
**Author:** ![Hbns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Hbns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hbns)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2012, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/47 "2012-06-25T02:15:51Z")
Contacting a professional grief counselor would be an excellent place to start the healing process. ---
**Author:** ![denquixote](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b9bd4f/32.png) [@denquixote](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/denquixote)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2012, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/48 "2012-06-25T03:17:06Z")
The words to Heartbreak Hotel are “I’ll/you’ll/they’ll be so lonely I/you/they could die.” ---
**Author:** ![kanicbird](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/5f8ce5/32.png) [@kanicbird](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kanicbird)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2012, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/49 "2012-06-25T11:50:36Z")
May I suggest don’t think about dieing and don’t ask to die in prayers and the like. I’ve been there and learned that is exactly opposite of what a person really wants. You have a form of living death already, that is what you want to get rid of, not go deeper into it. What I would suggest is asking for, praying for, desiring life instead. For me it was not until I made that realization and started doing that that things turned around for me. Good luck ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2012, 11:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/50 "2012-06-25T11:59:50Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > No, YOU come on. (Besides, what’s up with the Elvis lyrics? You really think a grieving widower would quote The King?) Can you tell us what grieving widowers are supposed to quote? I’m not getting all the hate for this particular thread. Yes, it came quickly after another death related one but so what? Any thread/poster could be a lie here. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2012, 12:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103/51 "2012-06-25T12:08:58Z")
> [@Guinastasia](#): > > No, YOU come on. (Besides, what’s up with the Elvis lyrics? You really think a grieving widower would quote The King?) Why not? Both my mother and my grandmother quoted bolero lyrics. As a friend put it, “all those songs which used to seem maudlin now make perfect sense”. I’m sorry for your loss, **Frosty Camel**. All I can say is, when you find yourself laughing again (and you will), don’t berate yourself for it: your wife and children would want you to live, not spend the rest of your life in the kind of pain you’re suffering now. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/im-so-lonesome-i-could-die/626103.md?page=2)